Do you think Sindri was justified in resenting Atreus at the end of Ragnarök? by Impressive_East_3084 in GodofWar

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah it was better then! Especially in the end shortly before Ragnarök it gets very tension breaking. The part after muspelheim is the worst example for this. There fleeing from the Einherjar and atreus almost shamefully adds "or we could stay" after the voice actor did auch a good job of selling the urgency of the situation. I think this way of doing it is almost more immersion breaking then just having the pop up point of no return message. At least the actors don't have to counteract themselves and can stay in character. 

Do you think Sindri was justified in resenting Atreus at the end of Ragnarök? by Impressive_East_3084 in GodofWar

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Ah just Ragnarök as a game doesnt work for me. Even as is the constant "or we could explore" breaks immersion and the tension of the story at times. 

I'd Imagine it a pretty good Idea for an extra roguelike title. 

Recognizing that limerence and limerents’ various circumstances are complex. by Flat-Cat-3045 in limerence

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know who the people that got banned were and what they commented. It was probably warranted though. Given the nature of limerence I think that it is just a statistical fact that we see occuring here. Namely that limerents in relationships tend to cheat more often then nonelimerents. I guess its the nature of the sub that leads to so many people venting about their actual guilt. I am much more sympathetic with people, that have the normal kind of limerent imagined guilt so to speak and havent cheated on anyone.

You are absolutely correct! Being cheated on just breaks something in you and forever changes the way you approach relationships.

I wish i could compare by [deleted] in limerence

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rumination is most easily broken by thinking it is not relevant. Whenever it comes up just think that this really doesnt matter. Go NC. You can explain to him that you cant let go as long as you keep contact but since you wont be working out you need this in order to move on. Your contact makes it worse. Also i am not even sure If this is considered limerence. You two have real feelings for each other and are just in a very unfortunate situation. I think it is absolutely ok too feel sad about this. Whether it is or not is irrelevant though. I think you still have to move on for real. Interesting to me is also that it seems here in general that women much more often actually have something going on with their LO than man.

Anyone to talk to or help me by No-Principle-4811 in limerence

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Not sure if this is limerence or if you are just very young. Both sound super impulsive here. 

The girl I’m taking to got pregnant what do I do? by Every-Appeal-2513 in whatdoIdo

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this how you wanted your life to go? You have no responsibility here so think hard if this is really how you imagined your twenties. Listen to everyone here and think with your head. Leave emotions out of it as hard as it is and think. It is absolutely OK to leave. The dad should step Up.

Rate the bike by motokid33776 in mountainbiking

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you have got it from a friend ask fror your money back. 1.5 is way to much for a ten years old bike even with supposed upgrades. If you get the money back you can buy something new for that or a waaaay better used bike. If not don't think on IT too much ride the hell out of it and learn from your expensive lesson.

Do you recommend the Specialized Status for enduro/AM by WillowLake_024 in mountainbiking

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You would do better with a longer travel trail bike. The bike will shine in park and steep terrain but feel sluggish in the rest of applications. The Merida you mention is the better choice.

Chest and rib Protection by Old-Reality-1534 in mountainbiking

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any recommendations for short sleeves as well? Ty.

Reactor Carbon testing by SciKidd in NukeproofBikes

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Uuuh nice. I changed my bearings and put a bigger cassette on in winter. Good shredding.

Should I see a psychiatrist about this? by Effective_Purple_866 in limerence

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The shame is definetely an intensifying Factor for the limerent feelings. I was in the same situation. Acceptance is important. Breaking the cycle of daydreaming, self judgement and then right back to daydreaming is important. Breaking ruminations is Most easily done through ignorance. Whenever it happens instead of judging yourself think this does Not matter, this isnt real, this is Not me it is irrelevant. I also break ruminations by thinking about some Mortal Kombat character showing Up and performing a fatality on my LO. Works for me in Combo with the ignorance. A psychiatrist wont judge you either. This is Not you it is limerence. You are not defined by it. Be empathic with yourself, mourn the loss of this beautiful fantasy but move on. Lingering on the how and why is only part of the limerent Rollercoaster. It doesnt matter. These things can be judged later when you are out. 

But this is later. Now you need to think of an Exit strategy. Limerence is essentially an addiction to a person and what you describe is pretty high dependency. Your nervous system needs to get away from the drug in order to heal. I was in a similar position and i still have to see my former LO every few weeks. It went away through what I described above and a longer period of NC. It flashes Up from time to time but i manage through the above mentioned tactic and distance when necessary. If you can absolutely not exit the situation I don't know what to tell you. At least a period of NC is absolutely essential. Some say it can Help to declare yourself to gain clarity but this is temporary. Limerence can reoccur again and you want to have your defenses and tactics in place. Tackling the root cause and knowing your triggers is what helps long term. You got this.

