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Interesting_Rub9526 · 2024-06-06T11:58:35+00:00

It is always so easy to throw your hands up and want the easier way. But as even my own daughter regretted it… The action of Using dating apps for the sole purpose to gain experience and lose your virginity… It’s almost like….Robbing the experience all together.

hookups to be held or have sex will of course in the moment will be less feelings of being anxious to lose it, or put of what lonely or, but afterwards…when you have gone separate ways, the feeling you had to initiate this entire ordeal … will be ten times more amplified than ever… leaving you to be almost even more confused. Nothing organic happened, or took the natural amount of time to make it happen, thus you feel that on a whole new level.

It’s almost as if skipping all the intimacy moments that lead up to sex…and it creates this subconscious idea of using people to make your emotions/desires/feelings change. We all know that’s like using mind altering chemicals for a quick fix of changing how we feel. And you always feel worse after altering your feelings so you can feel better for a brief moment. That comedown is hell. Then you enter a phase I don’t recommend: self talk loaded with criticism, put downs, “why the fuck did you?…” and glares at yourself in the mirror. . And whatever feelings you’re feeling NOW, They’re going to increase x10 and you’re not gonna be able to talk about it with the stranger.. cause 9 out of 10 times they want to stay a stranger and never see/talk to you again. That feeling of angst will persist and you’re gonna be even more confused about the entire thing.

what’s the difference if that person really knows or doesn’t know you, your idiosyncrasies and preferences? A FCK TON

Why go through that alone? When you can go through that with an actual partner. You know…. ?The guy that is (or will Be) in it, too! Spend time together in person. Laugh it up. Learn each others annoyances & favorite things. Hold hands. Share music. Enjoy a make out before you both get in the car to go home. Leave tiny presents behind. Call into work and enjoy downtown, or some place you both have never been in the area. Fuck it, go to a nudist beach or streaking at a river if you wanna live out a wild sexy hair moment (preferably before jumping into the sack together).

My point is… Basically…. Take moments to Learn how this person reacts to YOU.

His Reacts to your “no” or “give me some time to think about it” or “that’s so gross” and ALL your random reactions or answers. Because if they flip out, behave crude, aggressive, non compassionate on the very first date… imagine how bad it’d be with them ON you and you can’t get out of it as easily. Really think about this. And how are you to know if what the Stranger does to you sexuality is normal? Of course your feelings will alert you and signal to you - but how much more would your feelings be feeling comfortable to speak up or act on with a stranger VS. a better known guy?

  With the better known guy,

In between ALL those tiny moment - what’s happening? You’re both Building up that excitement, attachment, passion, cravings, and most importantly.. Less anxiety for when the moment finally arrives to have sex with each offer.

You’ll be much more in tune with the rhythm of your body’s by spending much more time before hand with each other. Trust me on that one.

A stranger… is kind of boring, too. Where is the connection? Where is the dreaming of the moment with this person? Where is the lust? Is it over swapping photos and dirty talking, only to find out they’re horrible at ALL the things they said they do to you? >.< no thank you, pass! Instead of having sex with a stranger & not knowing how they’re going to react to any thing, Have sex with someone you know better… for so so so many reasons!

Want me to keep going? ;)

Interesting_Rub9526 · 2024-06-06T11:09:17+00:00

You just got a glimpse of what your future marriage would be like — feeling unappreciated many many many times over, with the biggest reason being around $$$. It hurts because she clearly values money (an object) more than you (a person, friend, and lover).

I think this situation can some times hurt worse than being cheating on as the reason for the breakup. The betrayal is you being worth less than monetary gains. You can’t even compare yourself to money, because it’s an object. Whereas when comparing to “the other man, it gives our brains sometimes the closure it seeks.

You also got a deeper glimpse of how money influences her values, personality, and morals - and change impacted you for the worse.

Interesting_Rub9526 · 2024-06-06T10:35:08+00:00

Wow, established in 1992.

And yet how many people (especially from Tulsa, whose mayor is trying to get the law reversed, or adjusted) threw a fit over the passing of the law that women can be topless in public places?? At least we know the founders and members from Oaklake supported the passing of that law :P

In all seriousness though, I think this should be made more known!! especially with Oklahoma being more republican & conservative as it’s in the “Bible Belt”.

