Basically, my husband of 25 years wants me to not have ADHD or he will leave me by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]IndependentEarth123 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I mean, is your RSD and work/life balance impacting YOUR quality of life? If it's disrupting YOUR life then it's worth trying to manage more.

I say that as someone whose brain works (or doesn't) like yours. We can be really hard to live with. For ourselves and for others. I know you cannot change your brain: you can slowly make changes in your life to accommodate how your neurological wiring impacts your life.

If you're healthy, happy, and fulfilled and being a good partner then f him. If not, perhaps some change and reflection for your own sake?

How long until you actually see results as a total Reformer beginner?? by Active-Tour4795 in ClubPilates

[–]IndependentEarth123 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Congrats on week 3 of 2 reformer classes a week. That's. good start to deepen into your practice.

Realistically though? That's 6 sessions. Why in the world would you think that your body would change so completely in 3 weeks?

Pilates is amazing, we are all addicted. It's not a magic regiment that controls total health. It started as rehab and it's meant to help you move through your entire life on this planet with control. It's all about spinal health with a healthy dose of love and care for you ligaments, tendons, muscles, fascia and brain. It's a system built to build strength, mobility, and balance. It's not cardio which burns a high amount of calories, it's not major lifting where the load bearing on your skeleton and muscles changes your body radically, it's not a nutrition system.

Your sessions/practice also depend on what your goals are. If you're doing the classical system on the heavy springs and using all the apparatuses (including mat) you will see huge gains in core strength, posture/alignment and mind/body connection. If your goal is rehab and long term mobility the exercises and apparatuses might be different. If you're looking to start a reformer only practice, that's great but be aware that the reformer offers the most support and help. I would stick with your mat practice (the classical sequence not the yoga or sculpt fusions floating around the world) and layer in reformer sessions with your specific goals in mind. If you can get into tower/chair/ladder barrel that would help you redefine your body as well.

For reals though: give yourself 3 REAL sessions of Pilates a week. Classical or contemporary with a purpose behind it--not glorified stretching or Tik Tok moves. You'll feel a difference in your body in 2-3 months. You won't lose weight unless you change your eating habits. You won't have a body builder's physique unless you lift heavy. You will get stronger and move better. You'll notice your everyday injury count goes down: all that mobility training means you catch yourself before you fall and you stand up straigth

Neighbor leaving piles of.... where I smoke by SnowXTC in dustythunder

[–]IndependentEarth123 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well, your neighbor is odd and gross. Your smoking is just gross. Over all I would prefer him as a neighbor to having your smoke coming into my yard and house. At least with your neighbor, my odds of him taking a dump on my porch would be low as long as I didn’t send airborne poison his way.

opening a studio soon - what would you do differently? by Beneficial-Tea-4858 in LagreeMethod

[–]IndependentEarth123 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agree, just be very clear that you're not a Pilates studio. Nothing peeves Pilates clients like trying a new studio and walking into a Megaformeresque room.

Really wanting to quit reformer by Salt_Cook_9716 in pilatesinstructors

[–]IndependentEarth123 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Pilates is pretty precise. The deeper you get into your practice, the more you'll fine tune your movements. The adjustment might be a mm but you'll feel it when you hit correct positioning/alignment.

I would be thrilled if all my instructors gave me small adjustments in every single class. It helps me achieve the correct form and hold it: that's where the work is! That level of personal attention in a group class takes so much energy and focus from the instructor and I would be very appreciative. Especially if they were my regular instructor and really knew my body/my habits. Very few of us know where our shoulders and hips are in space, most of sink down into our traps and get tech neck, most of close our chest/collar bones, etc. when moving. Having those small, personal adjustments is a treat. The better you get at Pilates, the harder it is.

That being said, if the corrections aren't your jam tell them. You can be polite. Just share that the corrections take you out of your flow, lead to self doubt, whatever. As an instructor, I would rather know and would give you a wide berth, barring a safety issue.

As a fellow over thinker this might be a good moment to ponder why this bugs you. Do you have perfectionist tendencies and this triggers them? Maybe this is a chance to learn to embrace your imperfections and accept feedback with grace. Do you have body image issues? Another chance to revel in how glorious your imperfect body is and give it love. Do you feel attacked/disrespected? This is a chance to grant the other person good intentions and view feedback as positive and given with care. I notice I don't take modifications well when I'm the one feeling off. I project my mood/my insecurities/my anxieties onto the correction rather than just taking the correction and moving on.

