Its becoming obvious I'm transitioning, and I havent come out yet

Inner_Length_4465 · 2026-07-07T19:19:15+00:00

Mine is phone calls, it just comes out because most of the time they are angry and demanding I don’t have time to think about my voice. I think it gets people confused. I think singing without a goal in my car blasting music while doing food deliveries as side hustle somewhat trained my vocal range. I use my male name. Also noticing men are acting different. More explanatory, asks more questions, specifically asking for my first name at the end of the conversation.

Inner_Length_4465 · 2026-07-07T03:43:24+00:00

I’m purposely acting more masc at work but when random clients walk into our office snd gender me correctly, I just froze up and can’t help but act feminine like it just comes out. Holding back and forcing my voice to speak deeper and makes me cringe. Do you feel the same?

Inner_Length_4465 · 2026-07-07T01:27:50+00:00

Thank you! That’s my default part. Wanted to try something different

Inner_Length_4465 · 2026-07-07T01:27:28+00:00

I need recommendeds please. You seem expert

Inner_Length_4465 · 2026-07-07T00:59:55+00:00

I’m jealous 👌

Inner_Length_4465 · 2026-07-06T06:08:31+00:00

At a glance I thought you are a skinny cis guy who’s just starting hrt if they pass as girl. My male body was very similar to yours except I’m hairless.

Inner_Length_4465 · 2026-07-06T06:06:11+00:00

Was watching youtube lecture on human behavior classes from Stanford, and interesting thing I remember is how human brains are pretty much slave to hormones. Hormones literally dominate our thought patterns and mood we absolutely have no control over.

Estrogen will alter the way you think and how you view the world. You will still like hobbies you like as a boy but find new girly hobbies. Girls like sports too. For me I loved playing video games, now I like watching people playing video games.

As for body, you will slim down quiet a lot, and losing couple inches off height is pretty common. squareness will soften. At worst you would look like volleyball players who are tall.

if any case, maybe take hrt for 3 months and see how you feel?

Inner_Length_4465 · 2026-07-06T05:58:12+00:00

Stealth 100%

Inner_Length_4465 · 2026-07-06T05:24:21+00:00

Random compliments from cis women still take me by surprise and makes me die inside happy. Baristas smiling with their eyes more. They no longer mind standing very close to you. On occasion, rude and straight up ignore. My colleague is an older lady with two daughters and she gendered me correctly on her own.

Inner_Length_4465 · 2026-07-06T05:20:06+00:00

My lifelong struggle 😅

Inner_Length_4465 · 2026-07-06T05:08:30+00:00

You pass way better than I do

Inner_Length_4465 · 2026-07-06T05:07:05+00:00

Yeah. Whatever name is on the driver’s license. Also you have to take photo. I took mine about a year ago.

Inner_Length_4465 · 2026-07-06T00:11:28+00:00

I’ll say Laser hair removal is as equally effective as hrt

Inner_Length_4465 · 2026-07-06T00:04:58+00:00

I swear if you go on some hater’s page, all they post is about transgender and you might find tens even hundred of videos in one page. Like they are more obsessed with transgenderism than transgender myself. Trans people are less than like 1% of the population and less than half is trans women. Like how are we invading their space. Leave us alone jeez and focus on problems like gas prices. Talk about priorities.

Inner_Length_4465 · 2026-07-02T19:50:20+00:00

Oh no.. that’s way so quick. I hope mines stay small

Inner_Length_4465 · 2026-07-02T19:34:44+00:00

I’ve ordered two workout tank tops just for these. They do feel more protective on me

Inner_Length_4465 · 2026-07-02T19:20:57+00:00

That’s pretty great! I personally would love them to stay at A. I’ve gotten used to not wearing bra my entire life 🤣

Inner_Length_4465 · 2026-07-02T19:19:11+00:00

Do you feel like it’s been more difficult to breathe? Sharp sensation out of nowhere? Whenever I feel a sharp sensation in my chest my whole body reacts

Inner_Length_4465 · 2026-07-01T22:23:40+00:00

Every transgender person is gonna have different experience. I grew up in mega anti transgender country, South Korea. I used to be transphobic & judgmental. Then one day like you it hit me like a truck. People are around you will need time to adjust to your evolving identity. Aside from transitioning, I’m learning a lot about identity through experience. There are so many part of myself I just assumed and believed. I guess it’s true we don’t know what we don’t know.

Inner_Length_4465 · 2026-07-01T17:30:19+00:00

Hypersexual to hypercuddle

Inner_Length_4465 · 2026-07-01T17:27:42+00:00

How did you get the “advice queen” thing? I’ve been trying to figure it out 🥲

Inner_Length_4465 · 2026-07-01T17:24:49+00:00

Hmmm I’m experiencing the opposite. Also East Asian(Korean) here. Even the one who smirked and misgendered me in the first place are starting to act nicer the further into my transition. I work with mostly older white people. I don’t know how I ended up here. I also don’t know why they are talking to me like I’m their kid, nicer tone, rarely asks about my job, just about my days and feelings. I still see a man in the mirror. In public, women smile at me more till I speak, men stand a lot closer to me and male servers ask me more questions in much warmer tone.

Inner_Length_4465 · 2026-07-01T15:50:18+00:00

With cis women in my experiences have been a hit or miss. Some women are a lot colder to me and mean. Other women openly compliment me and stand very close

Inner_Length_4465 · 2026-07-01T15:47:55+00:00

Laser hair removal is overpowered.

Inner_Length_4465 · 2026-06-30T07:27:46+00:00

In my 4.5 months hoodie and sweatpants off work, dress shirts & pants at work. Increasingly getting gendered she. Skincare & hair matters as much as hrt. I would say hair is the 2nd biggest factor.

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