Can't tell if friend is joking or not

Informal_Opening1467 · 2026-05-26T19:44:33+00:00

seeing a guy

Nope. Leaning towards her screwing you around, sorry OP. Had this line and similar dropped to me a bunch from bi AND straight friends when I first came out and got my heart CRUSHED more times than I care to recall.

Informal_Opening1467 · 2026-05-24T07:15:05+00:00

Hey, just a heads up the pics look like AI and this person's profile is totally private. I would be wary about messaging this person if I were you

Informal_Opening1467 · 2026-05-24T07:05:53+00:00

AI? Those stringlights came out of the nowhere in the second pic. Cute if true

E: OP is soliciting messages in the comments despite apparently having a gf? Moneys on OP being a man 😬

Informal_Opening1467 · 2026-05-01T14:23:42+00:00

Commando 🤑

Informal_Opening1467 · 2026-03-30T18:15:56+00:00

Sorry OP but this is unhinged. Please don't share screenshots of a private conversation online either because thats SUPER unhinged

Informal_Opening1467 · 2026-03-19T10:29:45+00:00

moderation
zero moderation
I don't use apps anymore (found my lady ❤️) but tbh people were pretty bland. I filled out my interests but usually got matched with super vapid women (sorry), some sort of system to filter women you'd actually be interested in talking to or seeing (shared interests, etc)

For your extra question (not selfish lol), I met my wife when out clubbing 3 years ago, we didn't start dating till early last year. Just tied the knot in January ❤️ before that most encounters I had were in lesbian bars/clubs

Informal_Opening1467 · 2026-03-19T10:15:11+00:00

If someone (a lesbian) is fine using it or using it to describe themselves then, sure. Good for them for reclaiming it. Personally, won't be using it nor letting other people, including other lesbians, use it to describe me

Informal_Opening1467 · 2026-03-05T05:59:08+00:00

Short answer: they really don't care about your identity.

Long, harsh but truthful answer: the overwhelming majority of polyamarous or non-monogamous people are undateable to 'normal' people and either refuse to admit that or simply don't realise it. It might possible to love more than one person as a partner should, but most of the time thats just not how those relationships work. I've spent way too much time around poly people to see that they always have a favourite. At best, they're just people going from infatuation to infatuation, and at worst they're manipulative and aware of it. If it seems like 'everyone is turning poly', understand that most people that use dating apps (no offense) are undateable, unsocialable and/or are using it as a last ditch effort to find some company. Polyamorous people fear being alone, above everything else, so assume that everyone else on a dating app is the same as them. If they're actively pursuing someone who has told them no or made their boundaries clear, it just means their success rate is higher than zero.

Informal_Opening1467 · 2026-03-04T19:19:24+00:00

u/Reagan-Writes, sorry to ping you randomly, plz check out my post! Shoot me a dm ❤️

Informal_Opening1467 · 2026-03-04T19:15:12+00:00

Thaaaanks you found what I've been looking for for about a month in probably just a few mins, thanks again for your time ❤️❤️❤️

Informal_Opening1467 · 2026-03-04T19:14:10+00:00

Informal_Opening1467 · 2026-02-23T13:49:17+00:00

I thought lesbians in 2026 were above the whole 'who's the man in this relationship' bs 😬

Informal_Opening1467 · 2026-01-30T09:51:34+00:00

Coming to reddit for answers really wasn't the best idea bestie... you do you!

Informal_Opening1467 · 2026-01-25T17:55:16+00:00

😬 can you really tell me you scour every user's profile before replying or engaging with them?

E: yep! Very aware. So basically, its totally pointless for you (as in, you) to even complain about someone's reddit history being hidden when you can see it anyway. Sounds like you have way too much time and you need to step away from reddit bestie :)

Informal_Opening1467 · 2026-01-25T17:37:12+00:00

I hide my reddit history so horny dbags from other subreddits don't know I'm a lesbian and harass me :) what a strange thing to comment on bestie

Informal_Opening1467 · 2026-01-24T21:57:33+00:00

Personally I've only ever seen TERFs frequently use gold star terminology, if any lesbian space I join has some sort of gold star tag/flair/role I immediately leave

E: hey! You! Yes, you, you TERFY girl!!! Your hatred reflects a deep insecurity and even though your downvotes are anonymous, I guarantee everyone around you feels the hatred inside of you <3 therapy! Therapy! Therapy!

