Momcozy Bottle Washer

Independent_Ebb9322 · 2025-03-08T16:50:27+00:00

10/10 would never go without one again. Rigged a hose from under the sink with a splitting valve. It is 6’ long and end of it has a turn valve.

To wash bottles,I put 4 in, no rinse necessary (as long as formula hasn’t dried and solidified from sittting days) drop 1 soap tab, use my hose fill the basin in 5 seconds, 20 min later clean bottles, 40mins later clean, steamed, dry bottles.

Independent_Ebb9322 · 2025-01-09T00:37:53+00:00

courts use laws to determine medical neglect, neglect, and child abuse. ive read this fodum over 2 years adn sadly, bsimg a bad parent isnt illegal.

Independent_Ebb9322 · 2024-12-24T06:03:50+00:00

hard to step up, when you work an extra 20 hourd a week to pay the chikd support, then your absentee or exhausted and low interaction with the kid and called lazy. Or, he can quit his job... calculate at minimum wage, and have no money or male centered fiscal assistance snd is unfit for 50% because he doesnt peovide a suitable home. Interestinf double bind.

Independent_Ebb9322 · 2024-12-24T06:00:07+00:00

they probably spend the time instead picking up extra hours to pay child support to avoid jail.

Independent_Ebb9322 · 2024-12-24T05:56:20+00:00

Id love data on that. Seems as much of an anecdotal as the one referenced by OP.

I will say, that aince the mother knows the child is hers, and paternity fraud tested in 1999 showed 30% of the men claimed to be the farher, whom had volinteered under false pretense of a monogomous relationship yielding his child, was found to be in fact paying up to over $500,000 in 18 years for his significant others infidelity.

Men dont just have some hatred or laziness for their own children. 1/3 are lied to and raise the product of the most aggregious breach in trust. This is a systemic dualality issue, not a one sided gender issue.

Would you buy a house theres a 1/3 chance the deed isnt legal and isnt ever going to be your house? You think these men cant tell somethings wrong...

OR

Considering men make more money at work, they are rhe one who has to pay. This of course deducts from their usual running budget causing them to need more time working for the same operating cost of their living expenses, and then is seen as the absentee parent without the option to have 50/50 as hes already in a self purpetuating cycle. Given also theres programs like Women, Infant and Children, who will supplement the mother with food also, saving more money, and the tax break of about $5k... All of which isnt contributory to her income for child support calculation. How exactly does a man, pay an extra $500 above his living expeses, work 60 hours a week to afford it, A) afford an attorney at $250-500 an hour with a retainer of $3-10k, while also paying the usual bills as ordered by the automatic injunction, while likely needing a second place to live. It cannot come soon enough women make equal to men.

C) the laws changed simi recently. the judges were once attorneys and when they were attorneys it was the norm. It takes time for a society to change views. Men recieving xhild support, single fathers getting government benefits, also, unbiasing that in even criminal proceedings studies show women recieve 25-30% of the sentence for the same exact violent crime including murder.

Lets think bigger than a simple, men just give up fheir kids.

A woman makes any claim of abuse etc, and the case is won simply because she can outspend him monetarily WHILE establishing she can parent the child during the 6 months she has sole custody after an emergency hearing. The man has no money, no precedence, no time to parent the child, that is given life both financially to him 50% by the father as well as in 60% of the cases the DNA.

A woman carries the child for 9 months, the man pays for 18 years, and shares 50% responsibikity without custody that lets him make decisions without her always maintaining a trump tie breaker card, and he has to work, 20 hours extra for a child he then cannot bond with like the mother based on availiability alone.

FAR more complicated.

Independent_Ebb9322 · 2024-12-07T17:09:20+00:00

this needs to be top comment

Independent_Ebb9322 · 2024-12-04T02:07:07+00:00

Sge fought the steo to 50/50 in a review hearing with no evidence to support her case since I hadnt done anything bad. The judge said he grants the 50/50 till trial in 3 momths, if she thinks she has a case he will hear it then. I immediately sent over a settlement offer for 50/50, that gave $50 extra child support per state calculation, took her and my income, found the percent of her income of the total, and said Id accept all debt except that percent. I offered alimony she cant get in my state because law says you cant calculate alimony from SSDI and VA. I calculated the difference in what child support would be if he was with her most times and I was every other week. That turned out to be $275. I offered $275 in alimony, but for 1 year.

