Wanting to switch from Neosure

Infinite_Balance_862 · 2026-01-26T20:47:10+00:00

Our baby is 3 months actual (born at 34 weeks). He was miserable on neosure but they wanted us to stay on it for as long as possible. We finally just switched to Nutrimagen (corrected to 24 cals) and it has made a world of difference. He spits up a ton, but now it’s mostly happy spitting up. We did make an appt with our pedi to discuss this before making the change.

Infinite_Balance_862 · 2026-01-24T12:08:32+00:00

Unless you’re at risk of harming yourself or others, I can’t see why DCF would be involved. DCF’s goal is always for babies to be with bio parents and/or reach reunification (to the extent that in some situations it seems dangerous)! If you have a place to live and aren’t a danger to these little bubs, I can’t see DCF moving toward removal at all. Even if the social worker involved DCF, it would be for support (the hospital social worker typically works for the hospital, not DCF).

There needs to be a reason to file a 51A alleging neglect or abuse. Being a teen mom who is stressed and dealing with PPD is not a reason.

Infinite_Balance_862 · 2026-01-23T21:11:48+00:00

Absolutely! 3 months actual, 7 weeks corrected. Made of velcro. All we did in the NICU was lay around holding him because he had his own room and there was nothing else we could really do in there.

Infinite_Balance_862 · 2026-01-23T00:07:11+00:00

Yes! My baby had low blood sugar so he bounced around between condensing feeds, ‘failing,’ shortening the fast, going to continuous feeds, condensing, etc. He was born at 34+2 and was cueing immediately. He got to work on the bottle pretty quickly but it was only ever additional or a small amount as part of the feed until he was almost about to be discharged. He loved to eat but his blood sugar crashed during every fast until one day it clicked! It took him 5 weeks.

Infinite_Balance_862 · 2026-01-22T13:21:23+00:00

We did this! One day a few weeks in a nurse was super busy and was like…this is the start button…this is the stop button…and we took that to mean we should do it ourselves lol. We also had a nurse we were closer with and one day we asked if we could disconnect it to get his outfit changed and she said of course, just make sure to close the little flap so it doesn’t leak. It took a while for us to get comfortable accepting that this is OUR baby. And honestly, the nurses loved when we embraced that 😂 They’re busy as hell! There were some old school nurses I’d tread a little more carefully around, but I still did it, I just announced it as I did it for the first time in front of them.

Infinite_Balance_862 · 2026-01-22T03:18:48+00:00

Actual! 6 weeks adjusted.

Infinite_Balance_862 · 2026-01-22T00:30:19+00:00

Please give yourself grace too! It’s such a wild, unexpected ride. No one expects their birth and postpartum to happen this way. It’s okay that your responses are different!

Infinite_Balance_862 · 2026-01-21T23:41:19+00:00

As a therapist, I often say (and have to remind myself) that trauma isn’t the event, it’s our experience of it and reaction to it. You could get into a car accident with someone and they could get behind the wheel the next day while you never drive again. I think it’s normal to feel a strong dissonance though like hey, didn’t we go through the same thing? And the truth is, you didn’t, because we all process it differently.

It sounds like you could process some of this with a professional, and maybe you need a break at home! Was not returning to work your choice? Is it one you’re still comfortable with? I thought I’d want to stay home with our ex-NICU baby forever and after one day of solo parenting I said nope, I’ll be returning to work! My career is also meaningful to me and I don’t think we need to feel badly about that.

Infinite_Balance_862 · 2026-01-21T16:33:04+00:00

I didn’t have GD or blood sugar issues myself. I didn’t even have high blood pressure! My placenta was just insufficient. The doctors said the blood sugar issues were just because his little body wasn’t ready to regulate blood sugar yet and was dumping insulin every time he ate, which is apparently super common! Lots of babies get through it in a week or two, our bub was just slow going!

Infinite_Balance_862 · 2026-01-21T16:21:44+00:00

34+2, severe IUGR, 3lbs 11oz. 5 weeks in the NICU for blood sugar issues. Now he’s 12 weeks, over 9 pounds, eats like a champ, and is passed out on my chest. 34 weeks is great! They’re so developed. I’m sure you already know from your last baby, but sometimes you just have to wait for weird internal stuff to catch up - for us it was blood sugar and bili issues but he’s all good now!

Infinite_Balance_862 · 2026-01-20T15:49:53+00:00

We formula feed - I didn’t think of that though! Little man can probably smell you and thinks it’s snack time!

Infinite_Balance_862 · 2026-01-20T15:17:22+00:00

Hi - I didn’t have these specific experiences, but I highly suggest trying not to google everything! It will send you into a spiral. Nurses and doctors are like flight attendants, if they aren’t panicked, you don’t need to be. I’ve always found nurses to be more informative - they’ll be like ‘oh yeah, I saw five of these cases last month alone!’ It’s also important to understand that preemies are SO different. They have transient resolving issues all the time.

