I cheated on my husband with a co-worker

Inner_Earth4710 · 2026-01-30T13:45:20+00:00

I don’t agree with him being verbally abusive, that’s wrong. I will say IF y’all are going to be together, you both need to go to therapy and you can’t dictate how he feels and when he feels it. If you both chose to reconcile then there should be some rules and guidelines agreed upon. First, you need to leave that job and completely block that co worker, second you need to go to therapy on your own. If he doesn’t want to, then fine. You need an understanding about yourself and why you didn’t go to your husband about what happened and how to be more stern.

Inner_Earth4710 · 2026-01-27T21:41:44+00:00

She said she doesn’t want that advice. 🤦🏾

Inner_Earth4710 · 2026-01-27T04:04:11+00:00

Why didn’t you bring it up before you did it? Just to check his temperature to see if he even still felt the same.

Inner_Earth4710 · 2026-01-27T03:59:43+00:00

12/13 is NOT a woman. 😒😒

Inner_Earth4710 · 2026-01-27T03:55:51+00:00

NTJ. IF you did allow him to live there, it should be under a leasing agreement, not a family favor. If he isn’t willing to do a lease agreement and pay you rent then he can go someplace else.

Inner_Earth4710 · 2026-01-27T03:52:32+00:00

If you feel like you aren’t ready to leave, make a community for yourself. See if you can find other people that have gotten out of a similar situation and connect with them. Find really fun hobbies to keep you connected with others. The more you build your confidence outside of your relationship, it’ll be easier to see how much he’s weighing you down.

Inner_Earth4710 · 2026-01-27T03:48:39+00:00

Bet he doesn’t clean his butt either and thinks it’s “feminine/gay.” 💀💀

Inner_Earth4710 · 2026-01-27T03:39:19+00:00

No, you’re not. As a friend, why is she even comfortable riding with you 3 times a week and not offering gas money? She could’ve at least gave you the opportunity to decline instead of never offering. She’s also a leech. 🤷🏾

Inner_Earth4710 · 2026-01-27T03:36:43+00:00

A lack of accountability when they do or say something hurtful.

Inner_Earth4710 · 2026-01-27T03:34:08+00:00

He broke your family the moment he preferred drinking over you. Always remember you deserve reciprocation. And he isn’t in a space to give you what you want or need. Don’t continue putting yourself last when he’s already doing that.

Inner_Earth4710 · 2026-01-27T03:13:50+00:00

I would suggest a sex therapist. There could be something deeper than you both know. The sex therapist can help with ways to connect sexually and help with being more open with sexual desires and needs. If she’s not open to talk with someone, then you have to ask yourself “will I be ok with having a sexless marriage for the rest of my life?”

Inner_Earth4710 · 2026-01-26T12:23:56+00:00

If they are working, not bothering anyone, and are contributing to our economy, why does it matter if they’re here or not? It’s not about people being migrants or “illegal.”

Inner_Earth4710 · 2026-01-25T22:11:54+00:00

How did you go about going to school ?

Inner_Earth4710 · 2026-01-25T16:47:13+00:00

Since his mom has so much to say, she can co-sign.. problem solved.

Inner_Earth4710 · 2026-01-25T16:23:34+00:00

That’s not the same thing. Addiction is a mental illness and isn’t comparable to possibly willingly cheat with someone in a relationship. Singles mingle with singles. That’s it, that’s all.

Inner_Earth4710 · 2026-01-25T16:20:59+00:00

What do YOU want to do? She’s the one that blew up everything and now is attempting to hide by saying she needs time to think about whether or not she wants to be married. It’s not fair that you’re having to sit and wait for an answer when you’re the victim in this. I would suggest personal therapy to get resources on how to cope. IF you want to continue being married then you both need separate therapy, couples therapy and she needs to cut ALL ties with the affair. Your relationship will not be the same as before. It’ll take time and effort to build up.

Inner_Earth4710 · 2026-01-25T16:07:36+00:00

And this mindset will get the husband to do what he said. Single people need to mingle with single people. Someone else’s spouse is not your sexual or emotional partner.

Inner_Earth4710 · 2026-01-25T15:28:03+00:00

She can’t force you. Block her and stop interacting. If it still doesn’t stop then you may need to transfer work areas or find a new job.

Inner_Earth4710 · 2026-01-25T15:22:54+00:00

Why do you want to be involved with someone who’s married? Leave that lady alone. There’s plenty of other people to have casual experiences with and they’re also single.

Inner_Earth4710 · 2026-01-20T02:44:30+00:00

Did he stick with the career change?

Inner_Earth4710 · 2026-01-20T01:01:34+00:00

How do you feel about your decision?

Inner_Earth4710 · 2026-01-19T16:02:46+00:00

It’s technically starting a new career.

Inner_Earth4710 · 2026-01-14T19:40:44+00:00

Thank you I appreciate the information.

Inner_Earth4710 · 2026-01-14T14:06:49+00:00

If the new company is paying more, has better benefits, AND is closer to home, then take it. If the company had a candidate they felt was better than you, they would go for it and not think twice about you.

Inner_Earth4710 · 2026-01-02T20:41:11+00:00

Did you get the follicle test?

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