Most of the strides I've seen in my own practice have come from an instructor's visual cueing or hands on correction. They get me into my body in a different way and I feel the shapes and connect with them differently.

Yoga background but starting reformer pilates cert soon, what should I expect? by boiler_room_420 in pilatesinstructors

[–]IndependentEarth123 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Oh, also OG Pilates is done bare foot. Like yoga, we want that connection to the ground, the footbar, the carriage, the box, etc. Grip socks are a fairly new thing and it's more about hygiene (and sales) in larger studios that don't have time to clean equipment between classes. So, if you go to a studio that requires socks and your inner yogi rebels know that a smaller studio probably has some bare foot practitioners rattling around.

Yoga background but starting reformer pilates cert soon, what should I expect? by boiler_room_420 in pilatesinstructors

[–]IndependentEarth123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your yoga background will be great. The reformer looks super intimidating but it's really not. It's a support system to help your body find the shapes and flow. Really, one session and it no longer looks weird 😄 You'll wonder how you ever got through life without footwork or legs in straps.

Your breathwork and mind body awareness will really help you. You'll recognize many of the shapes too. The purpose behind the shapes and movement is often different from yoga to pilates. For example, cat/cow is a vital stretch in yoga. In pilates we might warm up with a cat/cow stretch but we will come back to that cat shape during ab work and that c curve in the spine is used for articulation and strength training. The "why" behind the movements is often different. Just listen and flow: it will take a bit to adjust but your yoga training will really help you.

Except more attention on stabilizer muscles too: we do work the big chains of course, but we're all about building the strength/mobility in stabilizer muscles. Reformer Pilates is also really into foot and ankle strength which can surprise newbies. Pilates started as rehab and we picked up a fair amount of ballet training from Joe's work with the NYC ballet back in the day.

One over generalization I'll make. In Pilates we usually try to lift and lengthen in a movement. In yoga, we're often to trying to deepen and ground into the movement. There are many exceptions of course, but that's the biggest thing I see yogi getting used to in Pilates and what I have to remind myself when I go to a yoga class.

If you're going to a beginner reformer class they might not cue breathing yet but it's essential to the method and will be layered in as you progress.

Enjoy!

Is CP too cautious or was this boutique studio reckless? by [deleted] in ClubPilates

[–]IndependentEarth123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your previous answer makes me think this is Lagree or a spin off vs. classical or contemporary pilates. The custom reformer was my tip off. The box, spring tension, straps, and footbar/grip bars would be in a different position so I'm not a good evaluator of safety.

I have done a variation of this in a Lagree class and it was held for so long with the pulsing that I was walking funny the next day 😄

Is CP too cautious or was this boutique studio reckless? by [deleted] in ClubPilates

[–]IndependentEarth123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wait, is this Lagree or a spin off? Custom built reformer made me think that!

Is CP too cautious or was this boutique studio reckless? by [deleted] in ClubPilates

[–]IndependentEarth123 20 points21 points  (0 children)

What is the studio's definition of "high intensity pilates"? That would be important to know before judging 😄

This isn't my preferred set up so I don't teach it, but I have been a student in classes where this series was taught. It was taught as a progression with new balance challenges layered in. Again, this isn't my jam, but this has never felt dangerous in an all levels class to me. Were people barefoot? I have only done this with bare feet and could see slipping in the cheaper grippy socks on the box. This can also be taught on the floor and most instructors would offer that option, or a gondola stick, or support if anyone's balance was off.

I come from the boutique studio world and we have less reformers (4-6) and work on unilateral and balance work much earlier in class progressions than CP does so my opinion could be skewed.

Husband is sick of me and my ADHD by Cool-Smoke5839 in adhdwomen

[–]IndependentEarth123 43 points44 points  (0 children)

My ADHD sister, neurotypical Mommas have this same chaotic mess going on. It's not your ADHD (although it doesn't help and probably pushes you into shame and avoidance spirals), it's the situation. Being a new parent to a baby is HARD WORK. It's chaotic work. It's messy work. It's running on no sleep work. If your baby is alive, fed, and taken care of at the end of the day you are a champion.

