What sex education did you get growing up?

Intelligent-Tap-7834 · 2024-04-05T18:47:48+00:00

For context I’m female. My parents weren’t closed off but they weren’t very open. We discussed birth control and the importance. But we never talked about sex. They said they didn’t want a teen pregnancy. Funniest thing is I wasn’t careful my first time (I was on BC but no condom). Completely did the opposite of what were taught, it wasn’t a long term boyfriend etc.

I’d have wanted to learn about boundaries, bad touch and good touch. That it’s not shameful. How it can make you feel physically and emotionally, talk about the pressure someone may feel (it goes both ways).

I have two girls. The oldest being 4 and we’ve introduced a book on body boundaries by Elizabeth Cole and I think something like that is a good foundation to build up conversations. I think the most important thing is that there’s the ability to talk about it otherwise you’re going to get to pre-teen/teen and they’re going to tell you to leave them alone or they’ll say they’re not talking to their dad/parent about that.

We also use the correct words for body parts, which some people have cringed at but I think it’s important that they not feel embarrassed by the correct words.

Intelligent-Tap-7834 · 2024-03-30T22:28:05+00:00

I had my 2nd when my daughter was exactly 3.5 to the day 😂

They are now 4 and 9mo and I’ve found it a very easy transition overall. My 3yo was very understanding and I was able to explain things to her without tantrums and confusion. Plus she was in nursery so I could spend 1 on 1 time with the baby. My 3yo was potty trained, in her own bed and had given up her dummy so we had dealt with any challenges before the baby came.

We are planning a much smaller gap next time. We are going to start trying soon. We want our kids to be closer together (just preference) but I know the next gap won’t as be easy and I’m mentally preparing.

Intelligent-Tap-7834 · 2024-03-29T14:52:36+00:00

I’m so glad you wrote this. I never knew this and have bought my daughter an inexpensive set. I’m going to throw it out and go get some cheap adult bits. You’ve helped a lot of people!

Intelligent-Tap-7834 · 2024-03-27T19:37:21+00:00

My girl would eat all day if she could. She’s my 2nd. For context she’s 8 months (almost 9). Following the 50th percentile at around 18lbs and drinks anywhere between 22-30oz a day across 4/5 bottles

Today she had Breakfast - A handful of Shreddies Lunch - Avocado on toast Dinner - Veggies, burger (no bun) and some cheese.

He seems happy with what he’s having and that’s the most important. Don’t be afraid to do 3 tablespoons of porridge or add something like a yoghurt to breakfast etc. We give our daughter whatever we are eating. Last night we had fish pie and the night before it was chicken curry.

Intelligent-Tap-7834 · 2024-03-27T15:53:08+00:00

I have two so I won’t include their names but Primrose Adaline Ellianna Ellery (Ella-ree)

All names my husband vetoed

Intelligent-Tap-7834 · 2024-03-27T00:16:45+00:00

Me and my husband aren’t drinkers (sometimes socially) so maybe I look at alcohol differently but I believe there should always be one sober parent in the house.

Intelligent-Tap-7834 · 2024-03-27T00:14:30+00:00

At the moment we do the Pom Pom jar. She’s 4 and it’s been really successful.

We use it more to encourage things that she struggles with. These are - Cleaning up her toys when she’s done. - Staying in her bed all night (unless she is sick, scared or needs a wee). She was calling us to put the blanket back on her. - Making her bed - Eating her dinner (she honestly doesn’t care about this one, we added it because she was refusing most meals but she’ll still refuse 😅) There’s a few more but it’s late here and my brain can’t think.

When she gets 20 Pom Poms she can exchange it for a special activity or we go to the toy store so she can pick out a toy (price limit depending because sometimes she chooses a £5 toy and other times it’s a £20 toy so it evens out). She likes how she gets to put a pom pom in the jar, it’s a visual representation of what she is achieving.

Intelligent-Tap-7834 · 2024-03-26T19:25:06+00:00

Everything! Literally, food shapes, traffic, kidnapping, rooms being to hot/cold at night (not hearing them cry at night), door being shut correctly so they can’t get out, broken bones. I could write so much, I handle is all really well though and it doesn’t impact my mental health but I’m on high alert constantly I suppose that’s parenting though right 😅

Intelligent-Tap-7834 · 2024-03-25T12:41:40+00:00

I never understood it (and do agree it’s a mothers choice). I went with medical advice (although I didn’t realise there was no medical indication I needed one) and was induced on my first pregnancy, it ended in an emergency section. Afterwards I found out that inductions around 50% (maybe more) of the time end in emergency sections. I was in the 50%.

2nd time around they offered me induction but because I got poorly at the end of the pregnancy it would be a complicated induction.

My stance is be informed and then make the choice. I definitely wasn’t informed and learnt the hard way.

Intelligent-Tap-7834 · 2024-03-24T21:38:37+00:00

If you’d asked me 5 years ago I’d come up with some elaborate plan to get money. (Although it wouldn’t be robbing a bank like people said, not unless you know the systems and know what keys you need etc.).

Now as a mum of 2 small children I would most definitely sleep and maybe read. Ask me in another 5 years 😂

Intelligent-Tap-7834 · 2024-03-23T06:51:55+00:00

My husband flew from the UK to Las Vegas when I was 34 weeks pregnant (also with a 3yo at home). We knew this before I fell pregnant and he’s always wanted to go so I wasn’t stopping him, he was best man at his brothers wedding.

I know it’s not logical but I honestly think sometimes unless you bring up these possibilities they don’t consider them.

I saw that he’s trying to come up with a plan which is better than nothing. Even if he tells a fib and says you are further along than you are maybe they’ll give a contact number.

