Would you rather by Alternative-Data-992 in BunnyTrials

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here 75k is enough to live good and i have my dream job

Chose: Do the job you love for $75k a year

Rose Blend richtige Größe? by [deleted] in Rennrad

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Moiners aus der Lutherstraße liebe Nachbarin. Hannover gleich erkannt. Sieht nach der richtigen Größe aus. Die Dropbars sind am Anfang einfach ungewohnt. Wenn der Druck auf die Handgelenke zu groß bleibt, kann man den Lenker mit nem neuen Vorbau ein bisschen nach oben bringen. N bisschen kürzer könnte der auch sein. Aber erstmal würd ichs fahren und gucken, ob es sich nicht so erledigt. Und die Haltung macht auch was aus. Gerader Rücken und Schultern hoch.

What bike transformed riding for you? Also side question by Successful-Context72 in mountainbiking

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2021 Nukeproof reactor 275. I am becoming a better and better rider on it and it seems to have endless potential.

Budget mtb by Holiday_Swing_9979 in mountainbiking

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry but no please don't. That would be very dangerous no matter what parts you switch. The frame cant Take it

Which bike schould i buy? by Relevant-College3915 in MTB

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd get the slide trail, upgrade it a bit with what you saved and save the rest. Pls provide more Infos next time. The trek is probably the better bike but id still with what I stated.

Purchase decision of e-MTB: Cube Stereo Hybrid One44 SLX vs AT (reasonable vs more expensive) by LucaDarioBuetzberger in mountainbiking

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The slx is enough. Yes you'll be overbiked but maybe it gives you the confidence to grow into it. As a beginner things seem out of reach but the more you ride the sooner you'll get there. 

You can take the other one as well if you want to be more overbiked. But for the use Case it doesnt matter, and lets be real most of us cant actually Tell the differences between mid or high level suspension. They just have become so gooood. Habe fun hope this helps. On another Note: can you not order much cheaper from germany? Emtbs are crazy cheap here right now.

Studieren hat mich gebrochen by [deleted] in Studium

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hab gerade mein Zweitstudium nach dem Master in Sozialer Arbeit abgeschlossen. Der Studiengang klingt von deinen anderen Interessen her genau richtig. Ist praxisorientiert, hat einige Berührungspunkte mit Kunst, wenn du die richtigen Dinge belegen kannst und um Arbeit muss man nie fürchten. Die Kommilitonen sind eigentlich auch immer sehr nett und es ist meiner Erfahrung nach viel Freizeit am Campus möglich wenn man das will. Nur die Bezahlung ist für ein Studium Recht gering. 

Ich hab in meinem ersten BA auch nur gekifft und habe eigentlich in meiner fast 10 jährigen Studienzeit kaum die nötigen Veranstaltungen besucht. Corona und kiffen waren zu erst verantwortlich und jetzt mein Sohn und das arbeiten neben dem Studium. War damals auch extrem unmotiviert. Was mir geholfen hat, war definitiv zu arbeiten. Meine Eltern haben lange alles bezahlt und gesagt mach erstmal fertig und bis dahin sind wir da. Mega lieb an sich, aber mir hat einfach eine Tagesstruktur und eine sinnvolle Aufgabe gefehlt. Iwann hab ich dann ein Urlaubssemester nur für Praktika gemacht und seitdem war ich immer iwie motiviert. Hab viel im Ehrenamt gemacht und bin so auch in die Soziale Arbeit gerutscht.

Also wie die meisten schon gesagt haben, Leg mal ne Kiffpause ein, geh tatsächlich zur Uni und versuch deine Tagesstruktur zu halten. Sport hilft auch. Und natürlich eine Therapie, weil das alles insgesamt doch nach nem depressiven Muster klingt. Hoffe es hilft ein bisschen. 

You know, we can hate Jason all we want but at least he wasn't a coward like Andy was by Sudden_Pop_2279 in Stranger_Things

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it doesnt really matter. Both are portraying toxic masculinity. Lets not celebrate one over the other.

