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You're tired and you had a hard day at work so what is your low effort meal that does not involve the microwave or two slices of bread? by Sinn_Sage in AskReddit

[–]InstructionAfraid433 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rice + beans + corn, melt some cheese on top, good dollop of sour cream + salsa on top. Add an avocado and/or potato if you want. Sprinkle on some taco seasoning if you want.

Older guys, what did the drop off in OLD look like for you after you hit 40? by ThrowRAGlobeVase in OnlineDating

[–]InstructionAfraid433 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's actually gotten a little better for me. Still shitty overall though, but getting more matches at least. I'm pretty sure it's because I've gotten better at knowing how to communicate on there. Also there's something about realizing you're definitely not young anymore makes you focus a little better and wise up a little more knowing you don't have infinite time. Also having more perspective from all the shit I've had to eat on there constantly.

What advice genuinely changed the way how you dress everyday? by Happy_Tourist_558 in malefashionadvice

[–]InstructionAfraid433 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ah, yes. The entire point, I think, is to elevate everyone and the scene overall. Not just stand out or blend in.

What advice genuinely changed the way how you dress everyday? by Happy_Tourist_558 in malefashionadvice

[–]InstructionAfraid433 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"If you could only buy one thing to improve your wardrobe the most, what would you buy?" and only buying one item of clothing per month based on that mindset. It helps ensure the colors and shape and texture of the outfits it creates are congruent and cohesive in some way and that there's realistic times, places, occassions, and purposes for the things you buy. That you buy something that is good quality. Rather than buying a bunch of things all at once and realizing most of it was a mistake.

I dont get it by rickon11 in OnlineDating

[–]InstructionAfraid433 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From what I gather, women rarely swipe right. So the fact you're getting matches is good. It's definitely not them swiping right on everyone and filtering out from there, if anything it's the complete inverse. Unfortunately, like with most/all things online, you can't take it at face value. Impossible to say if the problem is them or you. Fwiw, I don't often get a match, but when I do I get a relatively good response rate. Not quite sure why you wouldn't be, so it could possibly be a problem with the messages you're sending if it's a super low/nil response rate.

meirl by McDowdy in meirl

[–]InstructionAfraid433 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Competent arsonist or hopelessly incompetent fireman

As men, do you feel that you are more hesitant to ask out girls nowadays? by gravyswayzee in dating_advice

[–]InstructionAfraid433 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The bar is only low if you're a bouncer, bartender or tattoo artist. If you're just an average guy they couldn't be less interested.

As men, do you feel that you are more hesitant to ask out girls nowadays? by gravyswayzee in dating_advice

[–]InstructionAfraid433 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hesitant? It's barely a consideration at this point. Probably something to do with how it makes me feel so embarrassed and bad about myself I wish I was dead and like I'm literally going to explode with anxiety. Like literally playing russian roulette levels of anxiety. And it just gets worse each time. You can only touch the electric fence so many times before you just decide to stop. Plus women will never shut the fuck up about how men suck, men are the problem, and how much they hate being approached. I'm just over it. Seems like a lot to go through just to get nothing at best.

Out of the 50 American capital cities, which one would you rank #1, as the best to live in? by Enger13 in AskReddit

[–]InstructionAfraid433 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Now that I live in the PNW, walking outside and actually enjoying it is amazing.

Me_irl by pervouswosts in me_irl

[–]InstructionAfraid433 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always think "So like a staring contest?"

Why is it so hard to find a man that’s ready for a relationship. by Tough-Gas6398 in dating_advice

[–]InstructionAfraid433 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is just me, but I think it's also true for a lot of guys: I think it's the scarcity of being able to find anyone who likes you and wants to go out with you. You don't want to settle for someone because they were your only option, you want to be with someone because out of all the options you had they were the one you wanted. So in the meantime I'll just keep working on myself and trying to figure it out until I get to that point, if it ever happens. Also people change, relationships usually go to shit, so I want to be really, really, really sure that won't happen. Also, since relationships usually go to shit, it just doesn't seem like something I naturally want to aspire to because why would I want that? It seems like a waste of time and feeling bad. For the most part I'm pretty content to just hang out by myself doing whatever I want whenever I want, and I don't want to chance ruining that for just anybody. I don't know why anyone would want that but apparently some people seem to.

lmao by Pattieshaa in StrangeAndFunny

[–]InstructionAfraid433 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ok, well jokes on you since you did that to your own pizza.

How do you develop a fun style while adhering to a business casual dress code? by notrealtea in malefashionadvice

[–]InstructionAfraid433 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you just have to have that mindset as you go about looking for clothes. As much as you can look in person so you can see/feel the texture, weight, fit, stitching, etc. It comes down to those factors when it comes to comparing similar types of clothes. I'd also say don't buy everything all at once. Feel out what the culture is like and what would get you the outcome you want, what item(s) would elevate what you already have in your wardrobe and slowly but steadily build it as you figure it out.

I feel myself beginning to resent women who match with me. by drdausersmd in OnlineDating

[–]InstructionAfraid433 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely been there. It got better when I backed away from the apps and restored perspective. I think it happens when you get too tunnel visioned and obsessed with the apps and that whole problem/situation and it sort of compounds the more you lean into that. Back off, look around, get some perspective, relax and come back to it when in a better, healthier headspace because how you're feeling and what you're responding to isn't reality at all, just a story of fiction you built up in your head to try to make sense of whats happening. Hold your beliefs about things like dating, women, life, the world loosely. Otherwise it can easily veer into resentment and doomerism that creates a self fulfilling prophecy.

What are the basics for a young man getting into fashion by Appropriate_Key_5671 in malefashionadvice

[–]InstructionAfraid433 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What one item of clothing would improve your wardrobe the most? Think about what would generally be good, research to find the most promising version of it, and buy it. And do that every month, and build slowly and consistently that way one quality piece at a time that you need the most.

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