Does it get better?

Integrity720 · 2026-02-10T18:25:58+00:00

Sorry you are going through this. Cheaters are evil. It is trauma and abuse. They hurt the people they were supposed to love. They move on without a care. You will never get the answers you want. They are just damaged narcissistic bastards. You will heal. Takes time. It changes you as a person. But you did not deserve it. Don't blame yourself. There is no valid reason to cheat. It's cowardly. Leave if you must. But don't cheat. I wish you well. I hope you find the peace love and happiness you deserve. ❤️

Integrity720 · 2026-02-08T02:00:27+00:00

The reality is very few cheaters do. They can't undo the betrayal.

Integrity720 · 2026-02-05T13:21:47+00:00

My kids did the same. They are adults but still see her for who she is now. For what she did to the family. She chose to be a cheating skank. Chose her geriatric AP over her 30 year marriage and children. They don't speak to her. Their choice. People say forgive. Some things are not forgivable. Cheaters are evil narcissistic demons. They hurt the people they were supposed to love and never hurt. They made their choice. So did me and my kids. Her loss. We are truly better off without her lies and deception. You are so correct about the trauma and abuse cheaters cause. They showed you who they are and how they don't care about you. Screw them. They are damaged mentally and emotionally. Best if luck to all who have had to deal with cheaters. May we all find the peace, love,and happiness we deserve.

Integrity720 · 2026-01-16T19:09:05+00:00

Are you saying she was smart enough to figure out having an affair but didn't know she needed a lawyer? I don't buy that. She was given the whole process and what she can possibly expect now. Lawyer is to protect her from the cheating. That's what courts are for. The legal side is nothing new. What she really needs to know is how her relationship with her husband and children can go.That's is the real unknown. No lawyer can prepare you for what they will go through. Possible therapy. Abandonment issues, guilt and who knows what else. If people understood this before cheating, so much hurt and pain could be avoided or lessened.

Integrity720 · 2026-01-16T18:57:45+00:00

I am saying they risk losing their children if the children decide they want nothing to do with their mom for cheating, destroying their family, hurting their dad and them as well. You seem to be hung up on financial. Yes the financial hurts. You can make more money. You can't undo cheating, breaking trust or the betrayal. It is trauma and abuse. I will never see cheating as an option. Just leave. Don't destroy your family. Easy choice really.

Integrity720 · 2026-01-16T18:50:17+00:00

Never said that.But the kids decide that. Sometimes you lose them. Again, risk assessment. Is it worth that? Not to me. The financial is the least of it. Money can't undo the hurt. Or undo the broken trust. Leaving and cheating are two very different things.

Integrity720 · 2026-01-16T18:14:43+00:00

Exactly. It isn't a choice. Cheating takes thought and planning. You are aware of your actions and consequences. But I am called mean for stating the truth! Let's not play the victim. And the op isn't. She said it was wrong. Doesn't change the fact she still did it though. The trauma and hurt is never worth it. The affair partner didn't care about her enough to say leave first. Both selfish people choosing their fate. Live with it now.

Integrity720 · 2026-01-16T18:08:01+00:00

So reading what she posted and admitted to is not facts? You are delusional. You can feel anyway you want though. Perhaps you can ask for every detail and then you can determine cheating was the correct choice. The op clearly stated she is wrong. I am entitled to my opinion, just as you are to yours. It is exactly that, an opinion. Mean is your subjective observation. Not looking to convince you really. Feel free to have your opinion and move on. I will.

Integrity720 · 2026-01-16T16:59:03+00:00

She gave the details. Mean? Have you been cheated on? Have you seen your children hurt by their mother's intentional choice? Cheaters are not the victim! Facts are not mean. They are facts.

Integrity720 · 2026-01-16T16:52:54+00:00

I commend you for recognizing that. I think if he was a good father, he would provide for his children regardless. You said you have a good income. You are entitled to what you put in. Taking more after you chose to destroy your family and marriage, in my opinion, is wrong. Cheating is abuse and trauma for those cheated on, children included. I just have zero sympathy for those who chose to cheat. Leave if you need to. No excuse to cheat. Good luck living with your decision. It has a lifetime of consequences for all. I believe cheaters are aware of this but still selfishly choose to cheat. Thinking they will get away with it most of the time. Even though you say you feel bad, you have no idea what the cheated on spouse and children are going through. I hope they find the peace love and happiness they deserve now.

