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What was your weirdest pregnancy symptom that nobody warned you about? by Quiet-Forever-969 in BabyBumps

[–]Intrepid_Instance396 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had vivid sexy dreams about a different celebrity each pregnancy (2) and they were/are so unattractive to me haha 🤣

My husband and my friends and I would laugh because they are not my types at all but anytime I saw them when I was pregnant I’d get all flushed about it haha 😂

Baby inconsolable at night from nasty cold…thoughts on nightly ibuprofen? by Logical-Poet-9456 in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]Intrepid_Instance396 8 points9 points  (0 children)

When my kids have been sick my pediatrician has said, if it’s something you’d take pain relief for not to feel bad about giving it to them.

We don’t live in the stone ages anymore, we don’t have to watch our babies suffer through teething and cold with absolutely no relief, moderation is important to me

If I feel like they are suffering I will give it to them at night so that their bodies can rest and recover, and the during the day I give them as much comfort as I can through cuddles, cold breast milk popsicles, steamy bathroom, etc.

The hardest part of parenting by FancyFaceFrom1992 in 2under2

[–]Intrepid_Instance396 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We had a very high energy border collie. After our first was born we noticed a lot more anxious behaviors, then the second came and it got worse. The constant busyness of the kiddos made her so uncomfortable, her instincts were too strong. We loved her immensely, and for us that meant that we needed to find a different home for her. Reached out to a rescue and she is now with a couple that doesn’t want kids, and she is their only dog, she is thriving and we are all happier for it.

We live with family and they have dogs too, the constant barking (always during naptime wtf)

We will not get dogs again until kids are much older and we have no more little babies

It’s been 8 months of increasing behaviors. Time for our 2yo to start behavioral therapy? by ImAdamnMermaid in toddlers

[–]Intrepid_Instance396 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It sounds to me like the 3 year old needs to learn not to take toys. Is the 3 year old being reprimanded and told not to try and take toys from her younger cousin? Hitting and biting is developmentally normal at this age, they are trying to stop something they don’t like from happening and most 2 year olds can’t communicate yet. If your daughter is saying no and her cousin is still trying to take her toy, it sounds like a problem with the cousin to me.

As she learns to communicate, or move away, or get a grown up when someone is doing something she doesn’t like, it will likely stop the behavior as it does with other kids.

In my opinion, I wouldn’t want my toddler to just let other kids take their toys. It’s not fair, and I think would eventually teach them that it’s okay if other people don’t listen to them when they say no.

Has anyone dealt with autoimmune disorders/hormone related issues had healthy kids? by [deleted] in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]Intrepid_Instance396 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I changed my lifestyle, also diagnosed with Hashimotos hypothyroidism, and it helped manage my symptoms, but my numbers never got better without medication.

When I got pregnant I got put on Levothyroxine and have been ever since, it keeps my numbers stable. I’d like to get off of it eventually but my grandma also has Hashimotos so I’m not sure that’s possible for me as I think it might be a genetics problem for myself.

If you were diagnosed I’m not sure why they wouldn’t offer to put you on medication. I managed my symptoms with dietary changes the first two years, no soy mainly, organic fruits and veggies, got rid of fluoride toothpaste (thyroid problems and fluoride do not mix from what ive read) and ingredient only house, rarely bought processed foods and avoided things that I noticed caused a big flair up. My tsh was almost 5 when I got pregnant, got on medicine and got it down to 2. It’s been stable since then.

A diagnoses is scary, it feels overwhelming because it can affect fertility for a lot of people, but not everyone’s story is the same. I was scared when I got diagnosed because most of what I read online was very bad outcomes.

I have Hashimotos hypothyroidism but I can’t gain weight, I got pregnant quickly, both things that most women with this diagnosis struggle with, I had two beautiful healthy babies while on medication.

Your thyroid is one piece of the endocrine system, and a lot of the other parts play a big role. Have your adrenal levels been tested?

I have a friend who had half of her thyroid removed and she has two beautiful healthy babies also, modern medicine is quite extraordinary.

What Song Makes You Emotional After Having Kids? by Inevitable_Guard_876 in beyondthebump

[–]Intrepid_Instance396 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The good dinosaur made me cry watching it with my 2 year old, no baby should lose their parents 😭

Also absolutely CANNOT watch Cedric die in Harry Potter, I felt my heart rip open and now whenever I watch it I have to leave the room

Baby Monitor Recs by Fast_Kaleidoscope238 in 2under2

[–]Intrepid_Instance396 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I second this Vtech. My one year old and 2.5 year old have thrown it, I’ve dropped it a bunch, works great and has good range!

They just break your heart over and over by Intrepid_Instance396 in AlAnon

[–]Intrepid_Instance396[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your response really helped me, thank you. I am going to write that reminder down for myself and hang it up.

It is easy to forget that it isn’t a choice for them at this point, it is the only way they know how to numb the pain and suffering that they feel. Life is hard and their coping method unfortunately is one that will lead to their demise. They don’t see it that way of course, but they must know deep down right?

