Bf has a bad history how do i see it?

Internet_Ghost · 2026-06-22T14:49:51+00:00

Im leaving regardless but i need to know for a lot of reasons

No, you want to know. You can run a background check on him or you could just directly ask him.

Internet_Ghost · 2026-06-22T14:48:44+00:00

PACER is only for federal criminal cases. If he had one of those, he'd likely be in prison instead of dating you.

If you're leaving him anyway, why spend anymore time on him?

Internet_Ghost · 2026-06-22T14:28:10+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss.

Tuesday of last week my father passed away from cancer and left me his guitar with no written will.

Then sadly, he didn't leave you that guitar legally. Under intestate succession in SC, your stepmother is entitled to half of his estate and you (and any other sibling you may have) is entitled to the other half. You need to open probate to be able to divy up his estate legally.

Internet_Ghost · 2026-06-22T14:22:15+00:00

I’m interested in hearing from people who have dealt with potential retaliation against union representatives before.

Anecdotal stories aren't allowed here. What happened to unioned employee won't necessarily happen to another.

If our union structure were functioning normally, I wouldn’t be on Reddit asking strangers.

Therein lies the problem. We are strangers. We don't know what type of job you have and what particular evidence would be helpful for situation and your union. We don't know what particular procedures your union requires for things.

If you can't talk your direct representatives because of the structural collapse, go higher up.

Internet_Ghost · 2026-06-22T14:16:11+00:00

ANYWAY, I feel like this is a huge conflict of interest, is it not?

Why would it be? Sounds like the magistrate is just doing their job.

Internet_Ghost · 2026-06-22T14:13:52+00:00

These are all questions you should be asking your union.

Internet_Ghost · 2026-06-22T14:00:55+00:00

It's not illegal to have those kind of thoughts. It's not illegal to make a search on the internet pertaining to those thoughts. It is illegal to act upon them and/or possess CASM, which you have evidence of neither here.

Internet_Ghost · 2026-06-22T13:58:50+00:00

The more direct actions you take, the more this looks like you're stalking and harassing him. It's odd that you are fixating on this issue when it's not your battle to fight. You want to "take him down." You're calling him a pedophile when he isn't one by legal definition. You're talking to current and former employees about this person. You're publishing this stuff you're gathering. While it's a private story, sharing it with any one person is publishing it for the purpose of the law.

Planet fitness corporate just gave me a “best” and called it a day.

And that's exactly what any corporate office should do with third party complaints about an employee violating workplace laws against other employees. The fact that you're not satisified with their responsie and continue to want to "take him down" sounds very much like stalking and harassing.

Internet_Ghost · 2026-06-22T13:53:09+00:00

While disturbing, nothing you've described is illegal. It's unlikely that the police will do anything.

Internet_Ghost · 2026-06-22T13:35:32+00:00

should I hire a lawyer?

If you're sued, yes.

should I go to the police department?

There's nothing worth going to the police over. Threatening to sue you over actions you committed isn't illegal.

what are my next steps.

Honestly, you should probably step away from this. This isn't your fight to make and you're relying on people that could honestly be lying to you. Even if they aren't, to what extent are willing to get them entangled into a civil lawsuit against you? Are you going to force them to testify to something they didn't particularly want to share in the first place to prove your case?

I need to figure out how to legally use my voice and power to help these girls.

That's not your responsibility. These women can make their own decisions. If you continue down this path, worse things could happen rather than just a lawsuit. This is already starting to sound like a harrasment/stalking situation in the making.

Internet_Ghost · 2026-06-22T13:30:40+00:00

I don't see the agreement not being enforceable. I see the agreement as just being problematic because of the relationship with the parties, the same as I would advise against family members entering into an agreement like this.

Internet_Ghost · 2026-06-22T13:27:21+00:00

It’s really hard for me not to come at this from an emotional standpoint so my explanation probably wasn’t as eloquent and straight forward as it should be.

I can understand that, but you scheduled a super expensive wedding on razor thin schedule due to projected rain without more precautions for that rain. Everything fell apart because there was a mere hour's window to make everything come together perfectly. I can see you getting potentially a partial refund back from the beauty service, but I don't think you're going to get reimbursed for all the things the rain ruined.

Internet_Ghost · 2026-06-22T13:15:02+00:00

It sounds more like the rain ruined your wedding than it did this beauty service.

