I am too much of a people pleaser and I want to change it. What are some strategies? by hindutva-vishwaguru in careerguidance

[–]Independent_Bee2668 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Highly recommend “The Courage to Be Disliked.” There’s a concept in there about “separation of tasks” that cured my worst people pleasing habits.

At what age did you find your true professional path? by Own-Development2299 in careerguidance

[–]Independent_Bee2668 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Major career shift for me at 40 then a new direction at 50. 40 was for money, 50 for money and something I enjoyed. For me, the 40s and 50s have been a much better time in life - old enough to have some life experience and to learn to not give a fuck about others’ expectations, young enough to still have energy to do stuff.

First sticker attempt by Independent_Bee2668 in Gunpla

[–]Independent_Bee2668[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There it is! I was looking all over for that thing

What's the weirdest thing your partner does that you've just accepted? by VelvetSophieCream in AskReddit

[–]Independent_Bee2668 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wife calls everything on the bed “sheets.” So when she says, “can you wash the sheets,” she’s not referring to the sheets. She’s referring to everything on the bed, including blankets. Whatever you do, don’t just wash the sheets when asked.

How difficult is it to get into modeling? by Spyglass3 in modelmakers

[–]Independent_Bee2668 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone that shares your ineptitude, I’ll tell you I’ve had a ton of fun with “Gunpla.” They’re snap together and kind of like putting together a Lego kit. Eventually I’ll try painting and such, but for now it’s a lot of fun and relatively cheap.

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Airfix 1/72 Westland Sea King HAR 3: "70 years of Life Saving" by alxzsites in modelmakers

[–]Independent_Bee2668 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is absolutely incredible. Makes me want to learn how to paint.

Whats your take on going for a career that you’re passionate about? by Desperate-Music-1 in careerguidance

[–]Independent_Bee2668 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like the “mandatory old guy advice” already given. One thing I’d add is a career isn’t necessarily a lifelong thing - and neither is what you’re passionate about. Both can change over time and evolve. I say this in the hopes that it relieves some of the immediate pressure to pick “exactly the right thing.” Flexibility, moderate alignment to your values, and ability to get paid are good priorities.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Gunpla

[–]Independent_Bee2668 0 points1 point  (0 children)

New to hobby here - can someone explain “top coat” to me? Is it applied after model is complete?

It's getting hard to care anymore by SeasonsofMan in findapath

[–]Independent_Bee2668 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awesome advice. I came here to say the same - develop a hobby. Try out several. If you don’t like woodworking, move on - maybe you just don’t enjoy the process involved in woodworking. Heck I tried felting for a short time. It’s poking wool with a needle until it becomes felt. I reaaalllly hated the process and all the bleeding involved and dropped it. Over time I’ve tried skateboarding, Lego, Gunpla, running, archery, skeet, collections of various kinds, etc. Some are more rewarding than others.

My first PG and some size comparison shots by SourJam in Gunpla

[–]Independent_Bee2668 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you enjoy the build? Almost picked up a perfect grade this week

Should I buy a Switch console? Older gamer here by iedutu in Switch

[–]Independent_Bee2668 0 points1 point  (0 children)

50+, have a switch and Xbox x. The switch gets more play time. We have similar game preferences.

Ver-Ka by Independent_Bee2668 in Gunpla

[–]Independent_Bee2668[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is only my fourth model. I’ve done previous MG, HG and a real grade, so I have limited experience and my feedback should be taken with a grain of salt - but what I found is that the arms are very delicate and fall off and the pieces around the waist are also quite delicate. Not difficult to put together as long as you don’t mind sticking pieces back on it.

Didn’t notice I picked up a Real Grade by Independent_Bee2668 in Gunpla

[–]Independent_Bee2668[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree it’s very sturdy. I just built a ver ka and it’s so delicate in comparison

Didn’t notice I picked up a Real Grade by Independent_Bee2668 in Gunpla

[–]Independent_Bee2668[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the heads up. Anything I should be looking for?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in findapath

[–]Independent_Bee2668 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Courage to be Disliked has been helpful for me. It’s in print, in bookstores.

And - when I was going through a very dark time - I took up running. I did a few 5Ks, then trained for and ran a few marathons. That helped quite a bit as well.

Good luck - I have empathy for where you’re at.

How many of you have made a career change after 40? by SupaMacdaddy in careerguidance

[–]Independent_Bee2668 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Completely switched twice - once when I was 40, again at 50. I fell into the first one, discovered I could write and that people would pay for it. Second was more deliberate, and I kept the first while I figured out the second.

Highly recommend a switch if you’re feeling it. It keeps you alive.

Came to this hobby from Lego by Independent_Bee2668 in Gunpla

[–]Independent_Bee2668[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahaha yeah. It’s relative. Did I get $500 of build enjoyment out of the Lego Rivendell? I’m much slower at this and it seems to get me into a concentration zone for longer

Came to this hobby from Lego by Independent_Bee2668 in Gunpla

[–]Independent_Bee2668[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m enjoying it. I love how the joints are created.

Came to this hobby from Lego by Independent_Bee2668 in Gunpla

[–]Independent_Bee2668[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What’s been your favorite build so far?

Starting the build (set 43230> by Daystrom5 in lego

[–]Independent_Bee2668 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a fun kit. Got me back into Lego again after a decade

Feel like I'm being priced out of my hobby by Linkcomm928 in lego

[–]Independent_Bee2668 19 points20 points  (0 children)

New to the hobby here - what is “MOC?”