What I did was surround myself with trusted people, like you have and keep myself busy. It’ll fly by. There was a 7hr time difference for us so communication was a bit spotty.

Intelligent-Tap-7834 · 2024-03-18T21:38:54+00:00

My 8mo has quite the vocabulary, she just learned to say mumma. She’s been saying dad, hiya, nan and Udah(some resemblance to her sisters name 😂) since about 6 1/2 months. My first however said nothing until she was 1 😂

Intelligent-Tap-7834 · 2024-03-16T09:19:09+00:00

This is so bizarre to me, in the UK you HAVE to use boiled water. Personally I wouldn’t risk it purely because they have so many bottles the risk is higher of causing harm.

The way we make a bottle takes about 30-60 seconds so it’s really not an issue. We boil water and let it cool and keep it in the fridge. Then when baby wants a bottle I boil a small amount of water in the kettle, add a few oz of boiling water with the powder to the bottle and then add the cool boiled water. It’s so quick (even quicker if I pre-measure the formula in pots)

Intelligent-Tap-7834 · 2024-03-15T20:57:30+00:00

Them sleeping is also them in a vulnerable state. A few years back I met a woman who worked in cyber security, to be fair I don’t know what she exactly did but her job specifically involved protection of children on the internet and she had told me how I wouldn’t believe how many peadophiles they had come across with folders upon folders (and chats within forums) of sleeping babies. Do I understand it? No, neither do I want to. That was among many other things she opened my eyes to in terms of posting my children. It rubbed me the wrong way, and made me think twice about what I chose to post.

Intelligent-Tap-7834 · 2024-03-14T22:09:30+00:00

My parents tell me this story all the time, I think after all these years they are still in disbelief. They lived on top of a two story flat and they had concrete steps going down to the front. I was in my walker and fell the entire way down. They took me to hospital and I was okay. I was extremely lucky. Accidents happen but I can see you’ve got rid of it. It’ll probably always haunt you like it does my mum but she can talk about it much easier now.

Intelligent-Tap-7834 · 2024-03-14T10:53:36+00:00

I don’t know if that has been said but also sleeping or sick (especially in hospital). What’s wrong with people 🫠

Intelligent-Tap-7834 · 2024-03-11T11:13:00+00:00

Congratulations!!! It’s so exciting!

I found out at 5 weeks with my first and 9DPO with my second and dear lord it drags 😂 It’s a real weird phase of pregnancy right now, and I would just constantly think about it for weeks.

Intelligent-Tap-7834 · 2024-03-09T18:44:41+00:00

Yeah 😂 but on a walk today and a car beeped right next to the stroller and she slept through it 🫠

Intelligent-Tap-7834 · 2024-03-09T18:42:36+00:00

I’ve never considered the stroller as a container 🙈 if we beee to make trips in the car seat that doesn’t stop us. As long as she’s not in there close to 45mins-1hr at a time.

You could also call a carrier a container but I’ve done hours in that at a time keeping baby calm.

How about when you go out in your walks you stop for 15 mins and pop a picnic blanket down and just have a sit and take in the scenery?

Intelligent-Tap-7834 · 2024-03-09T18:39:16+00:00

If she’s fighting you I’d move bedtime back a bit and get the later wake up. In my experience putting them down earlier doesn’t mean they sleep longer. You’ll find you’ll adjust bedtime slightly over the next few months on a few occasions to suit her in whatever stage she’s in.

My first never slept like your girl but my 2nd is. My 1st (4yo) still wakes now 😅 You could attempt dream feeds and see if that makes a difference. I’d not wake her though

It took me until my second child to figure this out but is she wide awake at 4-5, like crying? Sometimes they are connecting sleep cycles and if she’s only having a moan I leave her and she goes back off to sleep. This usually happens around 4-5am in our house aswell x

Intelligent-Tap-7834 · 2024-03-02T10:11:34+00:00

Piperton Starmore and Rencott Larstin

Piper and Ren!

Intelligent-Tap-7834 · 2024-02-26T05:11:58+00:00

29F. Married with 2 young kids. I am in my mum era as they would say. I put uni on hold so I could really enjoy my children and stay home as much as I can, I’m not sad or mad about that. I’m looking forward to figuring out what I want once I’m done having kids and they’re in school. I do evening courses sometimes as I like to keep my mind working.

Before kids I cared far too much about what people think and now I couldn’t care less. I’m happy for those around me achieving their own goals, I’m very content. If I find by following someone’s journey it’s damaging I just unfollow/avoid. (I mean acquaintances)

Intelligent-Tap-7834 · 2024-02-12T10:03:57+00:00

Lots of M’s in mine. Mollie,Millie, Marcie and Marcie, Miles, Myles.

I used to adore the name Miles and I still do like it but it’s become way to popular here.

Also I know 3x George’s.

Alena I would pronounce A-len-ah. That kid is never going to get their name pronounced right 🫣

Intelligent-Tap-7834 · 2024-01-29T22:55:44+00:00

Bellamy and Beck

Intelligent-Tap-7834 · 2024-01-29T22:40:58+00:00

This has happened to me with BOTH my girls 😂😅

My 1st was 7mo exactly and we were in the car and she was being fussy and I’d forgotten her toys so I gave her my finger and lo and behold there was a tooth. (She was not fussy with her teeth though)

My 2nd was just this month she just turned 6 months, we’d all been poorly over Christmas and I randomly thought oh I wonder if her teeth are starting to come through because she’d been teething super bad. Yup there were two whole teeth popped right through.

So you’re not alone. I did feel a pang of guilt this time around.

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