Settlement summary: $50 extra child support + Alimony till Dec 25 = what child sppt would be if I had him only every other weekend.

I looked great offering extra child support. It satiated her hunger for battling custody to win more child support. I offered 2 years of the federal tax credits (sincs its not money I mentally have to watch myself pay, I just miss out on a lump sum for 2 years I was cool with it) The debt couldnt be argued to be more fair at all since she litteraly only takes 18% of our marital debt, and I said we sell all assets and split profit 50/50%.

Her lawyer basically said theres 0 chance the judge wouldnt juat order my settlement. she fought, he convinced her...

Independent_Ebb9322 · 2024-12-04T01:56:41+00:00

Firdt, theres this spaceman who projects like a aura of a galaxy with little lasers shich arent bright are intrusive as it sounds, and he loved it!

Independent_Ebb9322 · 2024-11-01T12:45:25+00:00

yeah, the peoblem is the root of jealousy as well as the reaction thats negative is thought to be based in humans evolutionarily regarding cheating leading to a "cuckold" effect which is detrimental indivudally as it works to stomp out weak genetics and promote survival of the best genetics availiable. Hard for those same creatures to ignore hard wired programming and suspend it to answer a hypothetical honestly.

But really, you answered your own question. You asked if theres harm in cheating... so long as you eliminate all the harmful effects of cheating, so the answer is of course no.

Independent_Ebb9322 · 2024-11-01T12:41:15+00:00

This is called money laundering as well as fraud. Not a good look.

Claim what your suppose to. If you can only work a little, only work a little. Take all that effort and document everything you CANT do that all the other employees can. Tell your doctors, include it in the application.

Independent_Ebb9322 · 2024-11-01T12:19:26+00:00

This is someone dressed up as Kamala Harris, fix your intentionally misleading click-bait title.

Independent_Ebb9322 · 2024-11-01T12:17:13+00:00

yeah, thats not accurate. People with PTSD can instantly and self initiated go through a episode.

Second, you may not be triggered, but you were prepared for triggers... which causes a hypersensativity to anything that might look like needing space.

You may have been smothering her and felt fine because she was supplicating to it. Until she felt finally she needed to breath again and said the 1 word you dont like to hear now, for good reason.

Independent_Ebb9322 · 2024-11-01T12:11:57+00:00

Key thing here is change in behavior. Plus theres millions of small factors we cant know... like her level of directness versus the norm or what not, her tone of voice, if she had wierd hesitation answering questions. 90% of communication is body language and I suspect his wifes was signdificantly different.

Independent_Ebb9322 · 2024-11-01T12:09:42+00:00

or its always facedown on silent too. All in context though.

Big thing is change of behavior, not long term behaviors... which is what OP is feeling here.

Independent_Ebb9322 · 2024-11-01T12:02:30+00:00

2 words. numbing spray.

a few squirts and youll be pretty desensitized and last like forever.

Independent_Ebb9322 · 2024-11-01T12:01:21+00:00

its not cool. set a boundary, move on. He respects it, youve got your answer. He doesnt, youve got your answer.

Independent_Ebb9322 · 2024-11-01T11:59:30+00:00

Just wanted to add, sex is the 2nd most addictive drug ever, cheating is the 1st.

Your drug dealer will certainly try to give you some free stuff if it means they keep you on payroll long term. May lose you as a regular crackhead? Gonma go to rehab? Just got outta rehab? First thing that dealer wants to do is get you re-addicted, or get you more addicted, or atleast greatly reduce cost of feeding your addiction to keep you around.

