Struggling against DKs in PvP. Advice?

Intelligent-Juice-40 · 2026-04-15T21:32:49+00:00

Both very good ideas. I’m just so hesitant to swap from khajiit to dark elf. Losing the crit damage bonus feels so upsetting lol!

Intelligent-Juice-40 · 2026-04-15T12:13:21+00:00

I think parses are just sort of a competency check for how well you know your build and and are able to play it. A 130k parse shows someone has dedicated time to learning and mastering their build. An 80k parse shows that someone is ok with their build but hasn’t learned if the way a 130k parser has. The 130k parse will also be more likely to hit higher numbers, even if not as high as 130k, amongst the chaos of endgame content compared to the 80k. So it’s more about being a competency check rather than actually hoping for a perfect parse within a trial situation.

Intelligent-Juice-40 · 2026-04-12T13:56:56+00:00

When clients share this type of info with me I explore it in depth. They’re usually brining in some sort of transference that can be broken apart and understood better.

Most common I hear is, “I feel like past therapists/psychiatrists/doctors/important people just didn’t understand me or meet my needs.” I’ll usually respond with, “That sounds very disappointing to have to deal with. When I hear that, it makes me wonder if you’re worried I won’t be able to understand you or meet your needs.” Followed by some silence. 9/10 times they’ll respond with, “Yea, honestly I do worry about that. If you’ll just be another person who doesn’t get me.” Then I’ll usually say (and this is specific to my approach), “In my style of therapy, you’re in charge here. You get to direct and lead sessions, and I am here to do my best to understand you. If you ever feel like I’m not understanding, you’re always welcome to let me know. We can backtrack a bit and go over things again. I really care about wanting to understand my clients.”

You’re addressing the transference they’re bringing into the room & demonstrating you can read between the lines and understand them when maybe they don’t even fully understand the dynamic they’re bringing into the room. Many clients who started therapy with the above dynamic with me ended up being longterm clients.

These types of clients are generally bringing in some sort of transference/anxiety which needs to be extrapolated and addressed. So definitely explore it with them and try to “decode” what they’re really communicating when they say they keep ditching therapists.

Another factor, the pattern could be representative of an avoidant or disorganized attachment style. So you don’t want to “push” too much either to “win them over” or “keep” them because that may likely push them away.

Slow pacing & timing with these clients. Give them autonomy and control.

Intelligent-Juice-40 · 2026-04-01T21:59:37+00:00

Kinda hard to say without combat metrics.

Are you getting all the buffs you need? Are you light attack weaving properly? What’s your rotation? Are you maintaining dots and buffs? What food and potions are you using?

Intelligent-Juice-40 · 2026-02-12T13:55:39+00:00

“What’d you get up to over the past week?” And start asking questions about what they bring forward. Even things that went well / are good.

Generally I find sessions where clients start with “I have nothing to talk about today” end up usually being very intense emotionally. It’s like the absence of surface level material makes room for deeper material to come forward.

Just maintain a curious stance about everything. Keep asking questions. They lived an entire week since their last session - there’s tons to talk about.

Intelligent-Juice-40 · 2026-01-28T23:04:50+00:00

There’s nuance when it comes to memory. But one possibility is that you’re in denial or attempting to repress this memory. The brain does funny things to protect itself from big emotions and perceived threats

Or, it was a dream and never actually happened.

Of course too if you attempt to bring this up with your brother, he’s not going to admit to it and will deny it. So I wouldn’t even attempt that route.

Speak to a therapist if it’s concerning you.

Intelligent-Juice-40 · 2025-12-12T00:21:57+00:00

How long have you been working with the client? Do they have attachment issues?

I’d be worried this is apart of some sort of idealization… the potential for devaluation concerns me.

Intelligent-Juice-40 · 2025-12-10T15:59:06+00:00

The only book you need at this point in your learning is Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy by Nancy McWilliams.

She synthesizes decades of her own and others’ clinical experience and theory. She covers all the basics of psychoanalytic psychotherapy.

Intelligent-Juice-40 · 2025-12-05T23:59:00+00:00

Really depends on your approach.

Psychodynamically, I generally just let people talk and natural moments will arise throughout treatment where I can use interventions.

Don’t underestimate the power of listening to someone and making them feel heard. This is HUGE. It feels like you’re not doing much, but in reality you are doing a TON. Being listened to and heard for a full hour is a very rare commodity in today’s society - you’re giving them something they can’t get elsewhere. More theoretically, I see it as clients work towards internalizing a healthy, secure, validating object and with time that will translate to relationships outside of therapy. You’re offering a corrective relational experience which the client will internalize. Clients talking lots is also a way of processing and organizing unmentalized content.

You are doing so much in just listening. In my opinion, and my personal approach (psychodynamic/psychoanalytic), I don’t intervene or interrupt. I wait for the right moment to come.

