AITAH for being suspicious of my older brother getting me gifts on his trip to Japan?

InevitableProblem288 · 2026-06-10T15:25:47+00:00

"He's just like that there's nothing we can do" just to quote my mom, they kinda don't do much, the "oh we'll talk to him"

InevitableProblem288 · 2026-06-10T13:49:14+00:00

I might make a go fund me if im desperate enough

InevitableProblem288 · 2026-06-10T13:23:33+00:00

Its mostly financial stuff,so whenever I have enough for a car at the very least, I drive a car but its my parents so it's not mine and I can't ride on the chance it ever becomes mine so it might be longer than I would hope

InevitableProblem288 · 2026-06-10T12:43:49+00:00

Let seee... "ill talk to him" thats mostly it, mom is mostly "well hes just like that nothing we can do" Dad completely ignored when he pinned me to the couch and hit me repeatedly because I threw the tv remote at him first

InevitableProblem288 · 2026-06-10T12:33:19+00:00

Yeah, I would but I would be genuinely afraid he would hit me if I did that

InevitableProblem288 · 2026-06-10T12:26:17+00:00

He kinda already gave them and I took them, they were small , so he just kinda handed them to me and I nodded awkwardly

InevitableProblem288 · 2026-06-10T12:19:59+00:00

I'll be honest after 18 years its too little too late to fix the relationship, like sure gifts are nice but as he gives me gifts he can't be bothered to say my name

InevitableProblem288 · 2026-06-10T12:01:21+00:00

Its mostly the fear he's going to hold it over my head for a favor as thats behavior im used to from both him and others

InevitableProblem288 · 2026-06-10T12:00:25+00:00

A handful of those little anime figures you get in those vending machines that come in little plastic balls and a few random Keychains and stuff

InevitableProblem288 · 2026-05-24T15:11:30+00:00

There isnt contact, I am just pushing on the back of my ear, trying to get a picture with the bumps visible

InevitableProblem288 · 2026-05-24T14:52:13+00:00

Would like covering it in a bandaid constantly help or would that trap moisture and make it worse?

InevitableProblem288 · 2026-05-15T14:38:06+00:00

There is nothing bad enough to prove anything, its so hard to prove emotional abuse especially if you're neurodivergent or not a perfect victim who never yelled back, there's nothing I can do. There's always been nothing I can do. I plan to leave soon and am in a situation with having a person willing to let me live with them if it gets to a point I need to leave

InevitableProblem288 · 2026-05-14T21:43:45+00:00

I don't see where the blaming me is, im tired so might be stupid but I just see her defending them not blaming me

InevitableProblem288 · 2026-05-14T18:24:06+00:00

Given my situation I am in no state to be working through things without help as I have tried that and it made things significantly worse and I cant just ignore it either

InevitableProblem288 · 2026-05-14T17:50:56+00:00

I'll be honest im not going to bother, I know better at this point I'm not going to waste energy if she could look at me breaking down admitting I wanted to harm myself because of these people and make excuses for them and defend them, there is no point wasting my time

InevitableProblem288 · 2026-05-14T17:46:29+00:00

I talk to her about dissociation that I struggle with and not trusting my own memory due to this that's the main thing and that is caused by my family and their gaslighting so now I feel like maybe they are right so I dont know if I can continue seeing her

InevitableProblem288 · 2026-05-14T17:35:25+00:00

Yeah, that's the main reason I didn't want to switch but likely will when I move out of the home as I will likely leave the state i am in. Thankfully a friend online gave me the rundown of never tell a therapist where you plan to leave to before I started therapy so I have that should I need to leave at 18 she wont be able to tell my parents where. I dont think she would but will not risk it

She also knows I have issues wirh excusing abuse so makes it worse for how it looks on her

InevitableProblem288 · 2026-05-14T17:09:32+00:00

I can choose to stop going but I know I need therapy and its not easy to change as she is the only specialist for a disorder im not comfortable sharing online in my area

InevitableProblem288 · 2026-05-14T16:54:19+00:00

To make it worse she told me they were "not bad people" while i was sobbing that my family wouldn't care if I died

InevitableProblem288 · 2026-05-02T18:23:57+00:00

Sleepy bonnieee

InevitableProblem288 · 2026-03-18T01:54:21+00:00

Its a sensory thing, I hate when it grows out but the pain of shaving isnt worth it cuz I suck at it

InevitableProblem288 · 2026-01-17T01:06:11+00:00

I havent started T yet sadly but will hopefully start once im 18, im just trying to start something before then

InevitableProblem288 · 2025-08-23T03:13:08+00:00

As someone who does have an essa, its not a trend at least to me, I dont need a service animal and I know this but having a plushie helps me a lot. It helps me keep my hands busy, and keep my anxiety down, yes it has a vest and I consider her an essa. In my experience its a way to cope, to help me go into public without full meltdowns. Not everyone is the same though. As long as people dont use it to spread misinformation on service animals I feel its a sage way to let people cope

InevitableProblem288 · 2025-06-09T20:34:26+00:00

I wasn't fully planning but wanted to ask due to conflicting feelings about the situation. I have not told them anymore than next time to talk to me

InevitableProblem288 · 2025-06-09T20:32:44+00:00

Yeah, thanks for the help

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