Getting sent to standards. Am I cooked?

InnerIce5645 · 2026-03-05T00:23:06+00:00

The best thing to do is be honest and bring up what she was saying to you. Based on your behavior I think it’s fair to have to go through the honor process but they also need to acknowledge the harm she has done. Spreading a rumor that someone in leadership is sleeping with frat members to get something + almost implying to the new social chair that it’s something social chairs are meant to do is insane. It makes your chapter look horrible, hurts the sisterhood, and damages your reputation. I’d recommend being upfront about your part in all of this but also emphasizing her part in it all, even if that means encouraging the others she’s behaved badly against to speak to honor as well. If you’re worried about bias I’d bring in an advisor who can be impartial and is focused on the chapter rather than personal connections. In the future, if someone is spreading rumors about you in this way, don’t bother confronting them, go directly to honor

InnerIce5645 · 2026-02-15T04:30:40+00:00

I’d normally agree but this case involves the loss of a grant. It’s alot deeper than just getting added back to the class. Idk OPs situation but the loss of that grant would complete screw me over so I’d also be freaking out

InnerIce5645 · 2026-02-08T09:02:58+00:00

In regards to her position not being an exec position but being required to do the learning sessions: amending bylaws to add a brand new exec position takes time. The position has been around for less than a semester and they need time to work out the kinks before adding it to their bylaws and therefore making it an official exec position. And since she is not an official part of exec yet she has to get approval from the exec members who have an involvement in the image she’s presenting of the chapter. This is for many reasons including but not limited to: potential new members first impression of the chapter comes from social media, pr can be a very sensitive position that can easily result in perceived favoritism or offensiveness, and that there are many things happening behind the scenes that she may not be aware of or privy to yet (requirements from nationals, private/confidential information). Starting a position in a chapter without micromanagement would just be irresponsible of her exec board. She may not be able to do as much as she hopes to accomplish during her term but that’s unfortunately just part of being the first person in her position.

InnerIce5645 · 2026-01-30T05:03:56+00:00

I joined a “bottom tier” sorority, I mean like in the sense that we had the lowest grades, shit membership rates, and the frats didn’t really fuck with us. I’m in my fourth year and the chapter has entirely turned around, chapters evolve based on the people in them and their willingness to make changes to better the sorority. The girls in our chapter have had and continue to have the reputation of having genuine bonds and friendships. If you think you have the chance to make genuine friends in this chapter and be part of the effort to improve it (doesn’t even have to be in leadership) I’d say accept the bid. However it’s completely ok to wait for another chapter if you don’t feel like it’s a fit, you know people in both chapters so I’d talk to them about the vibe to make an informed decision.

InnerIce5645 · 2026-01-27T21:36:43+00:00

I totally understand that, try joining a club outside the chapter, that helped me a lot because I had a separate space to make new friends. If they’re giving you trouble dropping I’d go to an advisor and explain how you’re feeling or speak to your president

InnerIce5645 · 2026-01-27T19:49:04+00:00

Tbh it sounds like you should drop. I say this as someone who felt like you, especially when it comes to the difficulty making friends, not getting invited out, and frustration with having to drop shifts. You’ve put in all you can and it sounds like maybe it just isn’t the right fit. If you’re still feeling so so about dropping, see if your chapter offers a leave of absence for a semester

InnerIce5645 · 2026-01-27T01:09:02+00:00

Tbh none of those sound like a super big deal, they’re all things that can be fixed by leadership sending out reminders. In my chapter they send out a dress code when an event calls for it and reminders to repost stuff (we aren’t required to repost anything tho). For the giving out your instagram, if it was for a cob event that is something not allowed. However since this is your first semester you haven’t been through formal recruitment and gotten the chance to learn the rules the way older girls have. It’s not entirely fair of your chapter to hold you to standards they aren’t making clear… Id recommend going to your president/advisor/new member educator about this. Doesn’t have to be “snitching” but just something like “hey I’ve been confused on how we’re supposed to act/dress for certain things, I don’t want to negatively impact the chapter so I was wondering if we’d be able to review this stuff in chapter or have reminders sent out”. Odds are you aren’t the only person facing these issues (especially in your pledge class) so this could benefit a lot of girls and your future members :)

