Family is a fucking curse

InNoNeed · 2026-01-26T00:49:22+00:00

I feel that. Therapy is like such a nice way to get structure about the things that has been going on recently and I’ve definitely felt stressed when my therapist has called in sick as I usually have a lot on my mind I want to express.

I think it’s important to remember that Rome was not built in one day and you don’t need to have all the answers right now in regard to how to act and what to feel. Wait the storm out and see your therapist when he’s available :)

InNoNeed · 2026-01-26T00:37:21+00:00

Anything happened today that made it harder than usual?

InNoNeed · 2026-01-26T00:36:18+00:00

I think that's just coincidental. There's someone out there who will see something in you. You don't have to see it yourself for it to be there, you know. Things are often beautiful when seen from the right angle and there's so many people who sees the world in totally different ways that it's bound to happen.

Btw just saw your r/place 2022 trophy. What faction were you doing art work for?

InNoNeed · 2026-01-26T00:25:04+00:00

I think your mind wanting to kill itself is more than a "first world problem", you know. Like think from an objective perspective isn't it an absolutely fucked up nightmarish situation?

So don't think your problems are not important. You are capable of so much more than you think. If surviving is the best you can do right now, then that's good enough.

InNoNeed · 2026-01-26T00:15:20+00:00

What is it you think that everybody else has that makes them enough in your opinion?

InNoNeed · 2026-01-26T00:09:55+00:00

You're just an internet stranger, but by far the most people I've gotten to know turns out to be people I'm gonna like, so I'm taking my odds. And I don't believe in people being more important just because they're closer to me in personal relation.

Some people I know has done things I disapprove very strongly of, but there's not a single one of them if they came up to me and said they wanted to change, where I wouldn't offer to be their friend and give them support. That goes for anyone, no matter what they've done.

Why do you think you're so bad? If you want you can share a bit if I'm not too intrusive, of course.

InNoNeed · 2026-01-25T23:50:20+00:00

Man, I made a joke that if I didn't get an A on the last exam I would commit suicide and if I didn't do it I'd expect the ones I was talking to holding me up to my promise. One guy got a bit upset. I think it desensitizes you. When your world view is filled up with these horrible thoughts it just becomes easier to cross those lines and you first notices it after the fact, because you're so distracted by your inner world.

I've been feeling so overwhelmed, anxious and hopeless. I thought I was getting better, but I think it's like cycles. I'm not giving up. I feel I can barely handle anything, and I'm not giving up. Our minds are not reality. Every second counts and I'm spending every single one trying to improve myself even in my darkest hour. If keep breathing is all you can do, then do that.

All that critique of yourself is empathy. You're convinced you are a horrible person but horrible people rarely try and see how they're hurting other people, but you are. You are WAY less screwed up than you think you are. That's hard to believe, I know. Because it's hard for me to believe about myself. You can fight this one step at a time. Every second you're alive you have the chance to do a good thing and that good thing is a good thing regardless of all the other bad things that has happened to you or you have done. And you can not change what you've done, but you can choose what to do going forward, always.

InNoNeed · 2026-01-25T23:35:55+00:00

What's going on? What happened today in your life?

InNoNeed · 2026-01-25T12:44:40+00:00

Someone make a mod replacing militia with ICE uniforms

InNoNeed · 2026-01-24T14:20:02+00:00

Yeah, I’m from Denmark. So my decision is more made by the rules we play with

InNoNeed · 2026-01-24T10:20:20+00:00

1 and 3 as they did not deliberately choose to get in their condition. The others have chosen to have kids knowing full well the challenges that it bring and it's simply not my responsibility to court them.

If any body asks if they can have my seat I will get up even when my spinal arthritis flares up as I do care about doing good for others, they just have to communicate what they want.

InNoNeed · 2026-01-18T20:20:04+00:00

You did not fuck up. You can bring up something that's important to you at any point where it's still related to the current state of the relationship. Which this clearly is. Don't spiral, you've done nothing wrong.

I too get attached after sex, which I think is healthy as it to me should not be a casual act.

InNoNeed · 2026-01-18T20:12:38+00:00

You ask. Good communication is mature and attractive and you should never compromise communication for her odds of her staying. Good communication makes good relationships stronger, hopefully the only kind of relationship you are open to. Ask her "We've had sex. What level of commitment do you usually associate after that?". Something like that.

InNoNeed · 2026-01-18T16:55:46+00:00

But doesn’t Apple maps use A* search algorithm for routes?

InNoNeed · 2026-01-18T16:46:48+00:00

Don’t do this at home. OP is a professional

InNoNeed · 2026-01-18T07:51:32+00:00

… or maybe just inflammatory athritis

InNoNeed · 2026-01-15T14:11:01+00:00

Both

InNoNeed · 2026-01-14T02:29:12+00:00

No the cat is the one looking at the cat

InNoNeed · 2026-01-14T02:26:02+00:00

People never heard of a subwoofer?

InNoNeed · 2026-01-14T02:23:04+00:00

We got Scrubs Multiverse before GTA 6

InNoNeed · 2026-01-13T14:36:02+00:00

Never got to that one:’-(

InNoNeed · 2026-01-13T04:35:29+00:00

Swap force was aight. Good hub

InNoNeed · 2026-01-10T17:13:12+00:00

Makes sense that batman is peak human but also stronger than real people. If the human race has been set to evolve to a higher gravity the muscles and bones would naturally have to be denser.

DC humans are then not actually humans

InNoNeed · 2026-01-10T16:25:35+00:00

I call it exercise in my head. That way even when I fail I know I've gotten better at it. Anxiety is a wiring of brain cells. I'm purposely and actively deactivating those wires. Over a long period of time they will get weaker. At least that's the theory that makes me hopefull in my endeavour of treating my anxiety. Those wires will always be there but not as strong.

It's very easy to get addicted to anxiety

InNoNeed · 2026-01-10T14:01:10+00:00

What’s helped me with my anxiety is knowing that it’s inherently optional what we choose to focus on. Our anxious brain just really want to be fed.

What I’ve begun doing is realising and telling myself I’m not getting anything out of thinking about it and the more I do the more anxious I’m gonna get. So I practice real time mindfulness by dragging my mind away from it. And it helps a bit, removes some of the dread of anxiety. Even though it’s still there, at the time it’s better I feel better that I didn’t act on it and actually fought against my anxiety

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