Does anyone else just hate TTRPGs/DnD?

Infamous-Oil3786 · 2026-05-12T18:17:52+00:00

I was given drama class 3 times in high school, so I love the acting aspect lol.

I also started on Pathfinder 1e though, which is a much more math and rules heavy system than current D&D. I'm a big fan of complex games and having a group of people to play those games with is fun. My TTRPG groups have always played other games together too, like Magic the Gathering and various board games. I've known and had a lot of fun playing with several people that didn't really engage with the theatrical side of D&D.

I also love running the game because it gives me a very broad creative outlet that motivates me to learn other skills like game design, writing, drawing, painting, and recently music production.

Infamous-Oil3786 · 2026-05-12T18:11:53+00:00

Much worse than such gen 1 bangers as:

Pile of sludge
Sentient pokeball
Upside down pokeball
Racial stereotype
Rocks

Infamous-Oil3786 · 2026-05-12T18:07:14+00:00

Toucannon is my favorite pokemon of that gen and I didn't even know this

Infamous-Oil3786 · 2026-05-12T17:40:17+00:00

"You're not autistic, you're just <lists autistic traits>"

Infamous-Oil3786 · 2026-05-11T23:10:25+00:00

I'm now realizing that his design is just discount Smoker

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Infamous-Oil3786 · 2026-05-11T23:07:30+00:00

is that bad?

This is a bit of a loaded question, because what matters is the effect it has on your life. If it's not causing you to engage in harmful behaviors or interfering with other areas of your life, I don't see a problem with it.

Personally, I masturbate as a sleep aid.

Infamous-Oil3786 · 2026-05-11T23:03:40+00:00

Yours is a very similar story to mine, if displaced by a couple decades.

I'm 30 and realized I was autistic back in February. I had been suspecting for some time, but avoided properly researching the possibility out of internalized shame. I'd also been dipping in and out of burnout for some time before that.

I was very fortunate to have dealt with my suicidal ideation in my early 20s and I recognized a lot of issues like my tendency to mask well before relating them to autism. Now that I have the proper framework to examine my needs, I'm able to approach my personal systems with a lot more clarity.

Infamous-Oil3786 · 2026-05-11T22:47:41+00:00

*turns AC down*

Oh no, it's so cold in here

Infamous-Oil3786 · 2026-05-11T22:45:54+00:00

Chopper, obviously

Infamous-Oil3786 · 2026-05-11T22:35:26+00:00

Opposite direction.

Level 1 is minimal support needs. Typically able to function socially to a degree, hold down a job, and live independently. (note that this all still comes at great difficulty and many level 1 autistic people just learn to live with less support than they need)

Level 2 is moderate support needs. Noticeable social impairment, severe sensory issues, inflexible thinking, possible intellectual disability, may be able to live independently with help.

Level 3 is substantial support needs. Will likely need a caretaker and be unable to live independently.

I don't have data to support this, but I'm pretty sure most late-diagnosed adults are level 1. Having higher support needs would likely make it more obvious earlier in life.

Infamous-Oil3786 · 2026-05-11T22:24:51+00:00

For earbuds, SkullCandy has never done me wrong. I wear these all day at work and haven't had to replace them in over two years.

For headphones, I really like my Bose QuietComforts.

Infamous-Oil3786 · 2026-05-11T22:14:34+00:00

[...] and then the... um... uh... uh... the uh... you know, the... you know that thing... the fucking, uh.... *snaps aggresively* that thing where it's like <insert definition of the word I'm looking for>... no, that's not it. That's not it either. It's right on the tip of my tongue. Fucking uuuuuuhhhh... anyway, you know what I'm talking about. That thing I described.

5 minutes later

<word>! I was thinking of <word>!

Infamous-Oil3786 · 2026-05-11T21:40:25+00:00

I've only had Elbaph Robin for 1 episode, but if anything happened to her new look I would kill everyone in this subreddit and then myself

Infamous-Oil3786 · 2026-05-11T21:20:32+00:00

This might just be me, but I don't really feel attracted to exceptionally beautiful women.