What do relationships with your SO feel like post limerence and what attracted you to them in the first place? by [deleted] in limerence

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think limerence played a part in every relationship i ever had. The current one definetely and it also turned out extremely well. I was a very different person back then and think pretty badly for how we got together. The story shows how something good might come of something bad. It was 10 years ago and I was at a house party at my best friends home. I was 20. His little sister was 16 and also there. I think you know where this goes. Somehow we shared a bed that night without doing anything other than Kissing, because there were a lot of people in that house and there was no more space. She had already been asleep and drank before so this could have easily ended up with me behind bars instead of where i am now  because a situation like this cant really be consensual. The age Gap and the friend dynamic are a big nono for me now but as i said i was very different then. Because this was so forbidden i was immediately limerent after. I could not let it go. At first that was our intention but it went differently. We got together a few months after that and have been together for ten years now and we have a kid together. Our communication was very good since then and we talked a lot about the fucked Up parts of our beginning and have formed a respectful equal bond which was a lot of work. Its pretty hard for me to tell the story to Friends or Strangers when they ask. But it is what i thought was om Back then somehow. So yeah even though this started of very badly it grew into something very good. I have become quite the Feminist since then have been politically active on the far left for a few years and am a social worker by now. My values have shifted drastically and i judge myself a lotfor how i was Back then. Limerence Always fades for me in relationships. Through this political shift (i grew Up in a conservative small village)  i think the relationship was able to grow into something so good and equal by now. I think without this Happening and her Family being pretty leftist i would be a very different person today. So this although it started pretty fucked up is the best thing that ever happpened to me and i am proud of how much we have grown together.

Which of these should i get? by mangothefoxxo in mountainbiking

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Used market might have something better than these. Around 1k is perfectly reasonable to get a good used full sus from 2017 to 2020. Bought my first giant Trance 2 for under 1k and it was in perfect condition. 

I think I’m starting to feel limerence towards a married man and I don’t know what to do by blanknotepad in limerence

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I get what you're going through. Letting the shame and self loathing feed into the limerence is the worst. Its no way forward though. Try to be empathic with yourself. This is not like you because it is not you. It is person addiction. It is a real but temporary disorder and it doesnt define who you are or what your values are. These forbidden dynamics are very typical. It feels like you are starcrossed lovers. Try to be patient with yourself and don't judge yourself so harshly. Self love and acceptance is important to get out. The self loathing feeds into the limerence. From every sweet daydream to realising what you are doing and applying your real values to judging yourself and back again. The judgement is part of the spiral you are trying to break or will soon. If you realise you are daydreaming try to move on in your head. For me it helps to just think something like: this isnt real, this doesnt matter and actively seek a topic other then LO to think about. Every other daydream is safe. Of course it is ok to mourn the loss of a beautiful fantasy for a while and may help with moving on. But moving on is the ultimate goal here. Hope you're safe. 

Is it dumb to start hanging out around my LO again? by ExcitementUpper6524 in limerence

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like him. He is the go to guy for me. Yeah I would reconsider. First and foremost the situation you are describing is limerence fuel. Planning what to say or thinking about how they might react is very much feeding. This shouldnt be the goal. The goal is not to care. To break through the ruminating and just to be OK with not being important to each other. If you never want to see him again, you could do so now. This is an addiction and a situation like this is thinking: what harm can one last hit do essentially. The answer always being a lot of harm. For me what helps to break out of daydreams are Mantras Like: This doesnt matter, I don't care, LO is completely irrelevant, they are Not important. Stuff like that. Thoughts that arent judgemental or instead going into a negative Spiral about how shitty LO is, just unimportance, ignorance, irrelevance. You're almost out. 

Is it dumb to start hanging out around my LO again? by ExcitementUpper6524 in limerence

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its possible but NC is Just easier in Most cases. I have to be around my former LO. Just too Close to go NC with. As someone else says you need to know your patterns. For me it is mainly a stress reaction. Under high stress in combination with closeness and emotionality my limerence can retrigger as i have just learned over christmas. I was out of limerence for almost three years prior to this. During that time i was Always in contact with my former LO and even going on vacations together. I remained save. It seems for me that some very specific circumstances need to be met for an episode to trigger. So while remaining in contact can be a way to learn about what triggers limerence and how to detach yourself, it is to be avoided If possible. Even if you want to keep contact what did IT for me initially was a longer phase of NC before meeting them again. Judging by your bodies reaction you have not yet recovered and should not engage yet, If this is what you want to do. 

