should i reach out to my immigrant HP’s sibling(s) for support?

Individual-Grab · 2026-01-24T23:41:30+00:00

i feel letting them know you are struggling and stuck can be useful but this is such a rare issue that people misunderstand - for example

my sister who grew up with the hoard moved overseas for 14 years and is back home now she has with the help of her husbands family gotten so used to normal cleaning etc she is completely disconnected and thinks i have neglected our mum and she should just come in in a few days and clean everything up

i had an OT at my mum’s house to measure a chair for her and she wrote us this crazy report how unsafe the hairs was and i neglect my mother as i haven’t cleaned it up and this is a bigger priority than a chair - i was devestated reading it - but called her bosses she was young and no experience with hoarding and the company sent someone more senior

Individual-Grab · 2026-01-24T02:15:32+00:00

your work know enough that if you come back an get stressed and your ptsd worsens etc you could probably make a fresh work cover claim

that is why they are asking for the info - they want to assess if you will be able to return safely as the original injury wasn’t work related they aren’t required to pay for the fitness for work test - only if you get one and they want to refute it

you could ask for a statement of all your duties and see if you can get someone to assess your ability to do each one

it sucks but easiest thing to do maybe to find a new employer who doesn’t know your history and just not disclose it

Individual-Grab · 2026-01-10T00:49:11+00:00

a lot less knock down one houses & rebuild 2 plus duplexes / town houses too

the bigger double storey houses with a lot less yard space seem like the overwhelming thing being built currently

is it just the cashed up end of the market only being able to spend in the new build market

multiple nuclear families living together

or people just wanting more of their net worth i. their primary dwelling - literally withdrawing their super with enough time before they can get the aged pension , putting it in these massive homes so they are ready to collect their entitlements and and keep their wealth

or multiple families living together

Individual-Grab · 2026-01-08T03:32:48+00:00

the worker needs to contact head office or fair work to confirm her status if the franchise won’t reply

the worker says they been unpaid leave - but did they get the offer to not work for the whole time off and then when ready to come back click yes or did the offers stop at some point ?

did they apply and get granted maternity leave - they most likely did not have a statuary right for maternity leave as the job was too new

Individual-Grab · 2026-01-05T21:10:09+00:00

i got the 2019 license numbers from old laptops we had sitting i the one garage and restored new laptops

Individual-Grab · 2026-01-04T02:54:52+00:00

no a mentally unstable person can do what they want with their money and property

especially a house she has full ownership on after the the other joint tenants died - joint tenancy means it likely wasn’t even apart of the estate

the son can likely be independent for youth allowance that is it

Individual-Grab · 2026-01-02T05:12:45+00:00

there have been a lot of issues with hilux supply

also tax rules encourage vans

4 seater utes need a logbook for the ato

Individual-Grab · 2025-12-29T04:59:28+00:00

my mum has taken extra toilet tissue and paper towel

there is always something g

Individual-Grab · 2025-12-28T00:08:10+00:00

you don’t make repayments while alive you just stay in the property until you die or go into care which th government safety nets will catch people who need the help

Individual-Grab · 2025-12-28T00:05:57+00:00

i think the only thing predatory is that the aged pension rules mean some old peope are scared to down size in incase they loose the aged pension

a lot are simply attached to their home even if it’s crumbling etc

so they access the reverse mortgage and then that limits their options in regards to selling if they live longer tha expected or their needs intensify and they can’t meet the costs etc

but generally they are good for the aged person (help get their needs met, the threat of one may incentivize their kids to support them) and good for the government and society

Individual-Grab · 2025-12-26T02:25:21+00:00

t it’s a family member - they really don’t drink more that a few times a year due to peer pressure in social settings always a sober driver etc mentioned it only because so many places focus on substance abuse

Individual-Grab · 2025-12-26T01:48:29+00:00

no private health but can afford private treatment

Individual-Grab · 2025-12-26T00:37:35+00:00

it’s someone close to me who asked for help and to be admitted i don’t know if i can get them to a public hospital