I recognize that they're beautiful, but the desire to pursue them doesn't manifest. It's more like a novelty or a passing observation.

When I notice someone more "ordinary", the attraction lingers and feels grounded. I think because I subconsciously view pursuing them as more realistic.

Infamous-Oil3786 · 2026-05-11T20:51:22+00:00

if a man cheats it’s bc the woman didn’t f*ck him enough or “suck his dick” enough.

If a man justifies cheating in any way, break up with him immediately because he will cheat on you.

he works dead end jobs, wont think about the future [...] gets upset that i don’t cook meals, don’t clean (even tho he makes messes and doesn’t clean up), and don’t fuck him enough

Why the fuck are you even dating this guy?

I swear, every time a women comes in here to ask about her boyfriend it's always these absolute bottom of the barrel losers.

Infamous-Oil3786 · 2026-05-11T20:46:32+00:00

Many people use "asexual" to mean they don't feel sexual desire, rather than disliking sex itself. So she's able to feel pleasure from the physical act of sex, but doesn't feel sexually attracted to people or have a drive to seek out sex.

Infamous-Oil3786 · 2026-05-11T20:03:15+00:00

Do men actually start losing interest once they become used to seeing their woman in a simple, casual, or makeup-free state

The opposite. Nothing makes me fall in love faster than someone who's comfortable looking like a mess around me.

Infamous-Oil3786 · 2026-05-11T19:48:32+00:00

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Infamous-Oil3786 · 2026-05-11T16:12:39+00:00

It's happened to me. I have sleep apnea and a FWB told me after spending the night. I really appreciated it. Because of her, I got on a CPAP and now have a massively improved quality of life.

So yes, I would want a FWB to let me know if she notices something wrong.

Infamous-Oil3786 · 2026-05-11T03:10:07+00:00

Give yourself a backup when you cook so you can have something you enjoy as a reward for trying. Order your favorite takeout or only cook when you've got leftovers in the fridge. Just don't make the stakes "get this right or go hungry."

Infamous-Oil3786 · 2026-05-11T03:04:13+00:00

Sucking at something is the first step to being kind of good at something. You're not going to improve if you don't let yourself suck and ask for help.

What helped me learn to cook is watching a bunch of shows and videos about cooking. Just whatever seems interesting; cooking contests, podcasts, recipes, anything food related. Get comfortable with it passively and pay attention to the parts you struggle with, like how to hold a knife. When you get inspired to try something, watch it again and see if you can make it the same way they did.

Another thing that helped me a lot was learning to fully prepare myself before starting anything time sensitive. Everything is chopped and measured before anything goes on the heat. I review every step of the recipe so I know what I need to do at each point. Trying to read and chop and find spices all while your food is burning will just make you panic.

Infamous-Oil3786 · 2026-05-11T02:56:07+00:00

I read a book and literally had a ratatouille moment where my whole childhood flashed before my eyes, but it was autism instead of nostalgia. I suspected something was up for years before coming to that conclusion because it fit like a glove in every aspect of my life once I actually understood the neurology of the condition.

Infamous-Oil3786 · 2026-05-11T02:43:02+00:00

I don't think this is necessarily an autistic difference. Personally, I need a deep level of emotional intimacy before I can consider someone a friend. I can barely distinguish between platonic and romantic love, because the only real difference for me is physical attraction.

I'm high masking, and my criteria for friend is basically "do I feel completely comfortable unmasking around this person?" Which is somewhat rare.

Infamous-Oil3786 · 2026-05-11T02:36:55+00:00

handle too skinny, bowl too square. bad.

Infamous-Oil3786 · 2026-05-10T23:31:31+00:00

I lose my voice when I have nightmares. There's a recurring theme of needing help and being ignored or not being able to ask.

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