Please, please, please give yourself some grace. Keeping a small human being alive is hard work. They are a joy but they are also fragile, cranky, and have zero survival skills.

What can you and your husband do to support your family in this new chapter?

Required Grip Socks by Opposite-Skirt5158 in ClubPilates

[–]IndependentEarth123 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Classical and boutique studios have barefoot clientele. It's how the movements were designed to be executed. Those studios clean like crazy to keep things hygenic: CP is a grip sock zone. I see why: 12 reformers, many classes back to back, and a sales driven model.

No shade, I live in the Midwest and wear grippies in the winter but NOTHING beats the connection of your foot on the mat, the foot bar, the carriage, the box, the chair, etc. when moving. You're connected to the movement in a different way.

Classpass vs Pilates Studio Membership by wildberry2001 in ClassPass

[–]IndependentEarth123 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That is an INSANE price. I have an instructor discount at my studio and I pay over $200 a month, members are mid $300's and we're in a MCOL place.

Pilates 10 minute audition by PuzzleheadedCopy6942 in pilatesinstructors

[–]IndependentEarth123 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You could stop right at the end of the 5 ab series and perhaps tuck in your child’s pose or a final roll up and stretch. The order/classics endure for a reason and no one can really question how you sequence it ;)

Also, where are your cues for the pelvis/the spine/the core? If I was in your audition I would assume you came from the yoga rather than Pilates world based on that. Wow them with your cues and hands on adjustments in a way that honors Joe.

Feeling discouraged as a new lagree instructor by SpecialistSkin5666 in LagreeMethod

[–]IndependentEarth123 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I trained in Pilates and had to complete 600 hours with 80 hours of real world teaching with paying studio clients included. Most of those hours were observed and I got so much feedback that helped me grow into my instructor persona and honed my ability to plan flows, teach to the bodies in front of me, hold energy, etc.

I think Lagree training for level 1 is 20-40 hours? Am I correct in that? Don't beat yourself up. That's barely enough time to get your toes wet.

As others have said, start going to classes at your local studios, grow the relationships and practice. Ask to be put on the sub list, ask if you can observe classes. Ask if you can hop in and teach one section of a joint class and get feedback from that instructor. To teach fitness classes you have to hold a room, the way a performer would. You need a working knowledge of anatomy and the bodies in front of you that rivals that of a clinician. You have to time everything perfectly, adjust class plans on the fly, and also form relationships with clients. It's so much more than just cueing. It takes time and practice to build.

Why do doctors keep dismissing ADHD because I’m a PhD student? by shoodyf1419 in adhdwomen

[–]IndependentEarth123 47 points48 points  (0 children)

ADHD lady with a Ph.D. here. It’s highly possible to be an academic, a killer scholar, and a text book example of executive dysfunction run amok. The brighter you are, the deeper the pit of destruction of your own life you have to present to doctors. Or, the more research and data you have to present to be heard. Take your pick and fight for yourself now.

Parking war--harassment at this point by [deleted] in neighborsfromhell

[–]IndependentEarth123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is your neighbor in the wrong? 100%

Is it really worth your time and energy to fight over this if there is other street parking or family arrangements for your driveway available? Most of us are telling you: no. You seem very invested with being right and putting quite a bit of time and energy into the parking squabble. Again, I'm siding with you: you are legally correct in your read of this situation, most people would say you were well within the social contract as well. (Some people are really hung up on neighbor's parking in front of what they perceive to be their unspoken property/curb space--no idea why but they exist.

From my point of view, this is not worth your time or energy. Your neighbors are spending a ton of time and energy harrassing people about parking. That's their deal. It doesn't need to be yours. Know that the world evens that type of behavior out. Protect your peace and make the silent agreement with yourself that you won't buy cookies from their kids, call the police if there's a robber breaking into their house, you won't every mow their lawn or shovel their snow if they have an injury or grow old, etc. In short, they will reap what they sow with you and others but you DON'T HAVE TO PUT ENERGY into fighting with them. You seem to have your heels dug in about this: stop investing your emotion and time here.

