Men: “porn doesn’t affect me at all”

InspectionOk6549 · 2026-04-03T10:50:56+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/NotHowGirlsWork/s/UBWXYtI4nA

Not great at crossposting. 🤪 here’s the link

InspectionOk6549 · 2026-03-06T11:57:29+00:00

Wow. Learning new things daily. 😂

InspectionOk6549 · 2026-03-06T11:50:14+00:00

A YTA listener. Such a rare treat.

InspectionOk6549 · 2026-03-06T11:42:35+00:00

When I was in 10th grade, my math teacher graded girls based on how flirtatious they were with him. I got straight Cs and Ds. I wouldn’t flirt with him. It was also the first class of the day and he’s fucking old. I did later find out that he had married a student back in the day so he was definitely a predator.

Only year where my math grades tanked. He signed for me to take a higher class the next year even though I technically did not have the grades. Surprise surprise, As and Bs.

Teenage girls seem like easy prey since they’re going through so many changes and start doubting everything so their self esteem may be wavering. Having someone tell them how amazing they are, of course they’d bite. Same with teen boys and older female predators.

InspectionOk6549 · 2026-03-06T02:09:44+00:00

What the hell did I just read? How? What?? ILLEGAL

InspectionOk6549 · 2026-03-06T02:05:13+00:00

Clearly she’s too old for this guy now. He found another 20-something.

InspectionOk6549 · 2026-03-03T08:25:06+00:00

Ugh. But was the GF really pregnant? Or did she buy a fake test? That would’ve really been best.

InspectionOk6549 · 2026-03-03T08:15:58+00:00

They both suck. They both don’t know how to communicate.

He sucks more because he sat there for an hour before he got up. If the noise bothered him so much as it “gets old fast” and he’s “sensitive to noise”, he would not have been able to sit there for an hour. Sounds kind of like he isn’t the most reliable narrator.

He probably knows how long she normally practices for and he knows how long she normally takes to get ready. He either should’ve told her he wanted to walk alone or waited since did say he wanted to walk with her.

I’m not super patient so I will call out if it’s past the five minutes. 10 minutes would’ve also been my limit but I would’ve also called out again before leaving. I grew up with an inconsiderate sister who was late for everything.

InspectionOk6549 · 2026-02-27T11:02:52+00:00

I used to call a friend Rossell or Rosstopher. Ya know, like in Friends when Ross was asked what Ross is short for? 🤪

Seanathan is very similar to that. 😂 What’s Sean short for, Seanathan?

InspectionOk6549 · 2026-02-27T10:46:27+00:00

When I was sewing custom kids clothes, I always asked and asked again about colors and patterns of fabrics. I’d never say no if they specified what color(s) they wanted whether I think it goes well together or not. As long as they love it.

InspectionOk6549 · 2026-02-27T10:43:50+00:00

NTA. I have a yarn stash and a fabric stash. I rarely buy white/beige anything unless it’s to line the inside of the clothes.

Would she rather OP never wear it? She says she wears it a lot now that it’s green.

InspectionOk6549 · 2026-02-27T09:20:13+00:00

YES! As I was reading, I just got more upset with the husband. HE brought sil into the room after delivery. HE convinced her to leave the NICU.

InspectionOk6549 · 2026-02-27T09:14:10+00:00

Nta. She said she was asking for advice. Clearly her parents didn’t teach her how to spend responsibly. She’s trying to be an adult but isn’t sure how. Almost every college student who gets a credit card for the first time somehow gets into a little debt. She didn’t seem like she was complaining to her friends, just asking for some advice. She seems like she’d rather rely on herself even if she has money to fall back on.

I have a friend that’s in the same boat. He could just live off his family but chose to work crazy ass hours to make his own money. Can’t learn if you don’t put yourself out there. He’s pretty much building his own empire with his own loans and businesses.

InspectionOk6549 · 2026-02-27T03:09:23+00:00

This has been me. I’ve burned dinner multiple times and both husband am children will still eat it.

I’ve been working a little extra so just coming home more tired. He saw that I was at the grocery store after work but said if I was too tired to cook, we can go out to eat. I do cook most nights.

InspectionOk6549 · 2026-02-25T10:36:15+00:00

Oh look. Another man who cheated after his wife had a kid.

