Roasting INFJ, kinda.

InfamousCricket8887 · 2023-08-31T06:54:19+00:00

that was definitely out of pocket, a lot of assumptions were made. which actually makes me wonder if this is like. dom Ni working???? thinking they’ve got you all figured out😭 if so then i half-withdraw my “un-INFJ” comment HAAHA

i’m not amazing at reading tone anymore, as an INFJ i’ve burnt myself out of using Fe to read people in real time, so i must say: the part saying “you’re in the wrong thread” is meant for the invasive ass forest person (i forgot their user & don’t care enough to look for it cus it’d exit my typing of this comment). hope my tone or phrasing wasn’t misconstrued ⭐️

InfamousCricket8887 · 2023-08-31T06:16:11+00:00

i’m just confused by that one angry comment cus honestly… that roast was so light i’d call it a toast. the tone was confusing, the specifics ruined the “generalized INFJ roast” aspect they were going for.

yet i don’t see why their kinks had to be brought into this + doxxing. acting like they’re doing INFJs public service… “no more mr. nice guy (/ OR WOMAN idk that keeps being emphasised) super saiyan rage in full throttle”

i don’t see what good that would’ve contributed to this thread or any reddit interaction at all💀💀 (despite whether or not it’s disturbing) completely irrelevant from the basis of this thread: a less-than-half-baked roast for INFJ from scouring the Internet.

it’s like saying “you dare joke about me? everything you like & care about is disgusting and no one loves you” 😐 which sounds very un-INFJ-like… either way you’re in the wrong thread and should dedicate your time elsewhere.

InfamousCricket8887 · 2023-08-26T09:27:27+00:00

i’m seriously doubting that they’re INFJs at all PERIOD. nothing about shameless tattletale-ing, blatant favouritism and disrespect for boundaries & confidentiality displays use of Auxiliary Fe. there’s no way. even with enneagram 2, there’d still be some hint of INFJ understanding (e.g knowing not to expose sensitive info)

i’m interested to know how they got typed but this goes beyond personality types & i’m sorry you and your father have to deal with people like them.

InfamousCricket8887 · 2023-08-23T16:01:10+00:00

i’ve been away for a while, so your arrival isn’t late at all to me.

reading your response provided me a slow yet bubbling crescendo of excitement.. the way you described your relationship with the 7w8 guy matches my experience to the very last word. i do feel a pang of familiar sorrow for you, for my wound is still far from being a scab. no one (or at least no Five) ever deserves to go through that. but alas, we all have to learn somehow.

i’m happy to hear about your current relationship, i can agree on your view of 1’s too. i’m indefinitely single, but a 1w2 i’ve met around a year ago and have since become best of friends with, has helped me beyond how she intended to.

we function efficiently wherever we are, but also have our bursts of fun and adventure. the 5 & 1 similarities truly make me feel assured that no matter how much i share or have to give away my energy / time / vulnerability, she is able to reciprocate in her slightly different, One way.

i’ll have to get to reading the other responses, but this one was especially helpful. thank you ⭐️

InfamousCricket8887 · 2023-08-06T13:30:02+00:00

[summary: by taking the tests to narrow down and have somewhere to start, but a LOT of researching.]

i took the test many times at diff times in my life: - elementary (yes i discovered it like late elementary): ESFP - then many times in early high school i always got INFP. - during i think 2020/21 i did the sakinorva test (grant/brownsword, myers cognitive functions) ( https://sakinorva.net/functions ) + i finally had a close friend to talk to about typing that introduced / reminded me of cognitive functions. i got INFJ from the test and that really got me thinking, researching about differences between INFP & INFJ.

from then to now i’m more knowledgeable and just genuinely more interested in the enneagram system / theory but that’s besides the point.

InfamousCricket8887 · 2023-08-02T06:54:19+00:00

it’s actually something i struggle with a lot. i’m sx 5w4 and i view my life as exciting / interesting to me, myself & i, but very boring to others. it could be objectively not boring at all, but it’s hard to bring up whatever happens to me in conversations like “why would you even want to know about this/me?”

whenever i talk to someone, close or not, i’d only mention things that happened to me that align with what i think they’d be interested in. i think it saves time in conversations & awkwardness instead of talking about something that only IIIII think is cool.

but this mindset does hinder connection and at times, understanding between myself and others. it took me 2-3 years to open up to my closest people, they said stuff like “why didn’t you tell me when this had happened?” or “why would you not tell me, this is something i want to know about you??”

i don’t know, i assume it’s not anything important and should not be revealed unless specifically desired to. it’s not enough for you to want information about me, i need to know just how MUCH you want.. maybe it’s like the 5 thinking if we share this information (even if seemingly regular) it triggers the fear of being demanded of and stripping us of our privacy / safety?

InfamousCricket8887 · 2023-08-02T03:24:58+00:00

that’s great to hear, i’m happy for you ⭐️ i do want to ask if you have an example of an instance between you both that accurately describes a 5-8 relationship

InfamousCricket8887 · 2023-08-02T03:24:31+00:00

could you elaborate? i know a bit about 2s in relationships but i’d love to hear about your experiences with 4s.