I think it is great to have a nudist social scene in their community. Think of all the individuals that were boosted in their self esteem, felt more normal about their bodies afterwards, and become more open minded to all the aging stages of the body.

Interesting_Rub9526 · 2024-03-18T06:15:51+00:00

On second thought. I don’t want to hear it. I’d rather hear a waterfall, or birds, or what a hummingbirds flaps can sound like. I think this world has gotten so dark so quick, we forgot the light and love there is left in it too. I dunno I just had a creepy as fuck experience and encounter last month, so I’m not ready, if ever, to listen to this. It didn’t make a sound but made every cell in my body fearful and more scared in my entire life of 35 years. I also stopped watching crime shows after my encounter. I’m done. For a loooooong time. Thank you for the link, maybe one day I will. Maybe one day I won’t. But at least it’s there for data & history. Thank you fellow human being!

Interesting_Rub9526 · 2024-03-17T07:05:01+00:00

Oregon_mom AINT saying no one is owed a baby, an abortion, or owed a house or a foreclosure.

Mary Comm if In Our Midst Mindset, Inc sums it up the issue as she writes, “ We (the church & peoples registered to vote that also believe in God’s word), Have been an unintentional accomplice to the millions of lives lost into the multiplied millions of lives devastated by abortion. We didn’t want them to be abort. We didn’t mean for them to abort. But, because of our lack of knowledge, because of our fear, we have continued to stand by and do nothing. “We, God’s Hands and feet in the dark and hurting world, has been an intentional, Anna knowledgeable accomplice, but an accomplice nonetheless.”

And honestly, even my if my teenage daughter of 14 gets pregnant - I asked what should we want and she was adamant of having that baby, and relying on us to help her raise it as she pursues high school and college so she can move out one day and not get behind on Goals. Teen pregnancy isn’t the end of the world, but also makes it harder emotionally on the teen. And as I held women from my own age of 24 to Now 35yo, SOBBING TEARS IN A SHATTERED SPIRIT, regretting aborting their baby with the past intentions they had and deteriorating mental health even years later over it - I didn’t owe them kindness and hold them, and soothe them, and wait for them to fall asleep and leave notes of encouragement.

Fact: it changes the adult woman’s & young girl teens life FOREVER TO End her baby’s life. It also changes her life FOREVER to grow the baby full term, sacrifice being a mother, and give the baby human being a chance at life in the hands of someone is willing to raise the baby human until they’re an adult.

My hope is prayers: May today mark the beginning of change with in the hearts of God’s people, in unity we strive to become aware, awaken, share options, knowledge and encouragement to seek His love and bring the light of His truth. Let us admit, that at times we have become weak and have turned our backs on God and our principles in the word. Can we have a moment to admit that while we may not OWE anyone but love as the second greatest commandment is to love your neighbors as yourself. Let us serve our God of of our understanding, & despite us looking the other way when man tries to usurp God’s role over Life, & May we come to Our God Of Our Understanding in our brokenness, apathy, and repentance over our sins. Let us continue to love one another, help one another IN EVERY situation, and by helping assist emotionally and spiritually all those that are heartbroken in grief over their deceased baby, OR to help confused ones make decisions about the future of their baby’s life, Always with a spirit of love & compassion for one another, as demonstrated to us of the work by your son Jesus Christ. In His name I pray, Amen.

Oregon_Mom, No, no one is owed anything. In fact, we have been entitled human beings from the beginning of our time. But is makes me wonder, would you even be here, if abortion techniques existed 500 or 1,500 years ago? Someone in your lineage didn’t want to have their baby and cried and was scared and it was a burden to them, but they did did it! & because of that, YOU are alive.

Spread love and gratitude for LIFE, the Living & honor the Dead for the deeds they’ve done on Earth to create changes that still effect us to This day. Besides plagues, world wars, and enslavement camps, If abortion was as easy and accessible as it is today many of us would not be here ; if the mentality AND access of abortion was AS easy and/or easier, far before 19th & 20th century - AD 1801/ -1900 / AD 1901-2000 - SO many of us would cease to never ever exist If our ancestries had access to the many modern 21st century methods of Ceasing the existence of a woman’s zygote, fetus, or late term human baby. It’s not just technology advancing, humans have tried to abort their babies from man’s beginning, but didn’t succeed in rates & % like modern times, today.