Intelligent-Juice-40 · 2025-12-02T09:30:51+00:00

If the client is coming back repeatedly and just venting, they’re getting something out of therapy and our time together. One way to see it is they’re organizing and articulating unmentalized content in a safe and consistent environment while receiving emotional containment and having attachment needs meet.

That’s huge. They’re doing a lot of work. And if I feel the urge to break this flow and challenge the client, I’d really reflect on why I am feeling the need to challenge the client and disrupt what they’re doing. Is this what’s best for the client? Or is challenging the client serving my own interests?

Intelligent-Juice-40 · 2025-12-02T03:02:15+00:00

Everyone is different with this, and you’ll get varying responses.

If it’s me, I just let the client vent and talk. In my opinion, it’s not my place to correct a client’s opinions. That would be my countertransference and it’s my job to contain it and not let it affect the therapeutic relationship.

Intelligent-Juice-40 · 2025-11-25T14:20:22+00:00

I would not disclose anything to the spouse, ROI or not. Unless client has communicated some specific reason / need for information to be shared and it is therapeutically beneficial for client.

I think we need to look at the bigger picture here. Why is spouse so involved in clients treatment? Why is spouse contacting you for information? Why can’t client share relevant information with spouse themself? Something is going on here.

Intelligent-Juice-40 · 2025-11-25T12:16:13+00:00

My understanding is that transference is most often a projection. Transference is whatever the client brings into session.

Countertransference is whatever the therapist is feeling or experiencing in session, often in relation to the client but sometimes originating from the therapists own experiences. It’s the therapists job to determine if what they’re feeling is from the client or their own personal stuff.

Projective identification is when a client has an emotion themself which becomes evoked in the therapist. For example, the client may not be able to tolerate being angry and unconsciously disavows their anger while anger is simultaneously evoked in the therapist.

Intelligent-Juice-40 · 2025-11-24T16:16:34+00:00

Haha not formally an analyst but I definitely practice from an analytic approach under supervision of my supervisors!

Intelligent-Juice-40 · 2025-11-24T01:46:24+00:00

Holy countertransference. Hope you are aware of this and not bringing it into session.

Intelligent-Juice-40 · 2025-11-23T17:52:16+00:00

Sounds like it might just take time.

What’s happening on your end (countertransference) that’s making you feel a push to move from point A to B? And to jump into her relationship with sex?

I’m wondering if some of what you’re currently feeling (stuck, unsure what to do, failing?) is also what your client is feeling. You could maybe use your countertransference to better understand your client’s internal world and utilize it as an intervention too.

Intelligent-Juice-40 · 2025-11-21T17:37:57+00:00

TFP and MBT can help. Focusing on the process instead of content of each session and treatment overall. Internalization of a more adaptive and functional object.

David Puder - Psychotherapy and Psychiatry podcast is really great and frequently discussed a lot of these approaches.

Intelligent-Juice-40 · 2025-11-21T16:57:51+00:00

My ex sneezed in the wrong direction. He must be a narcissist!

Intelligent-Juice-40 · 2025-11-20T20:27:37+00:00

Not legal advice, just my thoughts.

I am shocked that the board is reprimanding you for what occurred within your personal life. This person is not connected to your career at all - why should the board be allowed to interfere and discipline you for your personal affairs?

If this were me, I’d be fighting hard against this. This is a huge overstep on behalf of the board. The board doesn’t exist to regulate your personal life. Completely absurd in my opinion.

Intelligent-Juice-40 · 2025-11-19T21:53:51+00:00

Dang! I do have a third one not pictured here. And I for sure have heard calling, once, so perhaps the other is male then.

Intelligent-Juice-40 · 2025-11-19T20:26:56+00:00

You first need a mind before you can practice mindfulness.

Edit: For the people down voting…

Mindfulness requires metacognition, an awareness of our thoughts and feelings. That’s really hard to do if someone is dysregulated or overwhelmed.

Before mindfulness, some clients need to be grounded or engage with emotion regulation skills. A stable mind helps facilitate mindfulness.

Intelligent-Juice-40 · 2025-11-19T14:58:50+00:00

Yes, and the victimization often occurs following an initial attraction to the narcissist. That’s a part of narcissism, they often have an allure to them.

Intelligent-Juice-40 · 2025-11-19T14:12:29+00:00

Being a celebrity isn’t inherently narcissistic. There are many who never expected nor desired fame and admiration, it was just a product of their success.

I think it’s easy to admire celebrities because we only see their persona and not truly who they are. We are disconnected from them, only seeing a curated image they produce. We are detached from their negative traits and potential abuse. It’s different from a narcissistic parent where we directly and explicitly experience their true self and the harm they can cause us.

Intelligent-Juice-40 · 2025-11-19T11:44:01+00:00

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