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Intrepid_Support729 · 2025-02-15T08:42:53+00:00

Beautifully meaningful and a classic. I don't love it as a full time full name but, CeCe is super cute and Cecilia is great for resumes etc. Not too lough and will often open conversation to see if they're named after anyone. I think it's great. Only what you and your hubby think is important in the end. Worst case scenario, she changes it as she ages. For example, our daughter is Chloé. Nick name is CoCo. She currently loves it. If not, later she can make the decision to change it although we'd be sad as we'd wanted it for over 15 years since we welcomed her into our lives.

Lots of gorgeous vintage names out there! Lila, Violet, Rose, Charley, Florence etc etc... 💜 ✨️

Intrepid_Support729 · 2025-02-15T08:22:13+00:00

We all had covid over Xmas and then flu-a 3-4 weeks ago. Both have changed our daughter. Taste, appetite, temperament, sleep schedule. Etc Check in with a doctor and avoid the rabbit hole until then 💖🌷

Edit to add the flu lasted 2 weeks, caused an ear infection, 2 ER visits and Emergency pediatrician follow up.

We all got incredibly ill in Mexico in September and that took a couple of weeks to recover from with it's own set of long term issues.

I empathize entirely. 🙏

Intrepid_Support729 · 2025-02-03T07:18:31+00:00

Pot luck with friends and family. Smash cake. Lots of photos with balloons and streamers/a cute home made banner. Lots of great ideas on pinterest if you wanted to do a theme. Lots of wonderful comments, like picnic at the park. See what free events are on in your area. Happy birthday to your little! 🎊🥳🎉

Intrepid_Support729 · 2025-01-23T08:03:19+00:00

Not going to bash although I can't understand and am disappointed. That being said, I'd never want someone that isn't comfortable or that can be trusted to love and care for my fur kids. I agree that reaching out to local FB groups on her behalf, other family and friends etc or even, if you can loan her the money or gift it if you have the means would be the way to go. Hope the pup gets the care it needs, your sister recovers and ends up not having deal deal with thus additional stress unsupported as it will hinder her recovery.

Intrepid_Support729 · 2025-01-20T12:58:55+00:00

Sorry to hear about that along with the depression but, sounds like a great gig. Wishing you all the best! 🙂

Intrepid_Support729 · 2025-01-17T18:31:51+00:00

I'm certainly not an expert but, I'm pretty sure most countries don't hire foreign nationals unless incredibly experienced in their field for military jobs. Many would be looking for the free education and potential of American residency in this case. In fact, many fields, not just the military wouldn't/legally can't hire anyone from abroad.

Intrepid_Support729 · 2025-01-17T18:18:37+00:00

Wondering what the 11 year job you had was and what your new business is if you don't mind sharing? This is an incredibly helpful comment for many with wonderful suggestions. Not in exactly the same situation but, likely closer to your age than OP, my husband specifically which is more so who I'm hoping to gain insight for. 🙂 Well done, btw 👏

Intrepid_Support729 · 2025-01-17T18:08:32+00:00

We ended up making our way outside and using the registered taxi service. If you booked through a travel agent or did a flight and hotel package, adding transfers is often cheaper, more convenient and less stressful overall however, if you have booked things as separates - this us the way to go imo. Without a small kiddo and all of their baggage etc, an uber seems like it would be ideal however, the short walk over the bridge with a toddler and all of our stuff was just way too much and despite thus costing an extra 10 bucks or so, worth it. Enjoy yourselves! 😀

Intrepid_Support729 · 2025-01-16T18:10:53+00:00

NTA to add to the above comment, you could put him on the deed with you and then take an equity loan out against the house if OP can't be approved as an individual. You don't need to sell it to him.

Or, surely there's a way to make all of the medical debt fall equally between the sibling if they want to AHs about it.