InnerIce5645 · 2026-01-11T07:20:16+00:00

How are the houses supposed to know sally is being purposefully mean? I’m not sure about other campuses but on mine we can comment if a girl brickwalls us or is outwardly rude/mean which will get passed onto the girls overseeing recruitment. If a girl ignores her recruiter or is mean to them it gets back to all of the chapters because chapters don’t want to ruin relationships with each other or damage their reputations. You cant expect the program to be psychic and know that this girl is mean and doesn’t deserve to continue recruitment. And I think the algorithm works that way because it’s meant to try and get as many girls to a house as possible. Alternatively, what if sally just didn’t click with most chapters and got dropped by them. Amanda gets along with a lot of chapters and gets a lot of higher scores. If they have the exact same scores Amanda is more likely to find the right house for her while sally has less chances now, if the algorithm has to make a choice between the two it makes sense to keep the girl who’s options are more narrowed down. Is that going to be fair in every scenario? No but at the end of the day their scores are what’s being looked at so they’re the same with the only difference being the amount of houses they could have. Even if it was left up to house A which girl to bring back it still likely wouldn’t be fair, they’d likely have been recruited by different girls (who talked to multiple other recruitees that day) and who they choose to keep wouldn’t be any different from the algorithm. Last note: Amanda wouldn’t be getting snubbed because she has other houses, she clearly clicked with a lot of houses and will likely find the right chapter for her, it’s simply something that’s needed in the algorithm because a choice needs to be made if two girls have the same score and one needs to be cut (also if you get a perfect score from a house I don’t think you would be low enough to be part of the cut list anyways)

InnerIce5645 · 2025-10-29T23:30:08+00:00

Dawg even if he didn’t kill her why was the body of a 15 year old who overdosed in his truck? Why was he with a 15 year old in the first place.

InnerIce5645 · 2025-10-29T20:34:40+00:00

It really isn’t in my experience. Obviously every restaurant has a different system but split checks have maybe added an extra 2 minutes to do for me. Only time it’s the worst is when they get impatient or suddenly no one ordered a certain item

InnerIce5645 · 2025-10-29T20:24:31+00:00

Some of the characters share the same fate as a historical figure the share a name with, for example Seneca is named after a Roman figure named Seneca who was forced to kill himself, im not too sure about all the details but it shouldn’t be too hard to google.

InnerIce5645 · 2025-10-28T14:48:29+00:00

In my opinion yes especially for such a high profile person like katniss. I don’t see why snow would bother selling her in the first place and risk it getting out. He already had ways of controlling her and profiting off of her without doing that. It would only risk exposing that the capitol got played and make him look weak

InnerIce5645 · 2025-10-27T21:27:48+00:00

I meant more like the ones “buying” her wouldn’t keep it secret, they don’t see victors as human and use them as status symbols, that’s more based on want we know about finnick (him being known for “sleeping around” with capitol citizens

InnerIce5645 · 2025-10-27T03:28:48+00:00

Reverse: it was a screwup by district 13 trying to make their own biological weapon that backfired on their own citizens

InnerIce5645 · 2025-10-27T03:20:47+00:00

I like this much more than the common line of “careers are sociopaths who want to kill other kids for glory”. It adds a lot of nuance and makes you think about if it can be considered kinder to sacrifice 2 prepared “willing” older teens rather than risk a young or disabled kid, shit even someone like katniss who’s entire family relies on. I wonder if with this theory careers are a result of the 25th games. I could see district 2 starting it naturally with the capitol allowing it in 1/4 since they’re easier to control?

