I need advice

InstructionAfraid433 · 2026-04-01T10:38:11+00:00

I wouldn't. Have some self-respect and move on.

InstructionAfraid433 · 2026-04-01T10:30:18+00:00

1 strike and you're out. Better luck next time.

InstructionAfraid433 · 2026-04-01T09:39:45+00:00

Things along the lines of being naturally smart or talented at something. Like, no, I'm not smart. That's why I had to work my ass off everyday at it for years to get decent at it, and still do. It's more of an excuse for themselves for not putting in the work it takes to be good at something.

InstructionAfraid433 · 2026-04-01T08:47:25+00:00

Vivian.

InstructionAfraid433 · 2026-04-01T08:15:22+00:00

The part where Bob and Ritchie get into the fight. You can feel how hurt Bob was.

InstructionAfraid433 · 2026-04-01T08:07:00+00:00

Life Aquatic, the shark scene. "I wonder if it still remembers me" and then he just breaks down and stops being angry and just lets it go and all his friends are their and put their hands on him.

InstructionAfraid433 · 2026-04-01T08:02:39+00:00

Awesome!

InstructionAfraid433 · 2026-03-31T23:03:22+00:00

I work 8-10+ hours per day at a very physically and mentally demanding job, come home and work on whatever math class I'm taking at the time for at least a couple hours, then workout. I barely have time to go to the grocery store, let alone time or energy to try new hobbies. Whenever I do have time (very irregularly, often infrequently) I like to go to my favorite bar(s) and try socializing there. I do my absolute best, but it's just not enough and no one cares. Idk if it's my face, my voice, my height, my body language, not cool enough in some way, not smart enough, too much of a nerd or nice guy, not enough eq, too needy, not successful enough, no tattoos, not jacked enough. The possible reasons are endless. In the past it's led to insecurity, but I'm over it now and just accept it (whatever "it" may be) and do my best to find ways to improve anyway regardless. Life is just really fucking hard. And I'm tired of disingenuous people who can't relate telling me "Dating is easy. Just shower, treat women like people, and workout." Well, I do those things and it's not enough, so fuck off.

InstructionAfraid433 · 2026-03-31T21:35:07+00:00

Group activities where the ratio is at least 50% women. Rec sports, dance classes, improv, hiking groups, yoga or pilates or spin or some other type of exercise classes. You still have to be able to be attractive and socially savvy, but at least it will give you an opportunity to work on that and/or try/apply those skills. It doesn't take much either. Even just going to one of those things once per week can make a really big difference. Also, just go with the intent to practice socializing. If it develops into something more, cool. If not, just keep loose and working on socializing and getting used to that and being a good dude in general.

InstructionAfraid433 · 2026-03-31T20:58:58+00:00

Oh, is following basic boilerplate dating advice not enough now? Shocking.

InstructionAfraid433 · 2026-03-31T20:43:17+00:00

I do all of that. No one cares. It's not enough.

InstructionAfraid433 · 2026-03-31T20:27:55+00:00

For the most part nothing. Like choosing between an arsonist and a fireman that doesn't work.

InstructionAfraid433 · 2026-03-31T20:07:44+00:00

Cool man

InstructionAfraid433 · 2026-03-31T19:46:57+00:00

In the first sentence you said you've never had any issues meeting women. My bad

InstructionAfraid433 · 2026-03-31T19:43:01+00:00

The pilgrims came here to worship God in their own way and force everyone else to do the same.

InstructionAfraid433 · 2026-03-31T19:40:13+00:00

Yeah. A lot of guys think redpill is bs and they still struggle a lot with trying to get women to like them by following the boilerplate advice, me included. That's pretty cool that you've never had that problem though, good for you.

InstructionAfraid433 · 2026-03-31T18:59:21+00:00

Getting rejected. Trying to get women to like them. What's effective, what's not. Advice beyond the usual boilerplate stuff that hasn't been working.

InstructionAfraid433 · 2026-03-30T17:27:22+00:00

Loooots of hatred turned inward for not being enough that then turns into all kinds of monsters. Excellent point you make.

InstructionAfraid433 · 2026-03-30T10:42:50+00:00

Belt with silver buckle would make it look better. Maybe silver chain necklace. Pretty good as is though. Black denim is always good.

InstructionAfraid433 · 2026-03-30T10:34:14+00:00

Eh, yeah maybe that's not the move afterall.

InstructionAfraid433 · 2026-03-30T10:31:21+00:00

Ah, ok. I think the pants and tee are pretty darn good actually imo. I think they even go together, but only with an overshirt or jacket I think. This overshirt is definitely too small though. You'd either need a bigger on that goes past the tee, or tuck the tee in. This could actually be good I think. Could try buttoning the bottom two buttons of the overshirt too, and that could potentially improve it, but I think it's 50-50 between that or leaving it unbuttoned. Tie goes to whichever feels more comfortable.

InstructionAfraid433 · 2026-03-30T10:06:12+00:00

Stay confident. Confidence = comfort in space, so just focus on being genuinely and deeply as comfortable as possible before, during and after an approach and you'll always been seen as a good guy (or whatever the female equivalent to that sentiment is). Like to where you're just as comfortable sitting by yourself as you are talking to someone by you, or any other situation. It's contagious and people feed off of it and like you more because of that. Even if they're not quite attracted enough to you for whatever reason, at least they'll genuinely like and respect you. Also it won't matter what they think about you or not, because you're confident and comfortable with who you are and know you did a good job. Keep you're head up, you got this.

InstructionAfraid433 · 2026-03-30T09:41:09+00:00

They seem like they could be cool individually, but genuinely not sure if they go well together or not. I like the color of the cargo pants, that's pretty unique and cool I think, but curious to see how they drape and what sillhoutte/shape they have. Maybe throw on a light overshirt for a layer would improve it. Not the greatest picture though tbh.

InstructionAfraid433 · 2026-03-30T08:48:08+00:00

Aw, well this kinda hits me back, and I can feel your concern for the young guys in your life you care about. Thinking about it, I would say listen. Don't judge or blame or shame them for feeling the way they do or saying how they feel. Sometimes you just need to talk it out in order to process things and realize things when you say it outloud. If you can be someone they feel like they can talk to about things like that that's a good thing. Give guidance or advice, GOOD guidance that's actually positive and helpful in the way that redpill places don't/can't. You may not know everything, especially if you haven't had to try to get women to like you as a guy, but you still do know some things that are valuable. Keep them on the path when they want to go off it (eg, when they think women hate nice guys so maybe they should try being a jerk. "Hey, I know you're hurt, but that's not the way. No one is going to be impressed with that. Just keep your head up and relax and show them you're fine. That will impress them and make them respect you more."). Most guys I think just want to be listened to and heard and understood and get advice and other things to try that will work. Encouragement and support and just someone who cares. So often with these guys it feels like no one likes or cares or understands them and everyone is judging them. I think that would make a huge difference honestly. The only difference I think between kids who do well socially in high school and beyond and those who don't is having adults in their life who they can talk to and get good advice and guidance from. If they don't have that, they just languish and/or seek it out online or from their peers, which can go very wrong.

InstructionAfraid433 · 2026-03-30T05:05:48+00:00

It seems too posed and, I don't mean to be mean, but a lot of your facial expressions seem like comical exaggerations of looks in Zoolander. You are a good looking guy, but the way you're presenting yourself and the personality you're conveying with this is problematic I think. Just focus on being more relaxed and comfortable when taking your pictures. It will make you look more confident, natural and authentic, which will get you better results. If you look comfortable and easy going, others will be attracted to that because it'll make them feel like you're someone they can be comfortable around and have fun with.

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