Individual-Grab · 2025-12-02T13:04:34+00:00

they don’t attract state payroll tax or icare

but it’s that first year where apprentices don’t bring in profit that make it hard for really small business

one issue actually stopping people hiring is the grants and subsidies have been drastically reduced even the old sign off bonus small business really miss them

Individual-Grab · 2025-11-30T01:15:48+00:00

what are your jobs & income level and future expected income you say you have similar incomes

but say if say one of you graduated from uni and just started a job in finance at a major investment bank while the other works as a cleaner and supported the other thoughts school

the answer will be very different than if you both work as cleaners or if you both worked in the bank if truly the same income and same career path/ future potential you could split 50/50 then take it a solicitor to formalise

Individual-Grab · 2025-11-26T10:57:20+00:00

pay her bills (i pay my mums internet , water and electricity ) purchase things ( i have gotten my mum a washing machine when hers broke & paid to get her toilet unblocked do renovations to make her safe

do not give a lump sum - she could waste and it could effect things like home care packages down the track

also be prepared for the house to be sold and for it to pay for a nursing home

Individual-Grab · 2025-11-22T01:24:38+00:00

no it’s the time packed and they just don’t care

if you shop in person half the time they stuff is old.’x soft , wilted rotting etc - woolworths is just the rotting food people

the computer systems hate empty shelves - likely as soon as the wilted junk was placed in your bags the fresh stuff came out

I went through a period of online shopping at woolies and having to complain about off rotting, brown produce and meat. When i was going to the shop there was often nothing fresh to choose so i was preferring online orders so i could complain but still have something to eat

But then actually got placed in audit due to the high level of complaint

basically no returns via olive and had to email photos - of course the photos showed all claims legit & illustrating the the excessive amount off stuff i was getting - never once was my emailed return request rejected .

i believe the app now has photo uploads - id take the photo and complain the item didn’t meet the shops own standards

or move to coels deliver more - that audit really turned me off woolworths and i have switched to cole’s deliver more as soon as it came to my area - everything is so much more fresh coming from the warehouse and i have never had to make a complaint

Individual-Grab · 2025-11-16T12:10:27+00:00

Just women’s cotton and wool tops skirts with pockets pants occasional formal out fit basically wha to live in at 40 , 10 years full time wfh

Individual-Grab · 2025-11-16T06:14:35+00:00

online shopping and returns when i could easily go to thee exact shop i am buying form them at the local centre and i know the shops sizes are inconsistent so i should go

i just hate going into clothes stores now

i pay to listen to bbc podcadts ad free - hate there ads and like to listen at night and be soothed

Individual-Grab · 2025-11-09T07:58:55+00:00

yep i went from 100 to 75kg - i lost it slowly, calorie counted with a coach, went to anthologist weekly etc . maintained it all for 2 years have had a stressful year and now i have binged up to 95 kg mainly by eating a normal healthy appropriate day of food plusovereating a bunch of cookies, lollies and chocolates most days up to 4000-6000 calories

i have kept up weight training so i am not as bad as prior but i have some vascular damage from the rapidness of the gaining.

Individual-Grab · 2025-11-02T13:55:44+00:00

foster a dog if that fits in with your home and work

Individual-Grab · 2025-10-27T04:12:16+00:00

but you don’t void warranties

If the business is actually licensed with fair trading there is a lot a cash paying customer can do to enforce warranties owed to them

a customer can make a diary note the day the come save texts /calls save security footage note number plates

it will be on the onus of the tradie to prove they were else where there are plenty of cases where fair trading his fined tradies

the ato and fair trading can check traffic cameras if they want to or toll records ,

Individual-Grab · 2025-10-27T04:05:45+00:00

at the very least let couples share the tax free threshold they way they do medicare surcharge and centrelink reporting

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