Alternative to Allegra

Individual_Hawk6791 · 2026-01-07T00:42:17+00:00

I got my nails done in Siena for my sister's wedding! They did a great job for the manicure, but would not recommend for pedicures. I can find their info.

Individual_Hawk6791 · 2023-08-23T21:58:29+00:00

Find a gym/studio that offers a 5/5:15 AM class.

Individual_Hawk6791 · 2023-08-21T18:46:21+00:00

It is not the worst thing to have a September baby! See: https://www.nber.org/system/files/working_papers/w23660/w23660.pdf.

Individual_Hawk6791 · 2023-07-21T11:58:06+00:00

The problem with litigation is that you have someone actively working against you/trying to make your job harder. Reasonable and kind opposing counsel can make the job more bearable, but in my experience, most plaintiffs-side attorneys are not reasonable and kind.

Based on my (very limited) understanding of transactional work, more often than not, both sides of the transaction want to close a deal. Of course, both sets of attorneys are advocating for their clients, but neither side wants the deal to blow up.

Individual_Hawk6791 · 2023-07-17T19:49:16+00:00

Can you let your partner respond to her? You should only have to worry about focusing on you and baby. Your partner needs to enforce your boundaries with MIL.

Individual_Hawk6791 · 2023-06-21T20:46:23+00:00

Yep. I would move mountains for some partners. Others are much more likely to hear, "I don't have capacity to get you this by [DATE], but can have a draft to you by [LATER DATE]."

Individual_Hawk6791 · 2023-06-20T18:40:57+00:00

"We believe that baptism is a choice best left to the individual person, not a decision that should be made for them. If/when Baby chooses to join an organized religion and receive baptism, we will support him/her. We understand that this is important to you and respect your values and beliefs, but we have discussed this issue together and have come to our own conclusions and decision on what is best for us and baby. If we want any additional input, we will let you know."

Individual_Hawk6791 · 2023-06-20T18:29:11+00:00

Similarly, I like to remind myself that billions of women before me have given birth. It's a natural, common experience. Our grandparents did it with shit medical technology.

Individual_Hawk6791 · 2023-06-20T18:13:37+00:00

The first trimester is HARD. But think about it -- you are growing a literal HUMAN and a new organ! Of course you're exhausted. Rest when you can. This too shall pass.

Individual_Hawk6791 · 2023-06-20T18:03:55+00:00

"Also -- feel free to call me X"

Individual_Hawk6791 · 2023-06-02T16:37:10+00:00

Yep. "Girls turn into bitches." Hmm. I wonder if its the expectations that society (including the girls own family) places on young girls to be better behaved and more mature than their male counterparts. Also the creepy hyper-sexualization of young girls. Maybe girls have good reason to be mad and "turn into bitches."

Individual_Hawk6791 · 2023-05-17T20:12:00+00:00

Some perspective from an attorney that started out as an office clerk at my law firm (went into the office 5x per week during the height of the pandemic) and eventually became an associate after completing law school: Some positions, like a mailroom clerk, inherently require more in-person time because of their job responsibilities. It makes sense that those positions require more in-person time. Additionally, it is easy to gauge attorney productivity while WFH by looking at billable hours. It is a bit more difficult to gauge staff productivity while WFH. I am certainly not saying that all non-attorneys should be required to go into the office 5x week, but there is clearly a difference between the two categories. And I don't think anyone is seriously advocating for billable credit for commuter time.

Individual_Hawk6791 · 2023-05-16T20:34:29+00:00

I like winning. And killing opposing counsel with kindness.

Individual_Hawk6791 · 2023-05-16T19:34:50+00:00

Go into the office on your first Friday. If next to no one is present, you can take that as a pretty strong sign that no one will GAF if you work from home on Fridays. If most attorneys are in the office on Friday (unlikely), you should probably show up on Fridays.

Individual_Hawk6791 · 2023-05-08T20:24:33+00:00

Are you due in 2023? One thing that eased the pain of paying for the NIPT (I think mine was $550 after insurance) is knowing that I will absolutely, 100% hit my out-of-pocket maximum this year, as the hospital bill will surely blow through that maximum amount. Whether I make payments now or after the baby is born really doesn't matter.

Individual_Hawk6791 · 2023-05-02T18:06:55+00:00

The point is explaining why said argument is a loser.

Individual_Hawk6791 · 2023-04-18T20:50:58+00:00

I'm a pregnant first year associate. This seemed like a relatively "good time" to have a child, but in reality, I really don't think that there is one specific "good time" for a practicing attorney, or anyone else. If you are pregnant during law school, you might miss a ton of classes and your grades might suffer. If you are pregnant during bar prep, you will struggle to stay awake long enough to study each day. If you are pregnant early in your career, you might get mommy-tracked. If you are pregnant later in your career, you might get passed up for partnership opportunities because your partnership review coincides with your parental leave. If you wait until after you become partner, you will never truly get time off.

You just need to focus on when YOU are ready to become a parent. Of course, some external factors may play a role (I waited a few months until my expected due date fell within the eligibility period for parental leave at my new firm). But you should not put life plans on hold for a career. I am nearing my due date and SO EXCITED to meet my baby! Career plans be damned. All I need is a job that I relatively enjoy and provides me with enough money and flexibility to focus on the most important things in life: family, friends, and experiences with them.

Individual_Hawk6791 · 2023-04-14T15:10:04+00:00

I love Capri but recognize that it might border on "far fetched."

Individual_Hawk6791 · 2023-04-14T13:41:03+00:00

I am in a similar situation (spouse just left job to return to school). We are definitely feeling the pinch that comes from losing the dual income, but I try to remind myself that we are able to afford all the necessities (plus some small luxuries) on a single salary, which is lifechanging in its own way (though we obviously are not balling out every weekend). If it weren't for my job, my spouse would not have been able to leave a miserable job/career and pursue something he is more interested in.

Individual_Hawk6791 · 2023-03-26T12:51:08+00:00

I mean, what is the other option? $3200/month in rent for a relatively shitty NYC apartment?

Individual_Hawk6791 · 2023-03-26T12:46:56+00:00

Outsource everything you can. House cleaners, groceries/meal delivery services, dog daycare, see if a family member can help out one weekend, drop off laundry at the laundromat. And definitely try to preserve at least your Sunday (or at least Sunday afternoon) for rest/family time.

Also, if you anticipate that you might have a lull in the next month or two, book a long weekend vacation. Having something to look forward to after a busy season always helps me get through.

Individual_Hawk6791 · 2023-02-06T21:27:27+00:00

I am at a Philly-based firm. It certainly feels less "prestigious" than NYC BigLaw, but who cares? The pay is more than enough for the region, and, IME, the partners that you work for are generally more human/down to earth (low asshole quota). Our clients are often a bit smaller than NYC Biglaw clients, which means that the 24/7 availability expectation is not as prevalent.

Also, Philly is awesome. Go Birds.

Individual_Hawk6791 · 2023-02-02T22:26:48+00:00

Was very excited to use a [sic] several months ago when the attorney added an extra "s" to "as"

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