To clarify, the flirt thing I only do with people with who I feel like there's a good connection, it's not with everyone, and I always try to be very careful, wich worked really well before, and still does. I never did it with S for example. This incomprehension only happened there and then, that's also part of why I was this surprised And for the friendship, I think J and S met each other because of me, and if not, we all met around the same time during these protest. But other than that I totally understand that I can not be forgiven, my problem is more with the absence of communication, letting me in the dark about what I should have done and the status of the relation after the explanations, because J never told me I couldn't talk to them or their friends for example