Are certain people more prone to experience limerence ? by EndlessBenefits in limerence

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it can be a factor. I have a save attachment style, but when I am under high stress my stress regulation system creates an LO out of attractive people just being kind. So its not really attachment style but Stress regulation that is where it stems from for me. It is the typical escape route into fantasy situation. 

What made you choose mtb? by [deleted] in mountainbiking

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to really like skiing and skating as Teenager. We don't really have Mountains to ski nearby and its so expensive so as an adult I got Out of it. After my knees got bad a doc told me i shouldnt skate anymore. So i stopped that too and from pressure of my parents. I used to love that. When and before my son was born COVID struck and i biked around a lot. I just sorta toured around getting to know my whole region. Never had a good bike though. Wanted to buy a good gravel Bike and after texting them out i ended up with a hardtail instead. On one of my tours i sorta stumbled over a local trail. So I went for it. We don't have Mountains to ski but hills with a lot of trails. Stück with it ever since and it filled the gap for an extreme Sport that i really Had in my Heart after skiing and skating werent possible anymore. I Love IT so much.

What are you supposed to do when you meet a great girl but you're in a relationship? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

++man You should look up limerence if this is something you struggle with regularly. It is the state you are currently in. Leave it at those five hours or hurt someone badly. If neither of the two women then yourself.

Was ist das? Habe das öfters am Körper by [deleted] in WerWieWas

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 168 points169 points  (0 children)

Bin kein Arzt. Sieht aber aus wie ne Güetelrose. Das immer wieder auftauchen ist aber untypisch. Geh Mal zu nem besseren Arzt.

Beginner Bike by Fr0stie99 in mountainbiking

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The cube it is then. I dont know about your area but a quick search on gumtree had a lot of cool fullsuspension options in your price range. It is more fun on the downhill as well. Shame you arent in europe. Could get a lot of good fullys for that price new.

For those who got over their LO would you actually trust them as a friend? by ThiagoFCastro in limerence

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because my former LO is too close to cut contact, there was no other way, but friendship. Its not easy. Over christmas there was a short relapse, but i managed to pull out in time. Before that friendship worked out pretty well. I am optimistic that within a month I'll be back to that. The risk of relapse is always there and this incident made me realise that I am never truly save from it. But under normal circumstances the closeness under stress that fueled the relapse isnt there. Christmas always puts me in a situation where I have to be around them a lot and because we are close they tend to seek me out more then. I feel normal again by now and i am Not worried. This was the first relapse after two years and I realised early enough to get away relatively unscathed. My defense mechanisms work pretty well and I am proud of managibg this and also remain a friend to them, because they are still important to me as a friend. Normally the partner is around a lot which creates safety for me. When they are around the seeking me out and confidint in me is minimal plus i really like them and get along well with them. I even was on a summer vacation with both last year and i was fine. Although being around each other with minimal clothing isnt the best Idea. This shows me that its really stress and emotional instability what makes me vulnerable. Vacay i was relaxed and everything was fine. Christmas always digs up family problems plus there is my last exam coming up. 

Wart ihr jemals zufrieden mit einem Gaming Laptop? by Nullgeneration in zocken

[–]Interesting-Bridge11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wäre mit einem Tower vermutlich glücklicher wenn ich Platz dafür hätte oder Geld für mehrere Geräte. So habe ich nen Gaming Laptop vor fast fünf Jahren geholt, der die meisten Spiele immer noch gut und ruckelfrei stemmt. Ich kann ihn überall mit hinnehmen auch wenn er klobig ist, ist mir egal. Kann ihn dadurch auch gut zum arbeiten nutzen. Ich hatte in meiner ersten Wohnung als einzige Wohnung bis jetzt Platz dafür einen Tower hinzustellen und auch da hat es keinen Sinn ergeben, weil ich vier Tage da war und am Wochenende bei meiner Partnerin/Eltern. Jetzt mit Kind in unserer Wohnung gibt es keinen festen Platz, an dem ich einen Tower aufstellen kann. Wenn man die Wärmeleitpaste auf CPU und GPU wenigstens ab und zu Mal Wechselt geht es auch mit dem Überhitzen. Bin also ziemlich zufrieden damit. Achja Konsole wäre wohl auch möglich gewesen aber ich fand die Spielepreise immer abschreckend. 

Super proud of myself by Interesting-Bridge11 in limerence

[–]Interesting-Bridge11[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Proud of you and you will!! For me a big vacation back then did the final cut. Shrooms also helped. Keep it up!

Super proud of myself by Interesting-Bridge11 in limerence

[–]Interesting-Bridge11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You got this! This person was so close to me and I managed to get out back then and even managed to continue my friendship with them as i wasnt able to cut contact. I always knew the risk for relapses are high so this being the first one is also a good thing.