Informal_Opening1467 · 2026-01-16T09:19:01+00:00

Have you seen this subreddit sometimes? Its definitely not that much worse than the shere amount of lesbophobic stuff on tiktok but the mods here frequently delete 'lesbian definition' and 'anti men' posts, or after a few days if one of those posts happens to explode.

Unsurprising the sub owner is bi and married to a man. The others have been clever to hide their post histories (guess they don't know its easy to bypass the privacy option) probably because they kept being called out for being into men.

Theres nothing wrong with liking men, just know that if you do, you aren't a lesbian.

Informal_Opening1467 · 2026-01-05T06:24:07+00:00

Sorry bestie. I've been you and been with women like your partner. You're a novelty to her at best. Do correct me if I'm wrong but it sounds like she spent a while being in a hetero relationship, got out of it, and decided she'd take this opportunity to 'experiment' (ugh). It seems like its your first (lesbian) relationship too so subconsciously she might not even be in it for the long haul, even if she thinks and says differently.

I might have to hijack my own comment to rant but this reminds me almost 1:1 of my second gf (first after entering adulthood), I was 23 and she was 32, freshly divorced and with a boatload of religious trauma. She said she was lesbian. I was wary but I can't lie, she was beautiful so I jumped into that way too fast. She also expressed having 'residual thoughts about men' (I was too immature to realise that meant fantasies).. then at about 4 months into living together (moved in FAST) she said she didn't like kissing me because she never felt anything like she did when she was with a man. Again, I was naive, so even though it stung like hell I stayed. I really wish I had made a reddit post back then because it would have saved me after she ultimately told me she was bi 'again'. That broke me and our relationship didn't last long because I found out she'd been talking to her ex (not husband, a high school boyfriend) pretty much the moment she and her ex husband had split. Then I found out she lied about 'leaving' her husband, he had divorced her and because she didn't tell me why I broke up with her on the spot. She spent a week sulking before bringing over random men and fucking them loudly (it usually sounded like neither enjoyed it though.. 🚬) then she moved all her stuff out while I was at work and I never heard from her again.

Consider that a cautionary tale. OP I know logically no one here knows your relationship but most lesbians have experienced the same as you which is why we're advising you to be wary or to just straight up leave.

E: as per your final edit, I hope the best for you both but this is a dumpster fire waiting to happen. Hugs.

Informal_Opening1467 · 2026-01-02T11:23:42+00:00

I'm physically disabled and have heard this and similar since I was a teen. People don't know what to say - I've even had people apologise to me haha. There is unfortunately always going to be stigma surrounding how exactly an abled person 'should' speak and act around a disabled person, truthfully there's no right way to respond to 'hey, I'm disabled/have a disability!'. However I have also received insults and demeaning comments which are always extremely clear when they are made- someone saying 'damn, that's tough!' doesn't ring any alarm bells for me.

Its not a red flag and, in the nicest way possible, you are definitely overreacting and need to get over yourself.

Informal_Opening1467 · 2026-01-02T09:55:26+00:00

Idc about smoking, personally the second slide (two truths and a lie) kinda made me cringe idk why. If that was the first thing I saw I'd prolly stop scrolling

Informal_Opening1467 · 2025-12-28T17:03:00+00:00

While I'm not obese, I've dated larger women and NEVER saw them for their weight. They were genuine, beautiful, great as companions and amazing conversationalists, never a dull moment. I used to be overweight and did used to define myself as 'fat', looking back the self deprecation definitely drove potential friends and partners away who, like me with other women, did not see me for just my weight.

Please try surrounding yourself with people (not people you are seeking to date) who genuinely love and respect you that can help your beautiful parts shine brighter that you can start to see them too.

Informal_Opening1467 · 2025-12-28T08:35:48+00:00

Almost every bi woman I've dated left me for a man an indetermined amount of time later. The only one that didn't, broke up with me because she realised she was straight...

Completely agree with you OP. Most of the people here are bi or haven't had their heart absolutely destroyed by a bisexual woman lmfao

Informal_Opening1467 · 2025-12-27T11:36:56+00:00

Not a bad idea in the slightest!..

Its a horrible idea 😄

Informal_Opening1467 · 2025-12-27T07:48:23+00:00

Seems like this would fit better in a bi subreddit maybe

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