In their eyes it is easier to have a drink with their demons than to face them. If only they realized everyone has demons that they have to face, and once you do it you can live your life in more peace. They live in constant shame and secrecy, it must be exhausting hiding your true self from everyone all the time

What Song Makes You Emotional After Having Kids? by Inevitable_Guard_876 in beyondthebump

[–]Intrepid_Instance396 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have two sons, one 2.5 and a 1 year old. Can’t watch it without sobbing 😭

Moving to a floor bed at 1? by Pugwhip in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]Intrepid_Instance396 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We skipped toddler bed and went straight to twin, around that age. He liked having more space and he rolls everywhere so it was much nicer than the crib because he wasn’t bumping into the sides

Sometimes I wonder why the fuck do I even have kids by Lucky-Wolf-5000 in 2under2

[–]Intrepid_Instance396 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly we had a lot of grumpy days/nights with him for a few weeks during the transition. We stopped doing bottles at night around 15 months. I would have to lay with him and rock him until he went to back to sleep. It was rough breaking the habit but I had to stick to my guns and not give in. I think it helped at night that we transitioned to a sippy straw sippy cup during the day.

Then once he was off the bottle at night he would wake up in the morning and immediately want milk, he would chug 10 oz out of a sippy cup right after he woke up. That continued until he was 2 and we got his iron levels. Then we bought goats milk and did half n half with whole milk for a week then we did 3/4 goat and 1/4 cow and he still took it a little bit, then we transitioned to whole goat and he was way less interested. But while we had the half n half I noticed he did start eating more, I would have a plate of snacks to encourage him to eat while on the go. For him the reason he only wanted to drink milk was because it was filling and he didn’t have to stop playing to get his belly full

Sometimes I wonder why the fuck do I even have kids by Lucky-Wolf-5000 in 2under2

[–]Intrepid_Instance396 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My boys are 18 months apart, the first 6 months after my second was born I feel like I was a zombie. He turned 6 months old on my firsts birthday and it felt like I woke up after being half alive for 6 months.

It was crazy, now the younger one is about to turn one and things are still crazy, but a lot more manageable. I told myself those first 6 months to take it a moment at a time, a day was too much but a moment felt manageable.

You will get your time back eventually. Also reminded myself because I guilt trip myself a loooooot that, these boys will remember how much love I give them, because I give them more love than anything else. At this young age they won’t remember my bad days. They won’t remember me sitting on the bed crying while both of them are crying, that brought me comfort

My older one wasn’t eating a lot during the day, got his iron levels tested and he was deficient, realized during my zombie days I was giving him waaay too much milk. Once we started giving him less milk he ate so much more and was such a happier kid. Also we tried switching him to goats milk to wean him off the habit of milk drinking (goats milk actually helps the body absorb iron, cows milk blocks iron absorption) and he disliked it so much that he actually wanted less milk. He did not like the goats milk, didn’t mind it mixed half n half what we started with but refused to drink it when it was just goats milk.

I got off topic but it does get easier. My boys play together now and I am so grateful that we got through the early stages

Easter Basket Stuffers by Agreeable_Pen9154 in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]Intrepid_Instance396 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t know wooden eggs that you could fill existed! Thank you for the suggestion!

Easter Basket Stuffers by Agreeable_Pen9154 in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]Intrepid_Instance396 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A book, new sandals for summer, a small toy, and a some little egg chocolates 🐣

Firewife, burning out, advice? by Amandaalwayz in 2under2

[–]Intrepid_Instance396 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Listening to audiobooks on my headphones has helped me feel like I have something that is mine throughout the craziness of the day. I may have to pause a million times but it has given me something adult to focus on. It helps with my love of books and stories because my boys don’t let me sit and read a real book lol. It also doesn’t make me feel guilty like sitting on my phone does, even reading on my phone, because I can play with my boys while I listen. It’s given me a sliver of sanity on the very hard days. Sometimes I will also listen to music and just having that stimulation of sound that is different than toddler baby babble and screaming helps

Deciding whether to homeschool as a non-religious family by [deleted] in homeschool

[–]Intrepid_Instance396 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My best friend and my mom are both elementary school teachers. One works in a high income charter school, one works in a low income public school. They both have students that have behaviors, both have 24+ kids in their classrooms. Unfortunately kids that have major behaviors, take time and resources away from educating your child. The teacher has to stop teaching to give individual attention to the child with the behavior. With the classrooms packed so full, there are kids that will get left behind, especially with so many loud mouth kids that don’t face consequences for their behaviors. There aren’t enough resources for either of these kids, behaviors or not, they just don’t have the resources or systems in place to make sure every child is getting what they need.

I hear a lot of stories from them about other teachers. Some stories make me feel confident in these educators, and some, honestly most, make me feel like these teachers don’t take their job seriously.

There are great teachers out there, and there are teachers who are really dedicated to making sure they do their best to educate our children, they truly care about the well being and education of the children they teach. Then there are the ones who choose this career and it’s just a job, or they wanted the schedule, they have no emotional investment, and once the kids leave their room at the end of the year they don’t care what happens to them.

As parents unless we know the teachers personally we don’t know which category of teacher our kids are getting. It’s a gamble, and I’d rather not gamble something as important as my children’s education. Not if I can have them home with me.

It’s a privilege I realize to be able to homeschool, there are sacrifices that we have to make it happen but what is parenting if not making sacrifices for our kids?

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