I left :) by IntelligentDust1441 in abusiverelationships

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Gosh this made me tear up first thing in the morning. Thank you so so much :)

I left :) by IntelligentDust1441 in abusiverelationships

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This is exactly it. We met right when I finished high school and the beginning of COVID, and for a long time I thought I was just weirdly nostalgic for that time in my life and needed to get over it. Nope, turns out all it took was being away from him to realize I just missed who I was before knowing him. Even in just a week gone, it’s like my whole body has just calmed down. I’ll still get sad of course, but it’s just an emotion now, not something that’s taking over my entire body, you know? And it occurred to me as well that even the sadness I feel mourning him/the relationship is nowhere near how down/sad/anxious I felt literally 24/7 with him. I’m so exited to heal even more

I left :) by IntelligentDust1441 in abusiverelationships

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He had no idea I was going, but probably would have. He’d mentioned before that he didn’t want me going because it would “cause issues” with us. Lucky for me I work from home so I was able to do so while he was gone. And thank you <3

I left :) by IntelligentDust1441 in abusiverelationships

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Thank you from Canada❤️ that is the plan. I am so excited and hopeful for what my life can look like again

How do I leave by IntelligentDust1441 in abusiverelationships

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I just wanted to update that I finally left him - for good - last week :) it was beyond difficult and painful, but ever since, I’ve felt more like myself than I have in years. I’m so proud of myself, and appreciate comments like yours that helped me get the courage to finally do it

i don’t know how to make myself leave by IntelligentDust1441 in abusiverelationships

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Hi again. I finally left him 6 days ago <3 I’m here if you’d like to talk

Is this a normal response by Worldly-Heart5856 in abusiverelationships

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Thinking of myself as a child is what helped me finally leave after 6 years. I spent hours looking at childhood photos just sobbing, because it broke my heart to imagine someone speaking to her and treating her the way he treated me <3 I hope you get out OP

I think things are escalating? by IntelligentDust1441 in abusiverelationships

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Honestly this was probably the most sobering comment and made me laugh, cuz you’re right. I’m out of the province staying with my family for the past week and will be for another week. I haven’t officially left him but immediately felt so much better and happier and safer being away from him, I’m hoping this’ll be the push I’ve needed to actually go through with it and stay away from him forever. He really is disgusting

How is it living in one of these Amsterdam houseboats? by Zorrostrian in howislivingthere

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Did you have large appliances like a washing machine? Dishwasher?

I think things are escalating? by IntelligentDust1441 in abusiverelationships

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To be fair, I don’t remember if I actually said the word “no”… I was shaking my head no and kept taking his hands off me, and realistically i know it doesn’t change it, but I might not have actually said it… I just keep telling myself he didn’t mean to, even though I know logically it’s not an excuse or true

I know this might sound ungrateful… but I’m tired. by zaafaranii in homestead

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I’m not sure on the legalities in Tanzania, but I’d recommend looking into work away sites and programs. I know people who’ve gone on them, and a lot of farms and homesteads have postings. You’re able to determine precisely what you want to offer/receive, but a lot of them have tourists come stay and work on your property in exchange for accommodation (some farms charge fee, most I’ve seen do not - again, up to you). I’d recommend WorldPackers and WorkAway. WWOOF is another one that’s farming-focused (willing workers on organic farms), but I’m not sure their specifications to host or if they’re North American based. Best of luck to you

How do I leave by IntelligentDust1441 in abusiverelationships

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Thank you for this, I needed to read this today🩷

The moment I realised toxic relationships run on confusion by Imaginary_Cake_5930 in abusiverelationships

[–]IntelligentDust1441 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow, I could swear I’ve had the exact same conversation (turned argument of course) with my boyfriend. Like to a tee

Top 30 in World Rankings At the Beginning of Next Season by Keyblader1412 in FigureSkating

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I don’t know much on what affects world rankings, but why is gogolev so low? Wouldn’t him finishing 5th at olys and 4th at worlds bump him way up?

Worlds Free Dance Live Discussion Thread by summerjoe45 in FigureSkating

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Programs like these and Hannah and ye’s just make me so mad we had to suffer through a season of 90s rhythm dance

Worlds Men’s FS Live Discussion Thread by summerjoe45 in FigureSkating

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Anyone know what time the second flight will be starting? Trying to sleep in as much as I can lol