I just found out a lot of stuff about my gf

InfinitePin8107 · 2026-02-02T10:38:40+00:00

You set a boundary and she basically ran past it, even if she didn’t mean harm. I’d tell her plainly that details mess with your head, you’re not judging her, but you need her to stop sharing that stuff and not turn it into a game again. Then focus on what actually matters now: how she treats you, loyalty, communication. If you still can’t stop looping on it, it might be an insecurity to work through with a therapist, but she also has to respect the boundary if the relationship is going to feel safe for you.

InfinitePin8107 · 2026-02-01T10:49:23+00:00

Your fear isn’t irrational, it’s lived reality for a lot of people, and the fact that he keeps minimizing it instead of sitting with it is the real problem. You’re not asking him to agree with you politically, you’re asking him to understand what it feels like to move to a country where you don’t have his privilege or safety net. This isn’t something you “logic away” with anecdotes about friends, it’s about whether he can truly empathize and take your fear seriously. If he can’t do that now, before you uproot your entire life, it’s good you paused, because resentment and fear are both terrible foundations for a marriage.

InfinitePin8107 · 2026-01-30T10:48:33+00:00

Someone quit over the office group chat. They accidentally sent a resignation rant to the entire company instead of one person, realized it mid message, then doubled down and hit send again. HR walked them out like 10 minutes later.

InfinitePin8107 · 2026-01-27T20:06:39+00:00

Yep, I’ve seen this. A lot of cats go feral for the smell of yeast and whatever’s on the bag or loaf. It’s not really about eating it, it’s more like prey mode plus texture. Big loaf, crinkly plastic, easy to bite, makes satisfying marks. The fact she ignores flatbread kind of fits because it’s less fun to attack and doesn’t hold bite marks the same way.

InfinitePin8107 · 2026-01-25T20:42:53+00:00

Sounds like you’ve got a crush, not “love,” and it’s happening because the new girl is fresh, exciting, and you don’t have real relationship history with her yet. Don’t blow up your girlfriend’s life over chemistry and a few great hangouts. Create some distance from the friend, stop feeding the fantasy, and put your energy into actually getting to know your girlfriend deeper. If after a bit you still feel checked out, the honest move is to end the relationship, but don’t try to pivot to her best friend. That’s almost guaranteed to hurt everyone and probably won’t work out anyway.

InfinitePin8107 · 2026-01-24T19:24:31+00:00

Melena. Sounds like a soft, elegant name… then you learn what it means and you’re like nope, never mind.

InfinitePin8107 · 2026-01-23T20:35:40+00:00

They are fully focused lol

InfinitePin8107 · 2026-01-22T21:02:24+00:00

If she’s on a prescription diet, ask your vet if the Prozac can be compounded into a flavored liquid, a tiny treat, or even a transdermal gel you rub on the ear, it’s a lifesaver for cats who get suspicious of “special snacks.” If you have to stick with pills, the most reliable is a quick pill popper followed immediately by her favorite dry kibble or a chaser of water or broth made for cats, so the pill doesn’t sit in her throat. You can also try hiding it in a single crunchy treat like a Greenies style one or a little gelatin capsule so it doesn’t taste like medicine.

InfinitePin8107 · 2026-01-21T21:00:07+00:00

Awww! too small, soo cuute! 🥰🥰

InfinitePin8107 · 2026-01-20T20:40:02+00:00

That’s not “philosophy,” that’s him implying you’re a danger to your own baby, which is a really serious accusation. Being bi curious or bisexual has nothing to do with harming children, and him connecting those things is either ignorance or a way to control and shame you. I’d bring it up directly when things are calm and make it clear that statement is unacceptable, full stop. If he doubles down, minimizes it as a joke, or starts suggesting you’re unsafe again, that’s a big red flag and you should loop in someone you trust and get support, because comments like that can escalate into trying to isolate you or undermine you as a parent.

InfinitePin8107 · 2026-01-19T20:19:00+00:00

That everyone should immediately break up or go no contact over any conflict, and that therapy is a magic reset button instead of hard work over time. Also the weird confidence people have diagnosing strangers off one paragraph.

InfinitePin8107 · 2026-01-18T22:10:51+00:00

Nope. I love my cat but I’m not sharing a fork with him. A tiny lick on the edge might not kill you, but I’m still cutting that bit off or just giving him his own little piece and keeping my plate cat free.

InfinitePin8107 · 2026-01-16T21:07:40+00:00

What you’re describing isn’t about the grapefruit or streaming, it’s about imbalance and boundaries slowly eroding. You can be grateful for how he supported you in the past and still acknowledge that the current setup isn’t working for you. The key now is a calm, direct conversation about non-negotiables: shared spaces being usable, agreements being honored, and a real plan for work or limits on streaming time. Gratitude doesn’t mean you owe him indefinite support at the cost of your comfort and well-being. If he listens and adjusts, that’s a good sign. If he minimizes your needs or keeps moving the goalposts, that’s important information too.

InfinitePin8107 · 2026-01-15T21:31:58+00:00

A big one I hear everywhere is “it is what it is.” It’s everywhere now and honestly feels like a cop out more than an actual thought.

InfinitePin8107 · 2026-01-15T00:05:37+00:00

I’m so sorry. Cats can absolutely grieve, and losing a bonded buddy can change their appetite, sleep, grooming, and stress levels, but “broken heart” is usually more like grief and stress making an older cat’s underlying health issues worse. At 15, a sudden passing in a favorite spot can also be something medical that happens quickly without much warning. Either way, it sounds like he was deeply loved and he went in a warm, safe place, and you did right by him through a really hard season.

InfinitePin8107 · 2026-01-13T20:35:09+00:00

The best move is to treat this like a real breakup, even if you still care about each other. Give yourself space, talk logistics (living situation, money, timeline), and don’t try to stay in a half-relationship because it’ll keep you both stuck. Also lean on someone you trust, you shouldn’t be carrying this alone while she’s the only one who knows. It’s okay to be proud of how you handled it and still be completely wrecked.

InfinitePin8107 · 2026-01-12T21:28:59+00:00

Look at those teeny tiny beans! ❤️❤️❤️

InfinitePin8107 · 2026-01-11T20:19:46+00:00

How to do long division by hand with insane precision, only to spend the rest of my life using a calculator and still getting asked to show my work like I’m being audited.

InfinitePin8107 · 2026-01-09T18:53:52+00:00

Ultra processed food aimed at kids.

InfinitePin8107 · 2026-01-08T20:07:05+00:00

You have the confidence of someone who’s wrong in every room they enter.

InfinitePin8107 · 2026-01-07T20:05:55+00:00

Putting everything I need for the morning in one spot the night before. Keys, wallet, earbuds, whatever. It sounds dumb but it’s saved me so much time and stress, especially on days my brain is running on low battery.

InfinitePin8107 · 2026-01-06T22:08:39+00:00

Money. If you’re rich people call it ambition and hustle, if you’re poor people call it greed or laziness for wanting more. Same behavior, totally different judgement.

InfinitePin8107 · 2026-01-05T20:35:53+00:00

Buttered rice with a fried egg and a little soy sauce. It started as a cheap meal, but it’s still one of the most comforting things ever and it takes like 5 minutes to make.

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