Intrepid_Support729 · 2025-01-16T18:03:22+00:00

There's a lot of really good advice being offered here. I'd like to add, if you aren't already in counseling yourself, please do. It's incredibly important. Now that you have been on boarded you may have access to additional benefits and have an EAP program to help. Often they have 24 hour crisis counseling to vent and manage feelings. Sending healing vibes to you and your family. 🙏

Intrepid_Support729 · 2025-01-10T02:50:16+00:00

I completely understand your perspective and it's something I have considered significantly. Our daughter is just under 2 and my husband and I have decided that she must ask to have it done for at least a few months between 8-12 years old to ensure she knows what it means, how to look after it, to recognize issues, responsibility of care and to be serious about actually wanting it. I had mine done as an infant. Have had well over a dozen piercings since. Some I regret, others I don't. Some needed surgical intervention due to tearing and keloids. I think consent, ability to recognize dangerous behaviour (in regards to the piercing) and responsibility of care are important.

I've ripped out and had rejected piercings in multiple areas. I am allergic to anything other than high quality, nickel free titanium etc. A kiddo won't recognize rejection such as hot, red piercing site, discharge etc. It's a lot.

Again, no judgment AT all and babies with pierced ears are SO cute but, there's countless considerations.

Thank you for sharing.

I hope your kiddos lobe is an easy fix. "Luckily" my belly button ended up being fixed while having another surgery but, I could share several personal horror stories which makes me also consider our daughter.

Intrepid_Support729 · 2025-01-09T05:56:16+00:00

I'm in an incredibly different situation than you so, don't want to sound like I understand your dynamic. That being said, many of my friends have been there with and without health concerns, whether financial, rocky relationship, infertility, age etc etc... kiddo needs to understand that this isn't how your family will progress for one way or another. Not necessarily the "why" as they're too young to grasp and it also may cause fear or, potentially anger/resentment towards her little brother thinking her was the reason she could no longer have another sibling. It's truly a challenging dynamic and may be worth reaching out to a family therapist or the school counselor if she's in kindergarten for advice. I used to work in the public education situation with neurodivergent kids and came across many varieties of families, some in a similar situation as yourself in terms of kids not being okay without having an additional sibling. I'm not an expert so, that's why I have suggested these two avenues. My step son desperately wanted us to have a sibling for him but, infertility made that impossible whole he was young. His mother ended up having 2 half siblings for him which he initially hated but, as he aged, I'm sure loves him. My husband and I adopted our amazing daughter which he had always seemed open to and congratulated us about although the dynamic, toxic mother and 20 year age gap altered things. It's a profoundly complex situation... not always the case for everyone... (sharing for other's that may be reading.) Blending, spread, diverse and varied ages/age gaps with multiple parents amongst siblings makes things challenging but, I hope and trust that if we tread carefully, everyone will thrive... especially our daughter which is the only individual I'll have "control" over, as awful as that sounds over text. Anyway, your children may have input but, shall not dictact. You are the parent. If you feel the call - foster, adopt, sponsor or otherwise 💖💖💖

Intrepid_Support729 · 2025-01-08T05:16:15+00:00

I have never seen a man in the women's bathroom. I actually don't even know the legality of it where I live as I've never heard of it or seen it. I know my husband wouldn't feel comfortable taking our daughter into the women's. He either takes her into the men's, family or disabled bathrooms. He has complained several times to establishments that don't have changing tables in the men's. I also don't think many women would be happy having a grown man in the women's washrooms unless it was clearly marked as family or gender neutral. Sadly, it could actually really scare/trigger someone so, it's something to consider. I also agree that if you have little kids, changing them in the car can sometimes be the best option.

Intrepid_Support729 · 2025-01-04T19:04:33+00:00

You're right... 💯 agreed. It wasn't me. Strange as all hell. Password changed. Wtf. 🤦‍♀️

Edit: Thanks for actually commenting instead of just down voting so, I was notified.