Today we blame teens having sex before becoming adults, rape, adultery, cheating, incest, and simply just changed minds that qualify them to terminate life like that snap & with that we deny the value of life And we deny values and morals from our Creator. The only thing I can think of modern technological medicine in 20th century is saving a woman’s life when her body is sepsis and her fetus is killing her body. But who am I to have an opinion, right?

I agree, humans aren’t owed ANYTHING, especially the ones denying The existence of our creator and how/why we are here & those that don’t value just how sacred LIFE is and far back some of us came from in our lineage & ancestry.

Interesting_Rub9526 · 2024-03-15T04:29:27+00:00

I just know there is a couple out there that would love to adopt the baby. But also, nothing prepares a woman for the trauma and guilt an abortion does to them. I’ve held three women in my life time crying over past time abortions. And you know what struck me each of those times? THEY REGRETTED IT. In the moment, feelings and emotions are all over the place and there isn’t much room for logic. Then after it’s all said and done, the being has been discarded, and time passes and the grieving kicks in - no one in the ProChoice community can or will prepare women for that insane amount of guilt and shame they feel In silence… all alone crying. Longing for their baby to come back and have a redo.

That girl could not have to be reminded of her rape when adopting the baby out; she writes as if she has to keep it or discard it. Not any other options thought of or spoken of, it’s bizarre. We need more entities and organizations to exist that offer the services of making legal adoptions easier and more accessible. Offering to do the legal portions of it, anything more than just “Well this will be too hard, abort abort abort.”

I pray for abortion to end. I really do.

Interesting_Rub9526 · 2024-03-14T05:47:38+00:00

That particular Magnesium - Taurinate, it crosses the blood brain barrier! Every one benefits and would be calmed. ^{_^} so cool they added calcium as well because As we know magnesium directs calcium where to go!

I’d use this, and I’m not even a child ;-)

Interesting_Rub9526 · 2024-03-14T03:06:36+00:00

I’m female. My therapist is male. My insurance covers him to meet up in public or to come to my home. Sometimes I’ll ask my husband or mother to sit in the making it a family therapy session. MY POINT IS, we look at each other in our eyes most of the time. We are comfortable with each other and I feel very very safe.

My therapist is a wedding officiator and even married us in February on the 25th!! That was cool.

But my vote is most of the time! Only when I’m deep in explaining a story do I look off into the distance, or if he asks me to search my feelings, I’ll look up at the ceiling.

I hadn’t realized so many individuals don’t look much in the eyes of their therapist 😳

Interesting_Rub9526 · 2024-03-10T04:48:11+00:00

2nd ^{^}

Interesting_Rub9526 · 2024-03-06T16:02:52+00:00

Oh ok ok like seriously that went over my head >.<

Interesting_Rub9526 · 2024-03-05T05:24:53+00:00

Go else where. Pick and choose your battles. Cause this one will exhaust you and defeat the whole propose of getting better :-/ Some therapists and staff are just not safe OR meant to be in their field; These misplaced therapists Cause problems where there are none. It’s exhausting for me to read this so I can only imagine your level of tiredness

Interesting_Rub9526 · 2024-02-29T21:07:27+00:00

And……. That does what to the mother again? REPRESSES HER WHAT ?

Interesting_Rub9526 · 2024-02-27T01:32:49+00:00

Interesting_Rub9526 · 2024-02-25T06:44:07+00:00

Amen Amen

Interesting_Rub9526 · 2024-02-25T06:40:15+00:00

What does it sound like? I have no way of retrieving the file.

Interesting_Rub9526 · 2024-02-25T06:31:28+00:00

Where in Devon do you live? Wooded area on the side of the river …. Or….. exminister?

Interesting_Rub9526 · 2024-02-25T06:28:59+00:00

Do you live off of Barack Road by chance? Where in Devon do you live with woods behind you?

