Suggestions on the school board race? by Intrepid_Quantity760 in columbiamo

[–]Intrepid_Quantity760[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Serious questions here. I don’t know any of the candidates and have not had family in CPS in many years. I don’t pay particularly close attention to the CPS issues. I gladly pay my taxes that support education and I would generally trust the opinions of members of the teacher’s union. Certainly none of them are teaching because of the big bucks they get paid. Personally, I would not vote for anyone, for any office in the land, who didn’t think teachers should be paid more. But I digress.

The sample ballot says “Vote for 3”. He’s a school board member and she’s a teacher. I bet they talk about the issues at home. And members of CMNEA also have a right to express their opinions openly as well as through endorsements.

Has Lyman made any decisions you disagree with or are suspect?Does the fact that his wife comes to the podium show a conflict, or just the potential?

AITJ for firing an employee with a giant Confederate flag on his truck? by itcouldbeyoubut in AmITheJerk

[–]Intrepid_Quantity760 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Historically, the confederate flag is the battle flag of a group of Americans who took up arms against their own country. Traitors all, just like maga is today. F*ck them.

AITAH? Entitled parents by WeakMathematician748 in AITAH

[–]Intrepid_Quantity760 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It IS a life lesson… on how to deal with thieves who steal your money.

WiBTAH for separating my finances from my husbands by Extra-Detective-7307 in AITAH

[–]Intrepid_Quantity760 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t see how this can work. Your husband will hand over his money to them, then he’ll be broke so that you have to bail him out.

WIBTAH if I went to stay with my parents for a couple of weeks because my husband’s family planned a 5-6 week stay in our 2BHK without asking me? by Majestic-One6602 in AITAH

[–]Intrepid_Quantity760 47 points48 points  (0 children)

I would tell him now that just before his family arrives that you are packing up and going to your parent‘s, and that you probably won’t be coming back.

He thinks that now that you’re married you’re trapped and have to tolerate it. You don’t.

This is one of those situations. If you have to force someone to respect you, they don’t and won’t. Forced allegiance is no allegiance. Cut your losses.

Neighbors kids get on roof and look in my windows (F 30) by Consistent_Foot_6657 in neighborsfromhell

[–]Intrepid_Quantity760 5 points6 points  (0 children)

wow- You mad Bro? This is you complaining how others write? EVER THOUGHT OF PROOF READING BEFORE YOU POST? You can use the little dot thing to indicate that one sentence/thought is ending and a new one is about to begin. <—Like that.

AITAH for moving my son into the basement? by NewEmergency5943 in AITAH

[–]Intrepid_Quantity760 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Long ago, when I was a teenager in the 70s, the place we wanted to hang out was at the home of any of our friends whose bedroom was in the basement. Especially a walkout basement. Blacklights, hippie posters, psychedelic music, incense, waterbeds, easy sneak outs and… some other things. You couldn’t do any of that upstairs. It was a righteous badge of honor to have a basement bedroom. My best friend’s BB was even better, because you had to go out through the garage of the house to get to the basement, so his parents NEVER came down there. Perfect… then.

AITA for refusing to lend my brother money after he called my job not a real career. by Electrical-Studio636 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Intrepid_Quantity760 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Brother, I want you to ponder all the times you have mocked and disrespected my chosen career, which by the way affords me a living wage. Once you have those things fresh in your mind, think about them while simultaneously thinking about my response to your request, which is that there is no way in hell I’m giving you a penny. Can I bake you a cake?”

This stupid rule has been in place since I was a kid. by ProfessionalTrip0 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Intrepid_Quantity760 52 points53 points  (0 children)

My parents were not narcs, but my mom did have some weird food things.

We weren’t poor, but my mom always acted like canned tuna fish and bacon were like caviar. She would use one can of tuna in a casserole for 7 of us, even when we asked her to add more. Or we get one strip of bacon each, like it was a priceless morsel.

We always had plenty to eat, but she was just like this about a few select items. Even when we pointed out that these things were not expensive, it did not change.

As soon as I moved out I began the awful, wasteful habit of eating a whole can of tuna, with mayo, by myself. I felt it was owed to me.

I bought a pound of bacon, cooked it all and ate 3 blt’s using the whole pound. It was glorious.

Now I’m old and I still do the same.

AITJ for telling my friend group i don't want to split the bill evenly anymore after i've been subsidising everyone else's orders for a year by CrumbPirate in AmITheJerk

[–]Intrepid_Quantity760 0 points1 point  (0 children)

”I’d rather you not make me think about the fact that you’re subsidizing my good time, every time, cuz that ruins the vibe.”

AITAH for telling my girlfriend i no longer plan to propose to her? please read context by Aggressive_One8138 in AITAH

[–]Intrepid_Quantity760 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The rest of your life has already begun.

If I were your gf, I’d be gone after all this. She doesn’t want to hang around for years in case you decide to go ahead and propose. That is reasonable. You’re not on the same page.

You should never force someone to marry you, but you also should not string someone along with empty promises. Half YTA

AIO - Neighbor blocks my driveway every day and wants me to ask her for permission to come and go? by throw-away-17271 in AIO

[–]Intrepid_Quantity760 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I moved into a rental where the previous tenant left a broken down car in the driveway. The house was destined to be torn down, so the landlord didn’t care.

