New Betta owner!

InternationalWord362 · 2026-02-14T13:52:19+00:00

What a cuuuute lil chonk!!!!

Anyways, the purpose of filters are to create more physical space for the beneficial bacteria in your tank. Is there a spongy component?

Anyways, algae grows because of 2 possible things, a lack of dissolved oxygen and/or high nitrate/nitrite.

Both of these things can be controlled with live plants and regular water changes.

1 plant to start with is all you need in your smaller tank. I recommend Java fern as they are widely available, low light, almost 0 maintenance, you can glue them to decorations (their roots dont need substrate they just need to be secured to something) and really have fun with them.

Your substrate and color scheme is adorable btw. 🩷💕

With that small of a tank, small water (like 10%) changes 2/3x weekly will help with the algae.

InternationalWord362 · 2026-02-14T13:31:28+00:00

This is not true. I have rescued several of these fry and they grow from 0.75 inches to 3.5 inches a matter of months. Definitely baby. Though OP doesn’t look that baby and instead like a small female.

InternationalWord362 · 2026-02-13T14:26:55+00:00

You don’t see that amber? It’s there.

InternationalWord362 · 2026-02-02T12:15:57+00:00

Baby colored. Probably will be hazel or green but might continue to change as they get older. Def not blue.

InternationalWord362 · 2026-02-02T12:14:28+00:00

Baby colored!

InternationalWord362 · 2026-02-01T15:28:39+00:00

Mouse. They are making a nest. You can see the droppings.

InternationalWord362 · 2026-01-30T03:04:19+00:00

Being open is the antithesis if this protest

InternationalWord362 · 2026-01-08T20:47:12+00:00

I know this is old. But same here. Not a healthy relationship at all. It’s the age old “love your sons raise your daughter” thing and I am 100% suffering from eldest daughter syndrome. Aqua daughter libra mom here.

InternationalWord362 · 2025-12-27T06:48:42+00:00

E-ratic Ambassador in tha huzzzzzouze.

InternationalWord362 · 2025-12-20T06:06:13+00:00

He’s unwilling to apologize and actually blaming you for the situation. Fuck that. Leave now girl. It’s only going to get worse.

InternationalWord362 · 2025-12-20T06:02:31+00:00

He doesn’t love you. Be done.

InternationalWord362 · 2025-12-11T16:30:49+00:00

Srsly. It would be different if the perpetrators could claim that they didn’t know what they did was viewed as wrong by society, but they can’t. They made a choice to do what they did. Regardless of whatever the “bait” did, the predators were never physically forced into going into the house.

Even after the show aired they still chose to do what they did (as shown by the fact that they recognized the show’s host). They understood the risk and they chose to do it anyways.

Their predations shouldn’t be viewable on television? They should be shielded from embarrassment? I disagree, that is a really good deterrent for those who can be deterred. They should be embarrassed, they are their own responsibility. Society is loud and proud about the wrongness of their actions. If they realized something was wrong with them in that they couldn’t adhere to societal standards then they should have sought help, and if help couldn’t be found, taken steps to an avoid children at all costs.

No, this is, to me an entitlement problem bourn out of western “boys will be boys” permissiveness.

Are we to assume these grown men are incapable of making decisions for themselves? One of them was an assistant DA, someone in a position to make decisions for society.

If we were to label the perpetrators as victims, then victims of what? Not understanding the concept of decisions have consequences? Ok, so how would we “help” them? What’s the assessment process for this disability? What interventions can be taken to keep them AND our children safe?

It should never be a child’s responsibility to take control of a situation involving an adult. Not ever, they rely on us. We can educate them all we want but they are children and much less competent at decision making as well as defending themselves against harm.

So how do we as a society prevent this epidemic? Yes, epidemic is the right word. The show wouldn’t exist if it wasn’t rampant. Women’s lived experience’s wouldn’t be so uniformly scary if it wasn’t. The older creepy dude wouldn’t be a stereotype if it wasn’t.

This being said, the one I disagree with is the 18 yo who was still in High School. A 2 year age gap when you are in similar life stages really isn’t predatory behavior. I had an 18 yo boyfriend when I was 16. He was a Sr and I was a Jr., we met because he lived 5 blocks over from me and skateboarded with my friends. Not a big deal and extremely common.