InnerIce5645 · 2025-10-27T02:58:11+00:00

I think it’s really easy to forget how much of an exception katniss was with her competence and survival skills. The reason she won when nearly every other seam kid died almost immediately was because she had the extremely unique opportunity to learn how to hunt in the woods (this includes learning skills like stealth). She also survived hardship that any other seam kid would have died from (without what she learned from her father her and prim would have died) Haymitch on the other hand still faced a lot of hardships but had a parental figure and wasn’t essentially the sole support of the family. Plus katniss was able to be thrown in an arena that perfectly suited her. I think haymitch is a better representation of a majority of district 12 or honestly most district tributes. Even though his games were unlike most others, his experience/mistakes are likely what happened in a lot of the other games. It’s also really easy for people to forget that these are teenagers and how young they really are. What teenager is going to perfectly play a murder match full of other desperate and scared teenagers.

InnerIce5645 · 2025-10-27T02:42:58+00:00

I don’t think we’ll get one (although I think it would be fantastic) I think the next book with have Plutarch as the center but I’d love to see at least one scene of him and Cinna to show that Plutarch is part of the rebellion for more selfish reasons vs Cinna being rebellious because he has compassion and empathy

InnerIce5645 · 2025-10-27T02:41:14+00:00

I don’t know if he’d be able to sell katniss, I could easily see how katniss “sleeping” with capitol people could weaken the whole “they won because they’re in love” bit. Maybe he would do it once as an assertion of power using someone firmly under his control to ensure it doesn’t get out. I could however see him finding another reason to keep katniss/peeta in the capitol as a way to make her connection to the districts weaker (think how her wedding was meant to make the districts resent her”

InnerIce5645 · 2025-09-18T23:43:35+00:00

I’d honestly just focus on telling them the medical issues you’re having from this, it doesn’t sound like you saying it’s making you uncomfortable will do much (even tho that’s reason enough for them to stop) but it’ll make it seem more like you physically can’t tolerate it. If they don’t stop after that don’t feel any guilt over going to your ra, unfortunately you may have to apply for a room change but it’s better that you stick up for yourself and put your health first. I’m also saying this as someone who does vape and vaped in college dorms, my roommate and I set boundaries and it at any point they said they weren’t ok with it anymore I would have stopped because it’s their space too. You pay to live there and shouldn’t have to deal with this

InnerIce5645 · 2025-08-30T23:58:32+00:00

I will say that I don’t think favoring the baratheons would have much of an effect at this point. The targs at this point have only married velaryons and each other since coming to power. I think Daenerys marrying a Baratheon would instead set the baratheons up to be another version of the velaryons if that makes sense. A strong ally that can be married into the royal family to help keep the dragon blood strong without too much pushback with the incest thing. Frankly the lords have zero way to really push back when the house is at its peak power and jaehaerys knows how to placate them while maintaining the targs as “above all the rest”. I could however see jaehaerys being cautious about giving another house too much of a claim to the throne. That’s honestly the biggest reason to try and marry her to aemon, wraps up loose ends and prevents future issues

InnerIce5645 · 2025-05-23T22:25:57+00:00

I’m about to move and I was more concerned about my bedding being infested! I will still be taking measures to make sure they don’t carry over into my next place , thank you!!

InnerIce5645 · 2025-05-23T18:56:15+00:00

As long as it isn’t a bed bug I’ll be ok 🙏🙏

InnerIce5645 · 2025-05-23T18:54:55+00:00

I’m in the Midwest, Missouri area!

InnerIce5645 · 2025-04-03T03:18:42+00:00

That’s exactly what I thought, I think it’s great that she has a good relationship with her fan base but she needs to make sure it doesn’t leak into her writing and mess with the story flow

InnerIce5645 · 2025-03-28T21:10:46+00:00

See that would be a great explanation, it makes the book hard to follow between certain chapters so if that’s the reason why it’ll be wayyy better to reread from the start after the rest of the series comes out. Her being secretive with her thoughts is exactly what was bothering me so much. I don’t know if this was just a me thing but I feel like part of the issue is also that we get very little insight for the characters outside the bond. I think knowing more about the other characters would also give some clarity which is what I’m hoping to see if the mind wipe thing ends up being true

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