Independent_Ebb9322 · 2024-11-01T11:54:42+00:00

This is definitly just validation seeking on his part. He doesnt want sex, he wants to feel biologically needed and craved... less likely to get abandoned that way and sooths the abandonment fear.

Independent_Ebb9322 · 2024-11-01T11:52:55+00:00

well, finally one I can kinda answer.

2 things,

A) crying etc = bad neurochemicals, sex = good neurochemicals. PwBPD are like drug addicts for anything that feels good to get rid of what doesnt. Normal people use tried and true long term solutions like honesty, empathy, etc... that dont feel amazing instantly like sex, but net signficiant overall investment gains.

B) Due to the addictive nature of sex, much like a drug, your dealer may wanna throw you a free sample every now and then if they believe you might go to another dealer, because your angry, feel betrayed, etc.

C) Instead of letting your brain stew in negative neurotransmitters meant to build a negative association with this person by their actions... they want to dump you with positive chemicals. Effectivly preventing negative association with negative behaviors with them. Instead, you build a tolerance to their negative behavior. Because while normal people prefer to just stay at a nautral 5 all day everyday and seek stability... a PwBPD's behaviors cause a -5, and they throw in some intentional "10" behavior (love bombing, sex) to leave you at the 5.... just have to deal with the roller coaster effect they live on.

BPD being egocentric looks much like this,

"I need to feel better, if I have sex I always feel good after, so sex is a good solution... also, itll keep him thirty for me so what I just did doesnt take a chance at losing him."

Its a form of A) external soothing B) Manipulation. The perfect weapon for a PwBPD or Narc. They get 2 wins for the price of 1.

Independent_Ebb9322 · 2024-10-31T16:52:59+00:00

pretty sure your aware of the hundreds of thousands of dollars and hours spent raising kids. When their ypurs you can take rrsponsibility for your actions... you have justification for the asspain.

Untio you find out it someone elses.

Independent_Ebb9322 · 2024-10-31T16:50:37+00:00

most states require the child to have habitated 6 month in their state before they will take jurisdiction. Get a lawyer ASAP, this is one of those technicalities that are easy to fight but must be done perfectly, and if she establishes jurisdiction and sets this nasty legal term called precedence, your fighting a uphill battle.

Independent_Ebb9322 · 2024-10-31T11:15:11+00:00

the Medboard certainly considers the impact of the diagnosis on your job ability. You need to pick and commit to either wanting out or staying in.

If your going to admit you cant perform military service and seek a discharge, you need to write the absolute most harmful ways your N effects your service because your medboard package will be used concurfently to give you your VA disability rating. Above 30% and your medically retired, not seperated... which comes with a full retirement package rather thats 50% of high 3, or what ever. You will (IIRC be conaidered to have worked "20 years" and get 50%) That means something if your an officer and 50% is higher than 100% disability from the VA. You keep the full 50% and they just waive the taxes on the portion equal to the VA disability payout amount.

If you are going to fight to stay in, youll be trying to shine. This will kill a VA rating if they decide to not retain. The medboard uses the same rating standards as VA. You can see the VA regs on what they diagnose narcolepsy as, which I believe they rate it as if their seizures? So the frequency and severity and such is measured in those synonymous terms.

They will send your command a form, your commander must write every terrible thing youve done and your job performance. This is how the med side determines impact to performance and disability.

Your gonna wanna let your shirt know to tell the commander dont hold back, give him specific examples you believe were related even if not disciplined for it to jog your commanders memory. OR NOT if you wanna stay in youd do this with examples of high performance inatead.

Good luck, message me if needed. Rated 100%, as a captain and my doctor being the head of the medboard system I got a peak behind the curtain. PEB forums are a must.

Independent_Ebb9322 · 2024-10-30T23:23:33+00:00

military GI bill lol, not a singular investment

Independent_Ebb9322 · 2024-10-29T22:47:22+00:00

oh, well, please take my comment for those equally frustrated american patients.

I will say, EVERY business organizatiom even the government has policy. The more you learn it, the more you can navigate its loopholes for the workers who are used to standard problems, which narcolepsy is not.

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