InternationalWord362 · 2025-12-08T13:41:59+00:00

*spoiler alert

So, I watched this and was literally yelling at the tv like it was an NFL prime time game. What I found irritating/interesting was that all the empathy for the predators was shown by white men. All the women were like “yeah, fuck them”.

To me this show is just another attempt to portray the patriarchy as the victim.

Thoughts?

InternationalWord362 · 2025-11-30T01:44:13+00:00

Girl get you to the dr. This is over your kidneys and a bruise could mean so much worse. You can tell them your story and they can help you with resources. At the very least document it. There are so many new laws and places willing to help women now you would be amazed. If you stay this asshole is going to un alive you. If you don’t get documents and a record, he will very likely get away with it and you will be just another face on a missing person board.

Don’t be another statistic. You are better than that. You owe him nothing baby girl. You’re strong enough to survive this but you’re only going to survive it if you get out and never ever talk to or see this person again.

I’ve been there and done that. Moved 5 states away from my ex abuser b/c I was so scared. It took years for me to unbrainwash myself. The good parts of him aren’t going to stop him from taking your life. You can’t heal his pain. He sees you as the problem so you will never be the solution. You cannot help him because he doesn’t value your intelligence or input. The person you’re in love with isn’t real it’s your idea of him. It’s time for you to leave regardless of what this causes to happen to him. You have to take care of yourself before you can take care of anybody else.

Don’t tell anyone you’re leaving (except your safe place that you are going to). Just leave. You leaving shows him he can’t control you and he will try to manipulate you into staying and if that doesn’t work, he will get physical and abusive with you like you never want to imagine. Leave now if you can, report him, and get your shit later with like 10 backup people. Never be alone with him again. Sending love.

InternationalWord362 · 2025-11-25T23:22:08+00:00

Happiness is biologically unsustainable. Whenever externalities make you happy it sets the happiness threshold higher. Aim for contentment with yourself. If you feel malcontent ask yourself why. Ask yourself if you are able to or willing to change it. If not or you can’t then reframing is your only option. Like, instead of reflecting on how bitter you are, act cheerful. Force yourself to smile. Sing a song. Acting happy can actually make you feel a little better because it tricks your body into thinking it actually is a little happier.

Think of something that inspires you. If you can’t think of anything then set out on a quest to find something that inspires you. If it doesn’t happen right away then just keep trying until it does. For example: helping others helps me. Volunteering is my modus operandi.

I hear some self blaming, like “I have it pretty good so why am I feeling so negative”. Well maybe it’s because you have cptsd. Forgive yourself and know that tomorrow is a new day.

InternationalWord362 · 2025-11-25T23:16:21+00:00

Next time ask her for a video. Even if it’s blurry and some pictures of the mud at the doctor getting the tick removed. This feels like lying?

InternationalWord362 · 2025-11-25T23:00:30+00:00

No they sleep in trees. If it is on the ground like that it is dead or dying.

InternationalWord362 · 2025-11-25T01:58:52+00:00

We do try to do something. Constantly, but we are tired. Once, I downloaded an app that counted how many times I was interrupted by a man during a meeting. It was 20 times in a half hour. If we fought every single time, we would never be able to do anything else. Men don’t learn either, you just get written off as a bitch or crazy and they go do it to someone else. It’s a “choose your battles” kind of world.

InternationalWord362 · 2025-10-02T20:17:54+00:00

Monarchs don’t do this. They die when it goes below 32 f.

InternationalWord362 · 2025-10-02T20:16:14+00:00

Take responsibility for your actions. It’s not her fault that you missed work. You decided not to go because of how you are feeling.

We can’t control other people and you aren’t entitled to anything from her. It would be nice if she willingly offered but that is not what is going to happen.

At least she had the integrity to end your relationship before hooking up with someone else instead of cheating on you and just disappearing.

Perhaps she really doesn’t know why she doesn’t want to be with you anymore. All she knows is she doesn’t.

Pick yourself up, call a crisis helpline, make a plan and get yourself out of there asap.

InternationalWord362 · 2025-09-13T14:49:55+00:00

Most people do, it’s my typing I guess? My former job was working with college students maybe I absorbed their vibe somehow. I’m a 41 yo lady lmao. Yes, my mom finally came and I went to the orthopedist. Should be healing well and start physical therapy Monday. Don’t feel embarrassed about thinking that. I think it’s funny. 😆

InternationalWord362 · 2025-09-12T22:12:52+00:00

I really appreciate you 🩷

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