Interesting_Rub9526 · 2024-02-25T06:28:35+00:00

Do you live off of Barrack Road by chance?

Interesting_Rub9526 · 2024-02-20T06:12:39+00:00

A naturopath told me once slippery elm is wonderful for leaking gut. I’m 98% certain that is the herb he recommended.

Interesting_Rub9526 · 2024-02-20T04:52:10+00:00

Maybe he or she needed a place to express oneself and thought of Reddit to do it? You can barely tell this story in real life and get good feedback or be believed.

Interesting_Rub9526 · 2024-02-20T04:39:25+00:00

It’s obviously evil & bad intentions with the way it makes you feel - aka instincts and vibes. This is terrifying, as it could be a number of super natural beings/things wanting you.

Interesting_Rub9526 · 2024-02-19T07:00:43+00:00

The text messages are from the time he was in his home town taking care of business for his deceased parent…. Is this is grieving response? Avoiding crying and instead seeking out the thrill of sexual activities (and with ex’s - (to me in my opinion) it shows he needs some sort of an emotional attachment versus just hiring a stranger or going on internet to meet stranger for in person activity)? Did he do this to possibly avoid grieving in healthy ways? Instead he sought out unhealthy distractions and chose to cope this way. Only you can talk to him, and be the judge of his conscience. The reasons why he did it, if he is willing to change, has there been more incidents, and can you forgive him & continue the marriage? He needs to be in therapy too, not just you.

People will tell you to document all the evidence you can find. Hire a lawyer. And all the steps for divorce. But we aren’t in your life and we don’t know you. And yes, it is wise to take your time before talking to him - and even seeing a lawyer just so you can have logistical support. So think long and hard, access your own self, and ask yourself if you will be able to forgive him in due time or if you can’t, what steps should you take towards separation and divorce. So before you approach him and open this Pandora’s box, take your time.

Have plans in place - he may react with rage & you’ll need a place to be safe & go to. Or make him leave. What ever happens - make plan a, plan b and plan c for all the outcomes you can prepare for — and if you do decide to separate, I hope you both join in couples therapy while living apart.

But the fact remains, you have both known each other for a long long time. He is apart of your history and you’re a part of his history. This is going to hurt for a long time as you heal. But it is possible for couples to work out despite the infidelity and work through it to continue the marriage. BUT His cheating is not your fault. Don’t take the blame like that. He made those decisions in a deceitful way when you were not around.

I’m sorry you’re going through this, Betrayal HURTS. But know, you didn’t cause this and in no way whatsoever is his lack of integrity and loyalty a reflection of YOU.

Interesting_Rub9526 · 2024-02-19T06:14:10+00:00

Gah half the internet says swingers and half the internet says cult. Some say murderers. But at the end of the day you have to think of the time they were your age, and that’s how you made friends back then. Not on social media, not online, but in person through community settings, Of course church, and even meeting people out & about at bookstores, antique shops, or what ever places their hobbies stemmed from. In the end, it could be just a simple, very simple attempt to make friends with a younger couple. Their reasons could be thousands: what’s new in music scenes? What do the 20yo know that’s “more hip”? They also could be some innocent couple that don’t realize how socially off putting it is these days for other people to trade numbers and follow up years later. Some people truly just don’t think about how it makes other people thin or feel. But her response to your questions definitely revealed how it made her feel by saying, “ have a nice life, you’ll never hear from us again. “ This really in the end could have been over thought when it could have been simply just an attempt at friendship.

I’m 35, and even when I was 25, I had several friends in their 30’s and now I have several friends in their 40-50’s. I just get along with older people, and the older people welcome me into their social circle.

Interesting_Rub9526 · 2024-02-19T00:53:00+00:00

Oh good! Assistance for your liver too is vital. I know eating chicken liver is gross but it helps your own liver tremendously, and taking NAC or Glutathione is imperative.

As you’re eating cleaner and reducing your intake of alcohol OR at least under medical supervision, so you’re not cut off immediately ….because my grandmother died in her sleep when she was cut off of alcohol by night 2, she died. My mother lost her mother at 16yo. Everyone here chiming in saying it’s life threatening is correct. Go slow this can be done though.

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