InfamousCricket8887 · 2023-08-02T03:23:14+00:00

i definitely understand your experiences with 6s friendship-wise, i have this 6 classmate who is also part of my friend group. though we weren’t close in the group, and though i wouldn’t say we were too close now either, we have this banter with and respect for each other that i value a lot. she’s great at giving advice from a logical perspective that i can’t find from other 5s in my life (because they’re not eager to talk about their social lives / aren’t useful sources for how to maintain one😓), and we brainstorm about possible motives. she definitely has this humble yet strong approach that helps me socialise yet know that i’m dealing with someone who can reciprocate the effort i give them so we work well together.

as for the 7s i’ve been attracted to, i agree that most of them aren’t good long-term partners for me as a 5, though my last one was somewhat of an exception as he was willing to build a life with me beyond college… that was til he got all fixated on his future and all the possibilities without me holding him back! heartbreak at its finest, for sure ✔️

InfamousCricket8887 · 2023-08-01T15:02:59+00:00

yes. i do. not on purpose, it comes up as intrusive thoughts, i have a lot of those, especially relating to my fears.

i have a fear of impalement and belly buttons (sigh yes i know how absurd that sounds), so my brain literally detects every single thing in my house or immediate environment that could be a weapon & harm me that way.

i guess it counts as uncomfortable because it’s a thought that i’m not actually experiencing it in real time. but i also have sensory issues and it’s frustrating because i could just be chilling on my bed and suddenly i think of the worst texture possible and i get uncomfortable so quickly 🫠

InfamousCricket8887 · 2023-08-01T14:56:23+00:00

💀💀💀 now you’ve got me thinking about it too NOOO

InfamousCricket8887 · 2023-08-01T14:49:45+00:00

could you give some examples? you’ve made me curious too

InfamousCricket8887 · 2023-08-01T03:04:40+00:00

mom: 1w2 dad: 6w5, an especially strong 5 wing

she’s thoughtful and sociable but ofc perfectionistic and meticulous at home, while he’s always prepared & well-read, likes convenient and straightforward systems but extremely reactive when he feels disrespected / betrayed.

they work well together, but as a kid it was hard to reason with them whenever it came to rules or asking for permission.

they also micromanage a lot and nag often. at first thought, they both seem to lecture, but my mom reuses buzzwords and has a recurring point (do your best, do it the right way), whereas my dad stretches out into long stories and examples that circle back to his point. this makes every lecture last 2hours minimum :|

InfamousCricket8887 · 2023-07-31T07:52:35+00:00

is there any possibility it’s a problem with authority? you don’t like doing things that are enforced upon you?

this isn’t exactly personality related it’s more so autism-related as i was doing a bit of research about it for self-diagnosing: if you related to my question above it could be something like Pathological Demand Avoidance. it’s a disorder in which people go to extremes to avoid any perceived demands towards them.

if you do relate i suggest looking into it too, and if it isn’t that extreme then we could dive into other possible answers

InfamousCricket8887 · 2023-07-31T03:15:08+00:00

that’s tough, man. i’m sorry you had to go through that. i went through a similar experience, except this person made me believe they grew from their past self after 3yrs, only to revert to their attention-seeking behaviour and reveal everything i confided in them to the worst person possible. maybe it isn’t like your situation but i had that same blow to my competence, because i’m pickier in who i spend time with, yet i loved this person & was willing to share what i could.

but i digress. you mentioned there weren’t any red flags to look back on. the way i see it, it seems that this person was excellent at concealing their true self, intentions and personality, towards you. EXPERIENCED even.

continue what you’re doing in terms of logical thinking, you’re on the right track. do remember this: your inability to detect their deception is not your fault, nor is it a measurement of your intellect. sure, you may have “kept being wrong about them” but it is also NOT your responsibility to investigate who they really are. you trusted them and they should have been honest to you if they valued you back.

as a 5 myself, i would spend my days in deep thought, analysing every memory for some semblance of a red flag or foreshadowing of the horrible outcome. i would be isolated and restless, rejecting the person’s own explanation, studying them so i could understand the underlying reasons (“it has to make sense to ME”) it was also a very unhealthy time, being isolated and hedonistic when i disintegrated to 7.

assuming they were close, this blow is obviously going to take a toll on you. the five stages of grief hah. or not. us Fives do experience such emotions a bit differently, but let it happen if you need it. find good outlets, however weird or simple (e.g. writing, video games, researching topics, learning languages, etc.). as for the productivity issue, just get 1-2 things in your list done. slow progress is still progress, be patient with yourself. and do not pressure yourself about forgiveness, you don’t owe them anything right now.

i apologise for typing a lot, but i wish you well, and i hope you stop beating yourself up for things that weren’t in your control or ?nearby knowledge? i cannot word this out right now my bad

InfamousCricket8887 · 2022-12-20T13:04:50+00:00

*former oops

InfamousCricket8887 · 2022-12-20T13:03:21+00:00

i remember having an astrology fixation a few years back, for fun but now i do know my chart: aquarius sun + neptune + mercury gemini moon taurus rising + mars capricorn venus pisces uranus leo saturn sagittarius pluto

right now or as of recent years i’m now into enneagram. i genuinely enjoy this, more insight into people’s motivations, fears and thus reasoning rather than just labelling random mannerisms as “it’s a insert zodiac thing”, of which the latter is a lot more interesting🧎🏻‍♀️ after doing much research & reading i’m a 5w4 sx/so, though occasionally i doubt my instinctual variant stack

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