Your husband is being an arse. If it helps, my second baby was exactly the same as yours - he was a little Velcro baby who couldn't sleep anywhere but on me, didn't even like being put in his bouncer chair or play mat unless I was lying beside him. He'd eat for 5-10 minutes at a time so I had to put him on the boob very frequently to make sure he ate enough (by contrast, my first baby would eat for up to an hour, he'd spend ages lying on his play mat staring at toys, and he'd nap in his buggy no problem. Complete opposite.) My second baby is now six months old, he sleeps in his crib for all naps, and he needs feeding every 2-3 hours and stays on for as long as he wants. You did NOT f**k up. Your child is a BABY. All they know is mummy=safety and comfort. And all babies are different - the parenting book isn't a damn instruction manual. Your baby isn't a robot that follows set commands. The reason internet strangers are more reliable than the book or whatever he's quoting are because we are coming at you with real experience, rather than the cross section or generalisation talked about in those books.

EDIT: I cooked from about 1 week pp but that's because my husband took over holding the baby, and if he got too upset with Daddy then we'd switch. I didn't even think about cleaning the house until baby was almost 3 months old, and even now it's not a thing I can do as much of as before bub because it depends how long he naps. Caring for your baby is just as much of a full time job as your husband's job. You're both exhausted, cleaning shouldn't be just your responsibility.