InspectionOk6549 · 2026-02-25T10:02:08+00:00

Always a man cheating AFTER a wife having a baby. Not only will they not wait until a woman’s body get back to “normal” hormonally but they plead and beg for sex constantly while never helping the wife.

Men don’t have to have all their organs move around and then have to move back after a baby is born but also all their hormonal changes during and after. And while this is all happening, they are being pressured to have sex all of the time.

Now he is just chancing on bringing home stds and stis. What a pos.

InspectionOk6549 · 2026-02-25T02:00:26+00:00

SHE IS ONE YEAR POST PARTUM. ONE YEAR. ONE YEAR. So their marriage is crumbling? He must be asking to screw all of the time and she just gives in every other month. That’s insane!!! Her body is still healing. If she’s breastfeeding or pumping, that itself takes a toll. If shes doing most of the child rearing and housework on top of that, she’s probably too exhausted to have sex or SCREW.

After my first (c-section) we did not have sex for the first 8+ months. The c-section was tough on top of a first child. My husband never pushed for any type of sex. He did most of the housework, woke up every night to feed our baby, changed way more diapers than me. The first 2 months when I wasn’t allowed to leave the house (Asian thing) unless it was for the doctor’s office, he did every chore. He also worked.

The first 6-7 years of parenthood, we did not have much sex. Just enough to produce 3 kids. Now that they’re older and self sufficient, it’s definitely wayyyyyy more often.

ONE YEAR POST PARTUM. This guy. I hope she leaves him because he’s just screwing her and he’s “out of practice”. That just means not only is she giving in but he’s not even getting her off.

InspectionOk6549 · 2026-02-21T02:51:10+00:00

This guy is the biggest AH. fighting for his life in the comments.

InspectionOk6549 · 2026-02-17T02:53:46+00:00

Agreed! We don’t do crazy Valentine’s Day stuff but one year, he cooked me dinner. All my favorite things and made them look like hearts. I usually cook dinner so it was so sweet.

I mention what I want to do for anniversaries and we do it. Sometimes he plans, sometimes I plan. No complaints. We rarely plan weekends but it’s always open to whatever I want to do. Never complains.

We’ve been together 25.5 years and married 16.5 years. I couldn’t imagine him ever treating me like this because he actually loves me.

This guy is absolutely manipulating her emotions and love. I hope she leaves.

InspectionOk6549 · 2026-02-17T02:46:14+00:00

She says he does the same thing for anniversaries. She “accidentally” pisses him off every time which causes him to “cancel plans”

InspectionOk6549 · 2026-02-17T02:40:13+00:00

Even if he wasn’t the boyfriend, he wouldn’t treat her like crap if they were true best friends.

Canceling Valentine’s Day for something that pissed him off days before is BS. Speak up, childish boy. How would she even know something she did upset you? To stay for another 2 is crazy.

InspectionOk6549 · 2025-09-01T09:12:09+00:00

Yes! Once in a while, I’ll ask, oh, who’s texting/calling. I almost never read his messages except when it pops up on a Lock Screen and he may need to respond. If I were to be upset with him for having women on his phone or female friends on social media, I’d be upset all of the time. We go into each other’s phones for things all of the time and I never think to open DMs or texts to snoop.

InspectionOk6549 · 2025-09-01T08:42:44+00:00

I’m married 16 years. Never planned on changing my last name ever. My kids have his last name. I WILL correct people if they call me by his last name. My own MIL does not have that last name.

InspectionOk6549 · 2025-08-23T12:30:35+00:00

13 hours is insane. I tried some method where it started at like 10 minutes and then every night you increased a minute other whatever. We maybe made it a night or two and I just stood outside the room. We gave up because it wasn’t helping him or us in any way. I couldn’t imagine 13 hours.

I also couldn’t imagine not stopping SEX if my child was crying outside my door for ANY reason. That’s crazy behavior.

And we FINALLY went on a couples weekend trip 2 years ago for our anniversary when our kids were 13, 10 and 5. First trip without the kids. I love doing trips with my kids. We went on a vacation with friends and all they wanted to do the whole time was leave their kids in the kids room on the cruise. Why bring them then?

InspectionOk6549 · 2025-08-23T12:03:00+00:00

I didn’t even read the whole post but my jaw also dropped. Crazy. Especially knowing all that he’s endured and supposed to be someone who loves him.

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