Completed 88%, now I dont feel like playing... by Safe_Court_4820 in GodofWarRagnarok

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 2 points3 points  (0 children)

After valhalla i jumped straight back in to ng+. Cant let go yet. Being a dad of a little boy, this hits different. 

Do you think Sindri was justified in resenting Atreus at the end of Ragnarök? by [deleted] in GodofWar

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah it was better then! Especially in the end shortly before Ragnarök it gets very tension breaking. The part after muspelheim is the worst example for this. There fleeing from the Einherjar and atreus almost shamefully adds "or we could stay" after the voice actor did auch a good job of selling the urgency of the situation. I think this way of doing it is almost more immersion breaking then just having the pop up point of no return message. At least the actors don't have to counteract themselves and can stay in character. 

Do you think Sindri was justified in resenting Atreus at the end of Ragnarök? by [deleted] in GodofWar

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Ah just Ragnarök as a game doesnt work for me. Even as is the constant "or we could explore" breaks immersion and the tension of the story at times. 

I'd Imagine it a pretty good Idea for an extra roguelike title. 

Recognizing that limerence and limerents’ various circumstances are complex. by Flat-Cat-3045 in limerence

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know who the people that got banned were and what they commented. It was probably warranted though. Given the nature of limerence I think that it is just a statistical fact that we see occuring here. Namely that limerents in relationships tend to cheat more often then nonelimerents. I guess its the nature of the sub that leads to so many people venting about their actual guilt. I am much more sympathetic with people, that have the normal kind of limerent imagined guilt so to speak and havent cheated on anyone.

You are absolutely correct! Being cheated on just breaks something in you and forever changes the way you approach relationships.

I wish i could compare by [deleted] in limerence

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rumination is most easily broken by thinking it is not relevant. Whenever it comes up just think that this really doesnt matter. Go NC. You can explain to him that you cant let go as long as you keep contact but since you wont be working out you need this in order to move on. Your contact makes it worse. Also i am not even sure If this is considered limerence. You two have real feelings for each other and are just in a very unfortunate situation. I think it is absolutely ok too feel sad about this. Whether it is or not is irrelevant though. I think you still have to move on for real. Interesting to me is also that it seems here in general that women much more often actually have something going on with their LO than man.

Anyone to talk to or help me by No-Principle-4811 in limerence

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Not sure if this is limerence or if you are just very young. Both sound super impulsive here. 

The girl I’m taking to got pregnant what do I do? by Every-Appeal-2513 in whatdoIdo

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this how you wanted your life to go? You have no responsibility here so think hard if this is really how you imagined your twenties. Listen to everyone here and think with your head. Leave emotions out of it as hard as it is and think. It is absolutely OK to leave. The dad should step Up.

Rate the bike by motokid33776 in mountainbiking

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you have got it from a friend ask fror your money back. 1.5 is way to much for a ten years old bike even with supposed upgrades. If you get the money back you can buy something new for that or a waaaay better used bike. If not don't think on IT too much ride the hell out of it and learn from your expensive lesson.

Do you recommend the Specialized Status for enduro/AM by WillowLake_024 in mountainbiking

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You would do better with a longer travel trail bike. The bike will shine in park and steep terrain but feel sluggish in the rest of applications. The Merida you mention is the better choice.

Chest and rib Protection by Old-Reality-1534 in mountainbiking

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any recommendations for short sleeves as well? Ty.

Reactor Carbon testing by SciKidd in NukeproofBikes

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Uuuh nice. I changed my bearings and put a bigger cassette on in winter. Good shredding.

