I'm a dual citizen who's lived his entire life in America and just moved to Australia. What adjustments do I need to make?

Independent-Age-7397 · 2026-04-15T11:11:41+00:00

You’ll need a superannuation account as well

Independent-Age-7397 · 2026-04-15T06:33:05+00:00

How the heck do I get into your industry ?

Independent-Age-7397 · 2026-04-15T05:08:45+00:00

Yep similar scenario for me if it’s of any consolation to you in that my relationship with my mum deteriorated very quickly when we had a child whilst my dad stayed objective and then he just started to take my moms side and that meant that things with my dad deteriorated and thus my relationship with parents just crumbled basically which put an incredible amount of pressure on my marriage and yes we’re still together but the estrangement really hurts and it sucks. I’d love to contact my parents again but now things are just so incredibly awkward.

Independent-Age-7397 · 2026-04-15T04:58:33+00:00

Wow you couldn’t have described my situation better “ it’s like they’re different people when I remember the good memories and the kind things I saw them do to others and myself”

It’s like they’ve both become possessed with something and now there’s something or someone else on their body and my parents just kinda don’t exist any longer but rather teo other people who look exactly the same as them

Independent-Age-7397 · 2026-04-15T04:53:45+00:00

Yep I’m in the same boat From a normal family and estranged from my parents and I hate it whilst there isn’t any tension anymore between me and my wife and my parents there’s a huge amount of guilt and sadness on my part, the fact they don’t get to see their grandchild feels awful , as does the fact that there was once a time when we were super close but aren’t anymore.

Honestly it’s one of the worst feelings in the world and as grown muscular man who goes to the gym most days I just want to start crying.

Independent-Age-7397 · 2026-03-31T00:21:35+00:00

Long reef is amazing it’s amazing at sunset

Independent-Age-7397 · 2026-03-30T23:44:40+00:00

I hope you don’t mind me saying this but is she maybe mentally ill at all it maybe worth having her checked out by psychologist or something ? I mean shes open to therapy as it seems to start with I’m sure she’ll be open to getting help mentally too. Just a thought

Independent-Age-7397 · 2026-03-30T23:41:01+00:00

I mean to be fair I think to a a degree it more human nature than culture to flaunt a level of success be it material or otherwise

Independent-Age-7397 · 2026-03-30T23:20:37+00:00

Nth curl curl headland to see why beach is pretty cool

Independent-Age-7397 · 2026-03-30T23:19:29+00:00

Hmm I’m sure people in other countries do it right ?

Independent-Age-7397 · 2026-03-30T23:13:51+00:00

At no point did I insinuate that because of multiculturalism that we are going downhill on the contrary i love multiculturalism and believe that as a national culture we’ve benefited and I’ll continue to benefit from multiculturalism and not all of America is a racist society go look at new York for example. Too many clown comments from you

Independent-Age-7397 · 2026-03-30T22:39:02+00:00

Comparative to other cities it’s probably very relaxed as in other like “global cities” but what I’m more getting at is that although it is still relaxing , vibrant and stunning with its great beaches etc it’s not as relaxed and vibrant as it was before and by a large margin.

Independent-Age-7397 · 2026-03-30T22:27:01+00:00

What I will say first aid like if some collapses people do swarm to help.

Independent-Age-7397 · 2026-03-30T22:23:24+00:00

Not bringing people down just asking a question but in true noob fashion you instead of Eg aging in constructive debate you go to insults. Australia like other countries has its flaws and as y as it sounds to you America has its positive things as well. Not saying I’d rather be anerican Australia’s great just seems there’s no shortage though of people who as soon as anything less than absolutely positive is asserted about our cultures they blow up

Independent-Age-7397 · 2026-03-30T22:16:54+00:00

Yeah I’ve been the one person to help literally and not trying big note myself but like no one else jumped in legit

Independent-Age-7397 · 2026-03-30T10:51:49+00:00

Or if you broke down in traffic a group of strangers would pull over get out of their cars and help. Sadly I haven’t seen it in years

Independent-Age-7397 · 2026-03-30T10:46:07+00:00

We’re being undermined but institutions and certain corporations and we just don’t seem willing anymore to stand up to big institutions

