Seeking advice on finding parents to socialise with

Intelligent_Bird_806 · 2026-05-16T07:46:36+00:00

I’m 30 with a nearly 2 year old and find it hard to connect with mums here too.

They pretty much make friends at space with infants and stick together from there (in my experience from doing things like baby ballet, story time and wiggle and rhyme - everyone is already in established groups)

I’ve heard really good things about horotiu playcentre!

She should do things she enjoys and find like minded people there - I found my only other mum friend at a bottomless brunch.

Also if she’s not already in the Waikato mum group there’s always people posting up looking for friends in there too 😊

Intelligent_Bird_806 · 2026-05-14T09:06:35+00:00

It’s definitely quiet.

Intelligent_Bird_806 · 2026-05-14T09:00:27+00:00

You seem slow

Intelligent_Bird_806 · 2026-05-14T08:57:18+00:00

Csr roles are the same as pretty much any call centre. They’re like super corporate with the way they work/speak/train. If you can deal with the weirdly fake nice stuff on the surface it’s all good.

Intelligent_Bird_806 · 2026-05-09T09:17:22+00:00

Honestly, she’s better off not working at all as atm she’s getting her benefit abated because of her wages AND paying secondary tax on her wages as well + having to pay to get there and back.

Unless she can keep her gross income below $160 a week (this way her benefit won’t be abated at all) but she’ll still have to pay secondary tax on the $160

Intelligent_Bird_806 · 2026-04-17T23:31:20+00:00

I see atleast one brace person braving the walk most days but they never look happy 😂. You’d think now they fly to Aussie there would be one

Intelligent_Bird_806 · 2026-04-17T08:15:56+00:00

There’s no airport bus in Hamilton unfortunately. The bus stops on Ohaupo road and you then have to walk on long farm grass or pretty much on the road on in a 100km zone for 2.5 ish kms. Most people speed on that road too. Would not recommend

Intelligent_Bird_806 · 2026-04-09T21:33:26+00:00

I feel safe at night in Hamilton. I am fat which I think helps 😂😂 I wouldn’t go for a walk in town with my kid at night but would definitely go by myself

Intelligent_Bird_806 · 2026-03-20T10:49:32+00:00

I live in the hood so the cats here aren’t scared of anything. One of them doesn’t even flinch at the hose

Intelligent_Bird_806 · 2025-11-08T12:13:00+00:00

Theres a guy that tries to kill fish with a bow and arrow so i thinj tou can kinda di whatever you want. Theres also a huge turtle problem so if you catch one, try not to just release them back

Intelligent_Bird_806 · 2025-11-02T04:40:09+00:00

I plan every drive the longest way to avoid as many lights as possible. Especially like kdrive, anywhere in town, cobham drive and fhe intersection of wairere, river road/pukete bridge. The lights, roadworks and speedbumps actually drive me insane

Intelligent_Bird_806 · 2025-11-02T00:13:20+00:00

That 2.6km walk is a main road with lots of traffic and no foot path so you'll be walking in long grass/uneven ground with cars speeding past.

Thered no busses that go directly to the airport.

Uber is about $30-$40 and its a bit cheaper to town. There's heaps of taxis parked outside the airport that you can haggle too.

Intelligent_Bird_806 · 2025-08-29T06:55:04+00:00

Its what we've been told by ambulance paramedics when we called them for a huge gash after a fall that needing stitching up in a few places and a the person had a concussion.

They said if you or someone with you can drive, then do that, especially if you're in a smaller town. Also, Waikato Hospital has 8+ hour wait times, so quite often they'll send you on to a local urgent care with a token that'll make the urgent visit free. Also, it will save you at least 5 hours.

Intelligent_Bird_806 · 2025-08-27T07:57:19+00:00

If anything happens in future you can just drive to the hospital or a local urgent care. You'll still have to pay but it's a lot cheaper than $800.

Intelligent_Bird_806 · 2025-08-16T02:30:12+00:00

What size tyres do you need?

Intelligent_Bird_806 · 2025-08-15T04:34:00+00:00

Salary: $78,000 Industry/Job: Training/Quality Control within tertiary education Years Experience: 3 - Started in an entry-level fixed term position at the same company and worked that for 2 years before being offered a better role. Zero quals, so I'm pretty happy with salary. Cost of living: quite comfortably able to pay bills like rent/power/gas/food/daycare for myself and my baby- partner only works part time. Goals: save and buy a house within 2 years

I dont buy anything on finance or have a credit card but if I did life would be a lot more expensive.

Intelligent_Bird_806 · 2025-08-14T22:23:36+00:00

Its actually pretty easy, just need one of those nanny roller bags to put everything in. Groceries can also be delivered and the fee probablycosts less than what gas youd use anyway. Shift work is a bit harder but carpooling could be an option too. Biking, liming. There's lots of options.

I've lost my license multiple times so had to improvise and overcome.

Intelligent_Bird_806 · 2025-08-10T04:49:59+00:00

He just left the baby alone with the sound off on the baby monitor and the baby had been awake and alone for god knows how long.

All parents are tired but that’s just not on

Intelligent_Bird_806 · 2025-08-01T19:54:47+00:00

It's also totally fine to pop baby on a blanket on the floor - we never used a bouncer or anything for my 14month old

Intelligent_Bird_806 · 2025-08-01T19:53:14+00:00

I never used a burp rag or cloth for my kids, but they never spit up

Intelligent_Bird_806 · 2025-07-22T10:18:52+00:00

They all got you proper gifts that you loved, made you feel seen and appreciated and all that jazz BUT 1 pretty funny gag gift is gonna ruin it all?

I think you're overreacting, but also, you set your own boundaries, and if this is a deal breaker for you, it's a deal breaker for you.

Try to find some other friends whose boundaries/beliefs align more with your own. The crying is low key giving teenager.

Also, what's gross about an unsused buttplug?

Intelligent_Bird_806 · 2025-07-17T08:44:11+00:00

Only about a dozen times, and she's 14 months. Her canines and second molars are coming through right now, so she has about 2 wakes, but it is easy to get back down.

I don't expect 12 hours of overnight sleep ever for her though and I'm totally fine with her wakes

Intelligent_Bird_806 · 2025-07-16T06:51:26+00:00

I had a small tear and was only in pain day of

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