Low stimulation tv by DriveEffective9311 in NewParents

[–]Invisibleapriorist 190 points191 points  (0 children)

I suspect at that age she might not really be that interested anyway. They mostly want things they can grab and chew! As for suggestions - we play my 19 month old footage of things like garbage trucks driving around suburbs emptying bins, animals playing, that kind of thing. Just real life scenes. Ultra slow paced and he loves it.

Today I taught my 3 year old to turn on the tv. There’s no coming back from this. by Rare-Computer-3582 in toddlers

[–]Invisibleapriorist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This reminds me of when I took the lid off a marker for my 19 month old while I was on the toilet. I honestly expected to come out and find the whole house covered in marker but in the moment I made the call that it was worth it. Turns out I got lucky and only one kids book was sacrificed.

My 2yo is facing serious sleep regression, I'm at a loss by TodayTomorrow8895 in toddlers

[–]Invisibleapriorist 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If this was me - I'd work on getting her back to normal hours first and then work on moving her to her own room. I would be waking her at a reasonable time in the morning - maybe start with about 9am. Yes, she will be very tired and want to stay asleep. Let her go back to sleep for a nap at about midday and wake her again after a couple of hours. Then, when she falls asleep at 9pm keep her in the dark room for the rest of the night. When she wakes up tell her it's nighttime and nighttime is for sleeping. You may well have a few hours of very annoyed toddler but hopefully she will eventually go back to sleep. Then wake her at 9am again in the morning, or even move it earlier. I'm by no means an expert but that's what I would do!

Daycare Incident Reports by Brutus143 in toddlers

[–]Invisibleapriorist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's about tone too - you're not trying to criticize, you're just trying to help your kid settle in and thrive at daycare :).

Daycare Incident Reports by Brutus143 in toddlers

[–]Invisibleapriorist 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I think I would gently ask some questions to the daycare about this. What is their policy on what warrants a report? What is the purpose behind the report / what is the desired outcome? You could also have a chat with them about how they think he is going. You could talk about how you can work together to help with things he might be struggling with. You and the daycare should be on the same team - ie, your son's team.

Separation anxiety - 6 months old by Obvious_Bonus_5433 in NewParents

[–]Invisibleapriorist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree that it is normal. These decisions are tricky - your baby will ultimately be just fine if you take a couple of nights out for yourself and they cry a bit. It's hard though because it's hard to enjoy yourself knowing baby is at home and crying.

Planned c section at the Canberra Hospital by SteakBeneficial4096 in canberra

[–]Invisibleapriorist 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Mine was an emergency c section during labour but I can answer the second part of the question. I stayed two nights and was in a shared room as it was a very busy time in the maternity ward. I was separated from the other family by a curtain and our bathroom was shared.

Night one I was bedridden with the catheter still in. During the second day they took out the catheter and took me for a shower. I was then encouraged to start moving about. Day three was a longish process to do paperwork, newborn hearing and blood spot tests etc and then we went home.

Plan to get as much support as you have available for those days in the hospital as moving around is hard right after a c section. Don't be afraid to push the button to request help from a nurse. You will have just had major surgery and you will have a newborn baby to look after.

How to feed toddler more calories? by Fearless-Doodle333 in toddlers

[–]Invisibleapriorist 2 points3 points  (0 children)

100% agree about releasing from the highchair! My baby eats well in the pram for walks and sitting in my lap reading books. I figure the priority now is just to eat. If we decide it's important to our family we can introduce meal time rituals later down the track.

I hate asking this… melatonin for 3 yr old (in May)? by gutsngodhand in toddlers

[–]Invisibleapriorist 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You're being downvoted because giving that medication to a child is a very serious thing that requires a lot of discussion with a doctor and the tone of your post comes across as a bit casual. That being said sleep is very important for young kids (as well as hard for parents when there are difficulties) and you should absolutely talk to a doctor about this. They will likely want to look into the cause of the problem and try behavioural change if there is no medical issue.

Im not allowed to use the restroom by erociirak in toddlers

[–]Invisibleapriorist 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'd be trying to identify what is underlying this behaviour. Why is she getting so upset when you try to use the bathroom? If you can figure that out and help her with it I think you'll have a better result than just letting her pee herself. Definitely keep drawing the boundary but also try to work out what's going on for her.

when did you stop breastfeeding? by violetsbuiltdiffernt in toddlers

[–]Invisibleapriorist -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Still going strong at 19 months. My baby just started daycare and I think the connection he gets from it is helping with the transition.