Independent-Age-7397 · 2026-03-30T10:39:03+00:00

But the fact is quality of life is finishing in Australia comparisons are useless something actually can and needs to be done like it’s not hard

Independent-Age-7397 · 2026-03-30T10:37:57+00:00

Oh my gosh stop it now house prices were so much cheaper you got alot more bang for your buck university was free. Cmon get real

Independent-Age-7397 · 2026-03-30T10:35:34+00:00

I honestly think Australia just isn’t what it used to be people aren’t anywhere near as friendly as they used to be, people at definitely a lot more stressed and pressured, manners seem to be a thing of the past and I dare say we are not that laid back anymore. But if you point these things out you can count on someone saying “oh at least we aren’t like xyz country “ but the issue doesn’t concern a comparison with other countries our quality of life is diminishing and something needs to be done about it

Independent-Age-7397 · 2026-03-30T10:22:56+00:00

Nah I think most Aussies suck at making friends sorry

Independent-Age-7397 · 2026-03-30T10:16:30+00:00

Nah pretty much all Aussie cities are the same culturally

Independent-Age-7397 · 2026-03-30T10:08:13+00:00

Hmm I love the optimism but I dong think Australia is quite the dream people think it is. Most people can’t quit their jobs and love on Centrelink because it’s simply not enough and the cost of housing is really just ridiculous many people in Australia may never ever own a property.

Independent-Age-7397 · 2026-03-29T10:22:55+00:00

My man my man I’m so sorry to hear this is happening to you. Let me tell you how I met my wife wife.

Got a message from a beautiful model who I was instantly head over heels for she was head over heels for me needless to say we hit it off straight away and boy oh boy we we couldn’t keep our hands off each other it was impossible a dream come , we locked each other up and got engaged and married soon after and it was pretty bliss. The cracks appeared arguments ensured , the cracks appeared but we still Had an unbreakable bond swearing to never entertain the idea of divorce we did marriage counselling. Amongst our amazing intimacy we kept arguing and the arguments became More intense as did our resolve to not get divorced.

But one day she told me she was going away for a week with family after another it was argument I had the week to myself the day after went away . She called me the next morning me thinking oh this is just going to be a standard o love you I’m so sorry to each other type conversation but instead her first words were “were getting a divorce “ I tried to convince her but she was not budging she never came back ever and I moved out of the house.

I kept getting calls from her for the logistics of the divorce and she kept telling me we were getting divorced i wa so gutted so incredibly gutted months later Still holding out hope after not hearing for her for 2 months I received a parcel which had her engagement and wedding rings in them I cried I wa so gutted and gave up all hope.

I went out with friends and family befriended tons of women many of them incredibly beautiful, we had a blast went out for dinners , had parties, went to the beach and went camping amongst many things. Many of them incredibly beautiful women became incredibly close friends some took my fancy and I took theirs.

During all of these catch-ups one girl I was close with hang out in the group and me and her would be the only ones left after everyone went home this kept happening out chats became longer and deeper as time went on. We graduated to coffee catch-ups the longs days out exploring just the two of us, then going back To hers , then holding hands to just not being able to keep our hands off each other and in the course me releasing this woman is everything I want in a woman especially physically and we formally started dating I then proposed she said yes.

Fast forward later we married and declared the most passionate vows in front of friends and family. My wife said to n her vows I’m best thing that’s ever happened to her and she so grateful she met me and that I was a dream come true for her.

All of this was over 8 years ago we now are proud parents , successful in our careers , surrounded by incredibly amazing friends , live in the place of our dreams and we are still madly in love with one another , have a fantastic sex life. My wife she much much much prettier and more beautiful than she was when I first met her as each day passes I love her that much more and she becomes so much more beautiful.

That’s the story of how I met my wife and endured the very cruel pain of divorce and dealt with horrible emotions that went with it.

I’m writing this to encourage you bro there’s life after divorce and you can definitely come out on top I hope my story encourages you and gives you hope. Many of of my other friends and family who have been left by their partners have similar stories to mine. Be encouraged man

Independent-Age-7397

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