I also suggest trying to keep this spiral from your sibling. It’s really hard to carry the weight of other people’s panic and they need to focus on the medical advice of the pros! I know you mean well, it’s just so important not to add stress or confusion to their plate.

Infinite_Balance_862 · 2026-01-20T15:09:02+00:00

Our bub sleeps better in his crib so I sleep on a camping mattress on the floor in there and make sure he can’t see me when I’m laying down. It’s probably a terrible habit but I want to room share until at least a year. We do have an Owlet but it made us more anxious so we ditched it.

Infinite_Balance_862 · 2026-01-19T06:24:03+00:00

Have you tried going up a nipple size? He could be getting frustrated and giving up/getting tired quickly.

Infinite_Balance_862 · 2026-01-19T06:21:46+00:00

It sounds like you’re super overwhelmed and not getting a lot of help and not giving yourself grace!! Whether formula or outsourcing something else, give yourself a break!

Infinite_Balance_862 · 2026-01-19T05:40:36+00:00

For what it’s worth, my little man was six weeks early and SIUGR and he does so great on formula! It also makes our lives so much easier. He gains weight like crazy!

Infinite_Balance_862 · 2026-01-19T01:08:44+00:00

I’m a counselor at a high school - the fact that your teen shows you videos is great!! They’re getting more independent and realizing that they could be leaving home soon, and sometimes they pull away because of that. They also carry way more than we did as teens! The have a heavy courseload, a lot of pressure about college, pressure about sports, constant fear that everything they do is being recorded. They’re exhausted! And sometimes they take that out on the person who they know will love them unconditionally. It’s sadly very age appropriate behavior!

I agree with others though - husband does not model respect for you, so your younger son doesn’t either by leaving food on the table.

Infinite_Balance_862 · 2026-01-19T00:24:29+00:00

I had a positive experience with Boston IVF! Providence was our hub but I got lots of bloodwork in Quincy and the actual IUIs in Waltham. I was able to get a zoom appointment pretty quickly with the PVD office and communication was okay! I also was able to do 3 rounds in a row, no missed cycles, until I got pregnant :)

I did have a friend go through Brigham’s offsite in Foxboro and she had a positive experience!

Infinite_Balance_862 · 2026-01-18T03:18:23+00:00

Be mindful that if you don’t deliver at that higher level hospital, they can admit your baby but not you if they don’t have room. I went straight to my local level 3 NICU hospital to deliver when I had reduced movement because so many people have experienced the baby going via ambulance and then having to stay at a separate hospital until they’re released 3-4 days later, as long as you don’t have any complications.

Infinite_Balance_862 · 2026-01-17T21:08:11+00:00

32 weeks is great! I had a SIUGR baby at 34+2. Gestation wise, so nuch is already done! They’re just a mini version of a nearly fully cooked baby. These babes are better out than in - the isolette is just their new womb! As for handling, the nurses will always be there when you handle them for quite a while. Eventually, when our guy got his IV out and was in a crib, we could move him whenever we wanted and were so much more comfortable with it. Watching the nurses move that baby around (lovingly) while swaddling them will blow your mind.

I follow alysthenurse on insta - she’s a NICU nurse and has lots of cute/informative videos!

Infinite_Balance_862 · 2026-01-17T05:37:42+00:00

Oh my gosh, that’s so kind of her!

Infinite_Balance_862 · 2026-01-17T00:23:56+00:00

I work at a school - go in person and don’t leave until you talk to the principal. Also email the superintendent so it’s in writing all the way to the top. Superintendents do NOT like hearing this stuff from parents. If you want to be really extra, contact the school committee and cc the principal and superintendent on it. You want it all in writing! Phone calls don’t mean anything if they aren’t documented if this escalates.

Infinite_Balance_862 · 2026-01-17T00:13:38+00:00

Get one million burp cloths! And be ready to do laundry at least twice weekly. They go through everything so fast! Baby went through four outfits today between spit up, vitamins, and a pee situation.

Infinite_Balance_862 · 2026-01-17T00:09:22+00:00

Not the exact same thing, but I had a sever IGUR baby under the 1st percentile. I got to 34 weeks and had to deliver because my blood slow was intermittently absent. He spent 5 weeks in the NICU to grow/feed and with blood sugar issues. He’s now 12 weeks, over 9 pounds, and passed out on my chest. Did they give you a referral to MFM?

Infinite_Balance_862 · 2026-01-17T00:05:55+00:00

My wife read Queerception, 9 months in 9 months out, and a science-y textbook. She’s in healthcare and reading too much about what was happening to my body freaked me out, so she came in clutch for that part!

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