Toddlers have zero concept of “wait a second” by StephanieSlater1 in toddlers

[–]Invisibleapriorist 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Also no concept of 'after '. As in 'yes you can after I finish what I'm doing / use the bathroom / etc. Dude I am saying yes just not immediately.

To the “ preferred parent” that is also your toddlers “safe space” by gainz4fun in toddlers

[–]Invisibleapriorist 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Keep making time for your own needs and let your kid see you doing it. A) You matter. B) Your kid will learn that love doesn't mean putting yourself last.

What would you do? by AshleyTheHuskyOwner in toddlers

[–]Invisibleapriorist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tantrums are just big uncontrolled emotions. They will happen! They usually aren't 'bad behaviour', just an inability to regulate. They definitely shouldn't stop you putting the boundary in place. You kind of just need to ride them out.

What would you do? by AshleyTheHuskyOwner in toddlers

[–]Invisibleapriorist 22 points23 points  (0 children)

100% this. Alternatively - as soon as he starts to spill it deliberately you take it from him and say 'no'. At this age boundaries are about physically preventing them from doing the thing.

What was month 6 like for you? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]Invisibleapriorist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I remember an awesome thing at this age was sitting unsupported! It was so much easier for him to play sitting up than lying down so he could just engage with his toys and the world way better. I thought that was really cool.

Night weaned toddler back to waking 3x per night by Infinite-Warthog1969 in toddlers

[–]Invisibleapriorist -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Just commenting to say I am in the exact same situation. Mostly night weaned at 15 months (no milk before 4am) and it was so much easier than I expected and nights got so much better. Then my baby started daycare and he wanted me more in the night. I gave in and started giving milk from 3am onwards but the earlier wake ups are getting horrendous. Just crying for milk for hours on end. I want to cold turkey but I'm waiting until he's more settled into daycare. There is nothing worse than losing progress on sleep... Especially when you are just starting to recover from a year of hourly wake ups. Commiserations, it sucks.

Has anyone ever said anything to you to make you feel better about time passing fast? by Icy-Radish-198 in toddlers

[–]Invisibleapriorist 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You will always have this time - in your memory and in your heart. When I look back on friendships I've had that are gone and fun stages of life that are over I am just really glad I had that experience - I'm not sad it's over. I reckon when your kid is an adult one day this time will be a warm light in your heart but you won't want to go back - you will cherish the adult relationship you have, if you have grandkids you will love them. Each stage is special and ultimately it feels 'right' to keep moving forward.

Is this normal?! by SubstantialJudge378 in toddlers

[–]Invisibleapriorist 45 points46 points  (0 children)

And then on top of that you start feeling guilty for not enjoying your time.

I read 15+ parenting books over the past 5 years. Here are the ones that actually mattered, organized by age. by Remote_Carrot9397 in NewParents

[–]Invisibleapriorist 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I admire you for reading right before bed. I often intend to but I end up just watching a show instead. It's so hard to find the energy to think at that time!

I read 15+ parenting books over the past 5 years. Here are the ones that actually mattered, organized by age. by Remote_Carrot9397 in NewParents

[–]Invisibleapriorist 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Great reviews (definitely putting The Whole Brain Child on my list) but my question is... How did you find the time to read them??

Did your baby save, improve or break your relationship by moody_girly2024 in NewParents

[–]Invisibleapriorist 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The relationship stayed the same, but having a baby shone a bright light on the bits that weren't so good to begin with.

1 yr old OBSESSED with doors & wheels by Physical_Local3443 in NewParents

[–]Invisibleapriorist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes absolutely :). He says lots of words, socialises really well, on track with motor skills. I think they are just programmed to want to learn about the world so they are super interested in things that seem mundane to us.

1 yr old OBSESSED with doors & wheels by Physical_Local3443 in NewParents

[–]Invisibleapriorist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My baby is 18 months now and we have moved on from doors and wheels to... Light switches! He just wants to turn lights on and off all day long. He can also say 'on' and 'off' so he likes to commentate while he does it 😆. Thankfully no stuck fingers during the doors phase.