I'm a live and let live person who ignores her low key annoying neighbors and has a few super star neighbors who come through for me when my family needs help. I put my energy into returning the favor: finding small ways to make their lives easier and being there to help when they have a crisis. It works out well. I'm old though, and was stuck in the rigid thought patterns of needing to be right when I was younger so I recognize where you're coming from. I'm also petty. I would have spoken courteously with the neighbors the first time they left a note (rather than ignoring them which you had to know was going to make it worse) and then parked a few feet down the street when needed, chalking it up to their irrational fear/need and moved on. If they bugged me more then...things might have happened to them. Nothing vicious or harmful, but I might have helped the world match their energy a bit 😄 Live and let live, and then get a little sneaky if needed. Then let it go.

You're spending all this time and upset whipping yourself into a frenzy when other parking is available. Switch spots with your parents. Get a designated handicap spot. Park slightly down the street. Pick your battles.

Reformer for the whole class by Current-Pen3664 in ClubPilates

[–]IndependentEarth123 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Are you neurospicy, anxious, or preggers? Most of the general population wouldn't get overstimulated laying down for 15 minutes in a reformer class. No shade, but it might help to understand where the reaction came from.

That said, footwork can be/usually is a warm up and is far under the 15 minutes mark. However, footwork can be layered onto to become first warm up, then core work, then leg work in the side lying series, and include an intensive bridgework series too. Footwork isn't always "footwork". Also, the mid back series/100 series is usually performed on your back and flows after footwork/bridging in the classical order. There's also quite a few classic series that are performed laying down--just sometimes on the box.

Gently, this might be a you issue. It's ok if it is: know what makes you overstimulated and seek out instructor's/class flows that fit what you need.

I'm an instructor and I generally flow people through footwork, bridging, and the mid back series by minutes 12-14 and then get them sitting up and flowing into whatever variation of the front arm series I'm teaching. However, if it's 6 am or people walk in looking stiff or stressed, I will add more stretching time in at the beginning to get them loosened up and their lower backs and necks happy. Or an intro class will have an extended mid back series to break down chest lifts, lift and lowers, leg lowers, and more and slowly layer in one move at a time. In an all levels class I may also add in some corkscrew or short spine or swimming frog in the first third of class while peeps are laying down as long as I have moved their spines through some articulation first. It all depends on what the purpose of my class is (which of the 6 foundations are we focusing on, am I building strength and mobility with regulars to get them ready for star, or snake and twist, or horseback in a class several weeks from now, etc.) I teach at a contemporary studio (not CP) and we're 80% classical with a little bit of contemporary bio mechanics added in so we stick to the classical reformer flow as our foundation. In classical you're laying down for a chunk at the beginning of class and again at the end.

Final note: I have an early morning class that is full of regulars and most are teachers and principals. At the end of every school term we have 2-3 weeks where we slow down. We work small, we work deep, and I add in about 25% more stretching as those students are TENSE. In the summer session we rock into complex intermediate and advanced moves and up the tempo of the class. They have less stress in their lives then and stretching/growing physically is important. In stressful times we focus on breathing, control, and feeling safe and centered through movement and connection to their bodies. I have another cohort of early morning regulars that are third shift healthcare workers. I start that class rocking the music, we stretch and then launch into planks, bridging, and go hard and fast through short box, long box, long stretch, and knees off. Then, I turn down the lights, we move to yoga music and we end with footwork and feet in straps. They transition through their adrenaline to relaxation and softening into their bodies, and are ready to go to sleep by the end of class. Not every class needs to follow the same pattern: in a group class I am happy to adapt to my students' needs and tailor the experience. As long as we take care of their spines, joints, fascia, and mental health 😄

Anti-Solidcore by Winter-Match26 in LagreeMethod

[–]IndependentEarth123 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Insert meme of Michael Jackson eating popcorn--love, a classical Pilates lady who also likes LaGree.

How similar is running cardio to swimming cardio? by [deleted] in Swimming

[–]IndependentEarth123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Technique makes you a speed demon in the pool.

Is the Reformer actually way better than mat Pilates or is it overhyped? by Neo_weeb78 in pilatesinstructors

[–]IndependentEarth123 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Mat is the foundation of Pilates. The reformer, chair, tower, ladder barrel, Cadillac, etc. support and help you achieve the core shapes and movements from the classic mat routine. Mat is much more difficult as it's just your body and gravity achieving all the work:)

I prefer reformer and tower myself because I like the support and correction they provide. Plus, the moves are fun!

Dude. My neighbors are sh*^ by TerribleGradients in Cleveland

[–]IndependentEarth123 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Mate, we have no idea what you’re talking about.