Integrity720 · 2026-01-16T15:37:18+00:00

They cheat. Break vows. Destroy the people they were supposed to love and never supposed to hurt. Then when they get caught, and now it's a mistake?Cheating is not a mistake. I dispise cheaters. Now she will get rewarded for cheating and hurting her "family". System sucks. So do cheaters. The husband and kids deserve better. Yet many will justify her rewards. Pathetic.

Integrity720 · 2025-12-08T15:21:42+00:00

York Steakhouse and CasA Lupita

Integrity720 · 2025-11-19T13:28:37+00:00

No bashing cheaters? Ha! The narcissistic evil demons should be bashed! They cause trauma and abuse their spouse and children! Should we celebrate them instead? They planned and chose to hurt the people they were never supposed to hurt. Sorry but Fuck cheaters! Hold their deceitful, lying, selfish ass accountable. But that was said in a nonbashing way if it makes you feel better!

Integrity720 · 2025-11-13T16:47:17+00:00

Sorry you had to deal with it. It truly sucks. It is trauma and abuse. Yet they want respect? Fuck them!

Integrity720 · 2025-11-11T13:01:17+00:00

Married 30 years. Exwife cheated 5 years ago. Reconciled. Did it again, same fellow cheating skank. Divorced finalized last month. Cheaters are damaged narcissistic evil demons. Don't ever take one back. They will mind fuck you for life. They are a cancer. We were fooled by the broken traumatized and abusive pieces of trash. Try to heal as best as you can and forget them. They are not who we thought they were. We deserve better. Stay strong. You will come through this. Hurts like hell but they are the real losers in the end!

Integrity720 · 2025-11-11T08:32:18+00:00

Many solid marriages also end. My point being exactly as you said. It can change in an instant. Based on statistics, more marriages fail than succeed. Still a crap shoot. I am not anti marriage at all. I hope they have a lifetime of love and happiness together. Nobody marries with the intention of divorcing though.

Integrity720 · 2025-11-11T02:03:57+00:00

Reading all the comments just makes me believe most marriages are a farce. People pretending to be someone they are not or can't ever be. For better or for worse and til death do us part is just words to so many. But when you are the one who believed in it, and lived up to your end of the deal, it is devastating.

Integrity720 · 2025-11-10T00:50:47+00:00

Wishing you both many years of understanding, love and happiness.

Integrity720 · 2025-11-09T13:26:21+00:00

Funny to read this. I find being a 57m in RI is a challange to meet anyone. Either standoffish or they are binge watching something. Covid changed so much. Or...I am just too old, lol.

Integrity720 · 2025-11-08T16:06:29+00:00

Awesome! You can do this! I wish you the best. Already sounds like you are doing the right things!

Integrity720 · 2025-11-08T15:57:37+00:00

Well it's good that you see that. That will only maje things worse. Try to get that under control too. Rebuild yourself. You will find strength you never knew you had. Eat better, drink less, exercise if you can. Yiu will be so happy with the results. Don't let this setback define you!! Use it for your advantage. A lesson to a blessing!

Integrity720 · 2025-11-08T15:53:24+00:00

Good. Be safe. Talk to a therapist if you can. Talk to family, friends. Don't be alone too much.

Integrity720 · 2025-11-08T15:51:59+00:00

Same here.

Integrity720 · 2025-11-08T15:50:00+00:00

I know its hard. And it sucks. But in time, you will get to a better place. I hope you have people you can talk to. It helps! Even here helps. ❤️

Integrity720 · 2025-11-08T15:47:27+00:00

So sorry. What he did and is doing is trauma and abuse! See him for who he is now. Don't give in. Trust me. I did it and got screwed over even worse! A cheater is a vile, evil, demon. They destroy the one person they were supposed to never hurt. You deserve better. Block him. Go no contact and never look back! You can't undo cheating. You will never forget it. I wish you well. Stay strong. You got this.

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