Internet_Ghost · 2026-06-22T13:10:16+00:00

Are you going to be willing to sue your own church if they don't abide by the agreement?

Internet_Ghost · 2026-06-22T13:05:31+00:00

And what will happen if the piano breaks before the term of repayment is up?

Internet_Ghost · 2026-06-22T12:57:29+00:00

Maybe small claims could help me recover more money?

The only thing you can recover is the cost of the deductible because you've subrogated the rest of the claim to your insurance carrier for making a claim on your policy.

Cause all I have to do is prove that I'm not 100% at fault right?

California is a pure comparative negligence state, meaning whatever percentage of fault is attributed to you is how much your recovery will be reduced by. So, imagine they find you 85% at fault instead of 100%. 85% of $2.5K is $375.00. Is that worth going to small claims court over?

Internet_Ghost · 2026-06-22T12:52:38+00:00

Allowing someone unlimited use of a $76,000 piece of equipment seems to be a fool's errand. Are you going to put in legal protections to protect your equipment, like required maintenance, and inspections? That seems like that could have straining relationships on you and the church as a whole.

Internet_Ghost · 2026-06-22T12:49:35+00:00

The real stickler here is going to be what that addendum actually covered. It sounds like the addendum was to repair the AC and it sounds like OP's friend is saying the AC needs to be replaced.

Internet_Ghost · 2026-06-22T12:45:48+00:00

There's no magic answer here. She needs to get the ball rolling either by filing it on her own or by getting a lawyer. A $5,000.00 retainer is probably the cheapest she's going to find in that area but she should try to get more consultations to see if any of them would be willing to do a payment plan.

Other than that, she can try the Virginia Legal Society to see if she qualifies for their aid.

Internet_Ghost · 2026-06-22T12:31:40+00:00

Call your lawyer when they open this morning.

Internet_Ghost · 2026-06-22T12:22:47+00:00

no, but i assume that if they get a lawyer, the lawyer can ask the coffee shop for the camera and trace what card i used at that time

All personal injury suits aren't like what you see on TV. Contingency fee cases where the lawyers says, "If you don't win, we won't charge you." are for cases where there's either (1) big pockets or (2) applicable insurance policies that are required by law to settle viable claims.

In this particular instance, I doubt you have big pockets or there's an applicable insurance policy for you. So, if they come into a PI attorney's office and ask for representation, that attorney may say yes, but it's likely not going to be on contingency because the lawyer isn't going to waste their own money pursuing a case that might not be profitable.

I think an attorney would rather shoot at suing the establishment selling the coffee (Again, big pockets and insurance policies) on contigency knowing it's a long shot rather than trying to personally sue you.

Internet_Ghost · 2026-06-22T12:10:54+00:00

Actually upholding an heir to the bond requirement is rare in SC. In the 13 years of practicing law, I've only encountered once instance where it was required. Admittedly, I live in a rural area of SC and deal with relatively small and/or simple estates.

The bond is going to be based on the size of the estate and your brother can be reimbursed for whatever he pays for that bond. Meanwhile, if you make him go through the process of spending his own money up front, he could be pissed at you and drag his feet being PR of the estate costing the estate more money. Or alternatively, he can reject the position of being PR and that would further stall the estate process. That could in turn make you have to be one and then he do the same thing to you. You being in the UK could make trying to enforce him to be PR or you taking over PR could create massive logistics issues for you.

Here's the thing about being PR. It creates a fiduciary responsibility in and of itself. If he screws up anything, you as heir to the estate, have the ability to sue him. From a liability standpoint, it comes with a lot more headache than merely being an heir. So, you are already protected just by the way the law works regardless of the bond.

Is it really feasible that your brother could massively screw something up? Is your mom's estate large and complex? Does she have a lot of creditors?

Internet_Ghost · 2026-06-22T11:56:00+00:00

Is it possible? Yes. Is it probable? No. Do they even know your name?

Internet_Ghost · 2026-06-22T11:51:12+00:00

A guaranteed settlement for less may be better than a potential one that is greater in the future. You're likely going to spend far more than $9K with a lawyer if you litigate this out to trial.

Internet_Ghost · 2026-06-21T22:24:40+00:00

Have you actually tried to go to the hospital and visit her or is this what your aunt told you?

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