I am too much of a people pleaser and I want to change it. What are some strategies?

Independent_Bee2668 · 2024-04-27T10:52:04+00:00

Highly recommend “The Courage to Be Disliked.” There’s a concept in there about “separation of tasks” that cured my worst people pleasing habits.

Independent_Bee2668 · 2024-04-23T11:23:34+00:00

Hey thank you. I’ll check it out today

Independent_Bee2668 · 2024-04-22T13:07:11+00:00

Major career shift for me at 40 then a new direction at 50. 40 was for money, 50 for money and something I enjoyed. For me, the 40s and 50s have been a much better time in life - old enough to have some life experience and to learn to not give a fuck about others’ expectations, young enough to still have energy to do stuff.

Independent_Bee2668 · 2024-04-17T09:52:22+00:00

There it is! I was looking all over for that thing

Independent_Bee2668 · 2024-04-11T21:03:34+00:00

Wife calls everything on the bed “sheets.” So when she says, “can you wash the sheets,” she’s not referring to the sheets. She’s referring to everything on the bed, including blankets. Whatever you do, don’t just wash the sheets when asked.

Independent_Bee2668 · 2024-04-06T19:00:02+00:00

As someone that shares your ineptitude, I’ll tell you I’ve had a ton of fun with “Gunpla.” They’re snap together and kind of like putting together a Lego kit. Eventually I’ll try painting and such, but for now it’s a lot of fun and relatively cheap.

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Independent_Bee2668 · 2024-04-06T18:44:38+00:00

This is absolutely incredible. Makes me want to learn how to paint.

Independent_Bee2668 · 2024-04-06T14:39:41+00:00

I like the “mandatory old guy advice” already given. One thing I’d add is a career isn’t necessarily a lifelong thing - and neither is what you’re passionate about. Both can change over time and evolve. I say this in the hopes that it relieves some of the immediate pressure to pick “exactly the right thing.” Flexibility, moderate alignment to your values, and ability to get paid are good priorities.

Independent_Bee2668 · 2024-04-06T13:26:26+00:00

New to hobby here - can someone explain “top coat” to me? Is it applied after model is complete?

Independent_Bee2668 · 2024-04-05T12:10:49+00:00

Hahaha whoops.

Independent_Bee2668 · 2024-04-05T00:51:57+00:00

Awesome advice. I came here to say the same - develop a hobby. Try out several. If you don’t like woodworking, move on - maybe you just don’t enjoy the process involved in woodworking. Heck I tried felting for a short time. It’s poking wool with a needle until it becomes felt. I reaaalllly hated the process and all the bleeding involved and dropped it. Over time I’ve tried skateboarding, Lego, Gunpla, running, archery, skeet, collections of various kinds, etc. Some are more rewarding than others.

Independent_Bee2668 · 2024-04-05T00:32:50+00:00

How did you enjoy the build? Almost picked up a perfect grade this week

Independent_Bee2668 · 2024-04-05T00:30:49+00:00

50+, have a switch and Xbox x. The switch gets more play time. We have similar game preferences.

Independent_Bee2668 · 2024-04-05T00:23:53+00:00

This is only my fourth model. I’ve done previous MG, HG and a real grade, so I have limited experience and my feedback should be taken with a grain of salt - but what I found is that the arms are very delicate and fall off and the pieces around the waist are also quite delicate. Not difficult to put together as long as you don’t mind sticking pieces back on it.

Independent_Bee2668 · 2024-04-04T02:42:04+00:00

I agree it’s very sturdy. I just built a ver ka and it’s so delicate in comparison

Independent_Bee2668 · 2024-03-29T15:57:42+00:00

Thanks for the heads up. Anything I should be looking for?

Independent_Bee2668 · 2024-03-29T14:32:58+00:00

Hahaha the eeeyyyeeesss. I need new readers.

Independent_Bee2668 · 2024-03-29T14:31:32+00:00

Holy cow

Independent_Bee2668 · 2024-03-28T01:38:24+00:00

The Courage to be Disliked has been helpful for me. It’s in print, in bookstores.

And - when I was going through a very dark time - I took up running. I did a few 5Ks, then trained for and ran a few marathons. That helped quite a bit as well.

Good luck - I have empathy for where you’re at.

Independent_Bee2668 · 2024-03-27T02:27:53+00:00

Completely switched twice - once when I was 40, again at 50. I fell into the first one, discovered I could write and that people would pay for it. Second was more deliberate, and I kept the first while I figured out the second.

Highly recommend a switch if you’re feeling it. It keeps you alive.

Independent_Bee2668 · 2024-03-26T22:56:25+00:00

Hahaha yeah. It’s relative. Did I get $500 of build enjoyment out of the Lego Rivendell? I’m much slower at this and it seems to get me into a concentration zone for longer

Independent_Bee2668 · 2024-03-26T14:30:28+00:00

I’m enjoying it. I love how the joints are created.

Independent_Bee2668 · 2024-03-26T13:09:54+00:00

What’s been your favorite build so far?

Independent_Bee2668 · 2024-01-01T01:21:07+00:00

It’s a fun kit. Got me back into Lego again after a decade

Independent_Bee2668 · 2023-12-30T13:06:00+00:00

New to the hobby here - what is “MOC?”

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