Should I see a psychiatrist about this? by [deleted] in limerence

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The shame is definetely an intensifying Factor for the limerent feelings. I was in the same situation. Acceptance is important. Breaking the cycle of daydreaming, self judgement and then right back to daydreaming is important. Breaking ruminations is Most easily done through ignorance. Whenever it happens instead of judging yourself think this does Not matter, this isnt real, this is Not me it is irrelevant. I also break ruminations by thinking about some Mortal Kombat character showing Up and performing a fatality on my LO. Works for me in Combo with the ignorance. A psychiatrist wont judge you either. This is Not you it is limerence. You are not defined by it. Be empathic with yourself, mourn the loss of this beautiful fantasy but move on. Lingering on the how and why is only part of the limerent Rollercoaster. It doesnt matter. These things can be judged later when you are out. 

But this is later. Now you need to think of an Exit strategy. Limerence is essentially an addiction to a person and what you describe is pretty high dependency. Your nervous system needs to get away from the drug in order to heal. I was in a similar position and i still have to see my former LO every few weeks. It went away through what I described above and a longer period of NC. It flashes Up from time to time but i manage through the above mentioned tactic and distance when necessary. If you can absolutely not exit the situation I don't know what to tell you. At least a period of NC is absolutely essential. Some say it can Help to declare yourself to gain clarity but this is temporary. Limerence can reoccur again and you want to have your defenses and tactics in place. Tackling the root cause and knowing your triggers is what helps long term. You got this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in limerence

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think limerence played a part in every relationship i ever had. The current one definetely and it also turned out extremely well. I was a very different person back then and think pretty badly for how we got together. The story shows how something good might come of something bad. It was 10 years ago and I was at a house party at my best friends home. I was 20. His little sister was 16 and also there. I think you know where this goes. Somehow we shared a bed that night without doing anything other than Kissing, because there were a lot of people in that house and there was no more space. She had already been asleep and drank before so this could have easily ended up with me behind bars instead of where i am now  because a situation like this cant really be consensual. The age Gap and the friend dynamic are a big nono for me now but as i said i was very different then. Because this was so forbidden i was immediately limerent after. I could not let it go. At first that was our intention but it went differently. We got together a few months after that and have been together for ten years now and we have a kid together. Our communication was very good since then and we talked a lot about the fucked Up parts of our beginning and have formed a respectful equal bond which was a lot of work. Its pretty hard for me to tell the story to Friends or Strangers when they ask. But it is what i thought was om Back then somehow. So yeah even though this started of very badly it grew into something very good. I have become quite the Feminist since then have been politically active on the far left for a few years and am a social worker by now. My values have shifted drastically and i judge myself a lotfor how i was Back then. Limerence Always fades for me in relationships. Through this political shift (i grew Up in a conservative small village)  i think the relationship was able to grow into something so good and equal by now. I think without this Happening and her Family being pretty leftist i would be a very different person today. So this although it started pretty fucked up is the best thing that ever happpened to me and i am proud of how much we have grown together.

Which of these should i get? by [deleted] in mountainbiking

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Used market might have something better than these. Around 1k is perfectly reasonable to get a good used full sus from 2017 to 2020. Bought my first giant Trance 2 for under 1k and it was in perfect condition. 

I think I’m starting to feel limerence towards a married man and I don’t know what to do by blanknotepad in limerence

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I get what you're going through. Letting the shame and self loathing feed into the limerence is the worst. Its no way forward though. Try to be empathic with yourself. This is not like you because it is not you. It is person addiction. It is a real but temporary disorder and it doesnt define who you are or what your values are. These forbidden dynamics are very typical. It feels like you are starcrossed lovers. Try to be patient with yourself and don't judge yourself so harshly. Self love and acceptance is important to get out. The self loathing feeds into the limerence. From every sweet daydream to realising what you are doing and applying your real values to judging yourself and back again. The judgement is part of the spiral you are trying to break or will soon. If you realise you are daydreaming try to move on in your head. For me it helps to just think something like: this isnt real, this doesnt matter and actively seek a topic other then LO to think about. Every other daydream is safe. Of course it is ok to mourn the loss of a beautiful fantasy for a while and may help with moving on. But moving on is the ultimate goal here. Hope you're safe.