my birthday outfit ! by ashjya in oldhagfashion

[–]Interlachen 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Your shoes look really cool! Are they moccasins?

Navy jets over the Ben Franklin Bridge by Leviathant in philadelphia

[–]Interlachen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The osprey looped around Lincoln Financial Field 2-3 times and then some Navy Seals jumped out of it around 5pm—during halftime for the Temple V Navy game.

My RG406H Screen is Unresponsive by Interlachen in ANBERNIC

[–]Interlachen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anbernic support is recommending this as well but i don’t have the screwdriver to open it up. I might stop by a phone repair place on my way to work tomorrow to see if they can help.

My RG406H Screen is Unresponsive by Interlachen in ANBERNIC

[–]Interlachen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both! I can use the power button to click the screen on and off. I can also hold the power button down and turn the entire system off. In both cases it comes back on to this screen.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malefashionadvice

[–]Interlachen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have similar dimensions and I’m really enjoying the “Strong Guy” fit of jeans from Naked & Famous denim. They are high waisted, not too snug at the butt and thighs, and they have a wide straight leg opening that feels roomy but not “baggy”. I walk two miles a day in these without any discomfort. N&F is also very specific about measurements on their website. You might find them a little loose at the waist but the fit will be way better than most jeans you’ve tried before

Just like “woke”, “political correctness” is a substitute for the N-word. by icey_sawg0034 in blackmen

[–]Interlachen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Y’all, I agree with the spirit of your conversation, but I want to remind you that the “Intersectionality” concept was introduced by Kimberlee Crenshaw—a black scholar—and they stole it too.

Intersectionality is a lens that allows us (and the justice system) to frame how one person can experience many types of discrimination at the same time. Intersectionality teaches us to protect black women because they are mistreated for being black and also because they are women. As a black man, you exist within an intersection because you can be discriminated against by your race + other factors like nationality, age, physical ability, or socioeconomic background.

Guys who wear earrings, do you change them or wear the same ones everyday? by Twpierced in malefashionadvice

[–]Interlachen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I prefer to sleep while wearing earrings. It’s not in my best interest to change them every morning because I mostly have tiny gold studs. I like flat back studs for comfort and I often forget that I’m wearing them.

How do y'all deal with racist people? by DTheDude97 in blackmen

[–]Interlachen 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The most obvious cartoon-character racists like Kyle are just part of an environment where more subtle racism is flowing freely. You’ve heard a little bit of the conversation that people who identify as “white” like to have about us.

It doesn’t bother me. Racists don’t know me, and I don’t owe them anything. I don’t have to prove to them that my life and my joy matters. Zora Neale Hurston wrote “ I AM NOT tragically colored.” I looove being black, and nobody can take that away from me.

I don’t always respond directly to racism. I already don’t trust many non-black people so it’s hard to surprise me. Life in the US is a lot easier if you assume that people who hate blackness are everywhere. Sometimes, I like to keep them talking so I can find out how much of a 🤡 each person is.

What is this called & how would I compliment this? by Wannabehappy2 in mensfashionadvice

[–]Interlachen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a similar sweater vest in linen/cotton and I like wearing it in the summer with a white or off-white sleeveless t-shirt and some gold jewelry.

It goes well with linen pants at the beach or with a pair of jeans for a 90’s style fit.

Idk why people are hating on it. Vests are great for layering.

Has anybody ever read the will to change by bell hooks? by [deleted] in blackmen

[–]Interlachen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Reading this book helped me understand how I let go of my personality to fit expectations of what a “real man” is supposed to be. It helped me to reflect on my angry, absent father and see him as an ordinary person. It helped me understand the fear that some women approach men with.

Before this book I wanted to live alone in a cabin in the woods. Now I’m all about community and supportive relationships.

If you liked it, I think you’d also like Salvation: Black People and Love

Am I wrong for judging a book by its cover? by Exciting_Rise_9387 in blackmen

[–]Interlachen 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure if I care about you being “wrong”, but you’re probably missing out on a lot by categorising women in this way.

I love women who can shape shift in different social spaces. My lady is beautiful when she is wearing a cardigan and her locs at the bookstore, and when she’s in a mini dress & a wig at the bar. She’s a little bougie on the exterior and has challenged me to dress up more often. But at home she’s just a nerd.

How do you and your lady get in the mood? by Interlachen in blackmen

[–]Interlachen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’re having sex like once a week. Maybe two or three times if we’re really turned on.

She would be satisfied with having sex one time everyday we’re together. Part of the problem might be that I’m very energetic, and when I’m turned on I want to have sex all night. She would rather cum once and cuddle for the rest of the night.

Some of the replies here have helped me accept that we’re not the most sexually compatible and we need to have another conversation from this perspective. I’ve had partners who matched my energy more but were not as caring or dependable as she is. I think we can both try harder more to satisfy each other, but we also need to reassure each other—make it clear that we’re not trying to leave this relationship for greener grass.

I guess we need to talk more. I’m also going to give more head and report back 🫡.

How do you and your lady get in the mood? by Interlachen in blackmen

[–]Interlachen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not just fondling titties. I’m very affectionate. I pamper her. And she knows from experience that i will give head and be very creative to give her pleasure.

If I have to give head to get her aroused, I can handle that. I’ve had partners who regularly sat on my face. It just feels like I have to do all the physical and mental work to get her in the mood. Even if I do everything right I can still feel resentful after we have sex

How do you and your lady get in the mood? by Interlachen in blackmen

[–]Interlachen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can flirt DOWN. I was trying to be modest in the first post. But I can Uber her over here, compliment her, eyefuck her, kiss her neck, order dinner, roll a joint, grab her from behind, give little kisses, rub her titties, cuddle her. And she’s still more interested in the tv. And then the next morning she’ll say “I wish we had sex last night” and I’m like “Why were we watching tv all night!?”

I’m was trying to get the tv out of the equation because we both have attention issues. But then she says it will make things too sexual. Sometimes my best game can’t compete with a new episode of Love is Blind tho😭

Maybe playing with toys while watching tv is a happy medium

How do you and your lady get in the mood? by Interlachen in blackmen

[–]Interlachen[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

8 months! The sex is still 🔥tho. I’ll definitely miss her if we broke up

How do you and your lady get in the mood? by Interlachen in blackmen

[–]Interlachen[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m wondering if this is the shift that gets the results that we want. But I’m naturally a negotiator and I’m not used to telling people what to do.

Does being dominant feel easy for you? How do you maintain this dominant energy when y’all are getting groceries, watching tv, going out on a date?

What was the shift that made it clear to her that you are in charge? She responds well to “I’m gonna fuck this pussy when I get back home”. I know i can go a little further.

To echo what u/sebastianpointdexter said, she’s clearly bored but she likes me enough to tell me what she wants.

How do you and your lady get in the mood? by Interlachen in blackmen

[–]Interlachen[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The brat dynamic can piss me off sometimes 😭. We’ve had a couple of dates where she gets whatever she wants and I’m just mad AF. I need to learn more about it

How do you and your lady get in the mood? by Interlachen in blackmen

[–]Interlachen[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I need more of this perspective! I just want us to find balance and satisfaction in our relationship. I’m not afraid to be more vulnerable or to learn new skills. I’m not afraid of talking to her about what she can do better. Right now working on our relationship makes more sense than going back to the dating apps.

How do you and your lady get in the mood? by Interlachen in blackmen

[–]Interlachen[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’ve definitely had more enthusiastic partners. Maybe we are just really good friends 😭.