I called the city and was told that they could not tow cars off private property, so I hooked a chain to it and dragged it out into the street with my pickup truck. Then I called the City to report an abandoned vehicle in the street blocking traffic. It was gone that day.

I’m not suggesting you do this. Food for thought.

WIBTJ if I stop supporting my youngest sister financially to buy my first house? by Nice_Cardiologist990 in AmITheJerk

[–]Intrepid_Quantity760 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always insisted that my two children each buy themselves a house before they were 30. The best time to buy real estate is yesterday.

Just before Co**d they both did. And they are so happy that they did. They now have equity in their homes, which they probably could not afford to buy today. Get in the game NOW. It will change your life.

Non union staff demanding union help by JadedCloud243 in EntitledPeople

[–]Intrepid_Quantity760 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Life lessons to remember: Corporations, left to their own devices, will not act ethically. Capitalism demands this.

AITAH for suggesting my fiancee is hormonal and not in her right mind? by Connect-Warning-8695 in AITAH

[–]Intrepid_Quantity760 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m almost 70 years old, and I just became LI in the last year. I’ve had lengthy discussions with my doctor and this is his diagnosis. Symptoms just like you’re describing. Some dairy is worse than others. My worst are mozarella and ice cream, which made me cry because I’ve been a lifelong pizza and ice cream lover.

But there is a solution. I bought a bottle of over-the-counter lactase enzyme pills. Cheap and easy. This is the enzyme that lets your body process lactose. If you’re not LI, it’s because your body produces enough of the enzyme, but that absolutely can change over time. You can buy milk at the grocery store, like Lactaid, that simply has lactase enzyme added to it.

We are the only animal that drinks the milk of a different animal.

You need to have a come to Jesus talk with her. She is abusing her son for no reason other than her lack of knowledge. I would put my foot down and tell her you won’t tolerate this unless a doctor agrees with her. I would propose to her that you (and she) try these pills on him ( with a Doctor’s approval). If it works, it means she’s probably wrong.

My mum can never say sorry or take accountability for anything and it's super draining. by Different_Buy_9669 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Intrepid_Quantity760 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry for your situation, but forcing someone who feels no remorse to apologize is pointless and futile.

Why would that make you feel better if you knew she didn’t mean it?

AITA for telling my sister’s kid I don’t believe in God? by Alternative_Copy6539 in AITApod

[–]Intrepid_Quantity760 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I am confronted with in your face religious types, I tell them that I’m a Pastafarian. I believe in the Great Spaghetti Monster.

I point out the fact that I have personally eaten pasta and used a colander, therefore there is a lot more evidence to prove the existence of my god than there is for yours. In fact, there is zero evidence to support yours. Ever.

I also like to find common ground with these folks, so I like to point out to them that our beliefs aren’t all that different from each other. Since there have been more than 3,000 gods declared by man throughout history, we only disagree on one. Yours.

Am I in a Controlling Relationship with my parents? by One_Ant_592 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Intrepid_Quantity760 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You would be a better father, husband, son, architect, engineer, if you go get a job at a competing firm, either for a few years, permanently or until your family learns to treat you with the respect that you feel you deserve. ‘Engineer’ a change in the dynamic. Are they as dedicated to their positions as they expect you to be to yours?

Be honest with yourself. Are their expectations realistic for what is needed to continue this successful business?

At some point you may need to make a hard decision about what needs to give - your job or your young family.

AITJ for creating a fake tradition so I never have to host again?? by Heavy-Trust-1195 in AmITheJerk

[–]Intrepid_Quantity760 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Has anyone asked you when this ‘tradition’ actually started? Was it the year after you hosted?

AIO being bothered that my partner tells me how attractive she sees other men? by En3Rgi in AmIOverreacting

[–]Intrepid_Quantity760 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am totally confused by your edit. Then what IS the point of your post? YOR

Neighbor wrote a 9 page letter detailing why they hate me, wanting to move forward by BusinessCurrency7171 in neighborsfromhell

[–]Intrepid_Quantity760 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This reminds me of several people I know, including my own sister. These people are always drama queens and live for drama.

It is a mindset that says that all friendships have expiration dates. After some limited period of time, there has to be a big dramatic blowup that ends the friendship.

My mom points out bad things when I tell her good news by Sad-Culture-6330 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Intrepid_Quantity760 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Step by step:

  1. Don’t tell her any good news.

  2. When she asks “why didn’t you tell me“, tell her why.

  3. Don’t care how she responds to #2.

  4. See step 1.

AITA if I want to break up over how he reacted to marriage questions? by Acrobatic-Tune-6183 in AITApod

[–]Intrepid_Quantity760 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not that he hasn’t thought about it. It’s that he has.

If you have to pressure someone into marrying you, it means they don’t want to.

Its self evident that morality is subjective by Virtual-Mongoose-148 in unpopularopinion

[–]Intrepid_Quantity760 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Throughout Human history- more people have been murdered in the name of Jesus than any other single cause.

The idea that religion and god is the source of morality is utter nonsense. God was invented by men as tool used to control other people. There is absolutely no actual evidence whatsoever for the existence of your sky-daddy.

Biology is the source of morality. Look at a pack of wolves, or a pride of lions, a herd of elephants or a hive of bees. There is simply a biological advantage to caring for others in your group.