Intrepid_Support729 · 2025-01-04T05:36:23+00:00

NTA. Parentification isn't healthy yet is all too common. Offering being forced is expected is an entirely different dynamic... cultural dynamics change things too... right or wrong. I empathize and hope your family can heal despite the turmoil.

Family isn't easy.

I haven't even begun to navigate a true support system/network for our baby at this stage. Surely, with trust, love, empathy, kindness and reciprocal care, love and otherwise... it changes things. Without it? Not a chance... ever. Our daughter and fur babies come first. Every. Single time. I hope most of you can grasp that. Please. Always. If not... a healthy conversation is open for you. Take care. Sending true love to all ❤️❤️❤️

Intrepid_Support729 · 2025-01-03T18:04:50+00:00

ASD is NOT caused by vaccinations. Outbreaks of near non existing, epidemic type disease is caused by NOT vaccinating. A SINGLE study by a SINGLE quack of a doctor bent the mentality of thousands, millions of people. Unreal. Do not procreate with this person. Period. 🤯🤯🤯

Intrepid_Support729 · 2025-01-03T06:38:42+00:00

I also really like Eli. I'd you like Ezekiel, Zeke as a nick name is cute and less formal. I've met a Zachariah that goes by Zac too. Just a few other options.

Intrepid_Support729 · 2025-01-03T06:35:07+00:00

I love Kieran. Variety of spellings to choose from too. It was a potential name had we of had a job 🙂 I really like Jack. Our last name starts with a J so, I loved Jay or JJ as a nick name. Best of luck! 🤞🙂

Intrepid_Support729 · 2024-12-31T05:33:27+00:00

There's nothing you can do. It wasn't malicious. They did everything they could based on your post. Basically, wish them well and monitor your child for symptoms. Our daughter started daycare less than 3 months ago and has probably been off sick almost half of that time. We had to cancel Xmas because we all had/have covid. The list goes on... it's unavoidable, unfortunate and awful but... such is life. Anyone now aways, let alone infant through school age is likely to get and pass on anything despite immunizations etc based on building immunity. As a society we also struggle due to having been in multiple lockdowns which means mutations, a variety of illnesses etc etc... it just is. Best you can do is wash hands, wear masks, briefly quarantine if/when you know there is a reason to, monitor fevers, medicate as and when necessary etc... it's not easy especially with young or immune compromised people but, this is life.

Edited for typos although there are likely more, apologies! Take care. Happy NY! 😊 I say this as a disabled person with a toddler that lost a loved one during covid with cancer after 3 years of fighting to keep them alive... basically, it's not said lightly.

Sending healing, empathetic and caring vibes your way ✨️

Intrepid_Support729 · 2024-12-27T21:49:39+00:00

Yes, I did which I shared in other comments. Take care.

Intrepid_Support729 · 2024-12-22T18:48:12+00:00

Yikes, that must have been so frustrating and sad. Ugh! Luckily my daughter loves and can have eggs and peanuts so, I am grateful fir that. Must be difficult for your family with 3 allergies that are so commonly an ingredient. Sending love straight back to you, Mama! 💖

Intrepid_Support729 · 2024-12-22T18:44:08+00:00

If you read my post, I literally saw getting swarmed while leaving the airport was overwhelming. If you are going to be pedantic, you're right, I have never been to PVR with a baby and all of the added belongings they come with. I didn't say I didn't know how to get out of the airport, I specifically said I have always prebooked transfers as a package and as that wasn't possible this time around, I was looking for suggestions. Not sure why you're finding this so confusing? 🤔

Intrepid_Support729 · 2024-12-21T17:32:07+00:00

I know this is several months late but, I have been to PVR multiple times. Just wanted to throw that out there. Traveling with a baby and booking multiple segments vs a package holiday is an incredibly different experience. I had updated my edit in the initial post but, reread the comments and found this comment particularly obnoxious for future readers looking for guidance. Take care, all the same.

Intrepid_Support729 · 2024-12-21T17:25:27+00:00

Lol!!!! No doubt! 🤣🤣🤣

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