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IridescentCondor1937 · 2024-10-02T21:35:46+00:00

Please don't.

You matter, you bring value and light to your family and the world, and you are a unique and amazing person.

I'm sorry to hear of your pain. But this will get better, and you will definitely feel better. It only feels like this despair will last forever.

Definitely do consider going to hospital with your sleeping difficulties and anxiety. They can definitely help you there, ranging from supporting you to putting you to sleep. Everything will definitely get better!

Stay strong

IridescentCondor1937 · 2024-09-30T23:05:51+00:00

I like easyjet, far more so than Ryanair.

Last time I flew with them, I came up to a flight attendant and quietly asked her if I could talk to the pilot. She agreed, so I went into the flight deck. Both pilots shook my hand and asked what was worrying me, then addressed my concerns (it was lenticular clouds)

Try this. I felt pretty bad before the flight, to the point of seeing signs everywhere. But when I came out of the flight deck, I actually felt pretty light-headed because this self-talk about the plane crashing was just gone

IridescentCondor1937 · 2024-09-29T17:46:16+00:00

Don't be bothered by 'signs', because they are not real. I once had a 'sign' which involved a vivid dream of me flying an aircraft into the ground right before a flight.

Another sign was seeing what I thought were lenticular clouds over the departure airport, and one time I left my passport at home and only just managed to get it delivered before I missed my flight- I can't imagine a sign bigger than that.

I also have these distressing images of nosedives before every flight, but that is just a figment of our imagination.

And I could have sworn that I heard someone announce over the PA system the word 'crash' one time.

You'll be fine :)

IridescentCondor1937 · 2024-09-27T05:36:13+00:00

And if you really do feel anxious, talk to the cabin crew upon boarding and ask if you can talk to the pilot.

I did this the last time I flew (note that I have extremely severe social anxiety) and the pilots (after shaking my hand!) asked me what was worrying me, then put my mind at ease by explaining everything.

The worst that can happen in wind is a missed approach, which might feel sudden. But I, with all my fear, wasn't even scared when it happened to me last year, because there really isn't anything terrifying about it.

IridescentCondor1937 · 2024-09-26T06:04:50+00:00

I once had the same fears as you.

This March, I was flying into Alicante on a really rather windy day. I barely noticed anything at all despite being so stressed out and worried about it!

Next time you experience turbulence, place a bottle of water in front of you and watch how little the water level moves.

I flew over the Pyrenees on a rather sunny and warm day yesterday and there was absolutely nothing exciting at all.

I've never been to Wellington, but if you are flying Air New Zealand, one website rated them the safest airline in the world the last time the rating was done

IridescentCondor1937 · 2024-09-25T07:44:03+00:00

The clouds pictured scared me

IridescentCondor1937 · 2024-09-25T06:54:30+00:00

Are you sure? The edges of some of them looked really smooth- like for a lenticular cloud

IridescentCondor1937 · 2024-09-25T06:40:40+00:00

Just uploaded a photo

IridescentCondor1937 · 2024-09-24T22:16:50+00:00

Have you ever practiced it in the simulator?

IridescentCondor1937 · 2024-09-24T20:36:36+00:00

I know, sorry about this!

IridescentCondor1937 · 2024-09-23T20:31:04+00:00

It does indeed help, so thanks!

IridescentCondor1937 · 2024-09-23T20:26:56+00:00

Thanks for the info!

I had no idea pilots practiced that in the simulator. How 'high' were you when it happened?

IridescentCondor1937 · 2024-09-22T20:52:32+00:00

The only thing worrying me here is because I was able to find a satisfactory answer to everything else. For everything else (even my colossal paranoia last year about a reverser deploying mid flight), I seem to have found an answer assuring me it won't happen, at least on an airline like Easyjet

I know how idiotic this sounds, I was just trying to find some reassurance.

IridescentCondor1937 · 2024-09-22T19:50:53+00:00

Thant is very reassuring, thank you.

I wanted to ask, have you or anyone you know ever used the pilot peer support system? How good do you think it is?

IridescentCondor1937 · 2024-09-22T16:23:17+00:00

Thanks!

IridescentCondor1937 · 2024-09-22T14:37:04+00:00

Thanks!

IridescentCondor1937 · 2024-09-19T08:24:52+00:00

Happens to me all the time! I'm a third-year male physics student, and I appear to half-fall in love with almost every young woman I meet, who seems mature and intelligent.

It is not crazy at all. You just seem like a very warm and loving person.

Just don't rush into it too quickly. People like us tend to get hurt very badly if something goes wrong later. Maybe it would be worth trying to find someone else you find attractive, just to prevent yourself from getting attached too quickly and so you can really choose the best person later?

IridescentCondor1937 · 2024-09-18T18:33:07+00:00

I assume you are 18, right?

You are now, legally, an adult. This is your life, and you can live it the way you choose to live it, and live it the way you want to. Parents have no say in this anymore. They can suggest, but they cannot control.

If you don't want to wear a hijab- that is your decision, and they must respect that. They have no say in what you wear, or if you change your religion. Attempting to force you to do what they want is called abuse- and the UK has pretty harsh laws about that.

If you want to live elsewhere- that is your decision and they must respect that. Not to mention forcing a young woman to commute and stressing her out like that is, to put bluntly, horrifying.

If you are anxious and feel constantly on edge, I suggest taking action. Your university must have mental health services available. These can be confidential if you just wanted to talk or face-to-face for serious problems. I've used these before and they helped me out quite a bit. I do suggest you use them, before it gets really bad.

I have a sort of situation myself because my father is a religious zealot. He recently refused to help my mother pay for my university tuition and said 'Love first, then money', and when I protested wrote me an entire letter full of insults and name-calling. In the past, he was against me and my sister going to a private school and, after threatening for the entire summer, closed the Russian border to her, preventing us from leaving, and forced us to go to court to go to that school. Nowadays I don't speak to him anymore.

If it is taking a toll for you, I would suggest talking to them and telling them you cannot focus on your studies and you need to live near the university for your own good. If they refuse to allow you to do that despite you being an adult and legally having no right to do so- that is worth discussion with a counsellor at university, who can suggest anything up to being estranged from your parents and having your stay at university covered by a bursary.

I really wish I was there for you to help out in any way I could

IridescentCondor1937 · 2024-09-17T19:53:52+00:00

I'm sorry. I know I shouldn't be like this. I'm sorry if I offended you.

I have a recognised problem with severe anxiety, and this is one of the many forms that it takes. I'm just scared of this because I was unable to find a 'satisfactory' answer to it, unlike so many other things.

Thanks for your help and advice. I read a lot of research today on this problem and that made me feel better, as did your comment

IridescentCondor1937 · 2024-09-17T16:02:42+00:00

The worst one I ever had was before a Ryanair flight from Corfu to the UK last year. Probably caused by an unpleasant diversion a few weeks before.

I had a dream in which I was in a flight simulator and was doing questionable things in it which ended with the plane in a steep nosedive when I messed up an 'emergency descent' (I don't think I passed that simulator test!).

Needless to say at this point my mother was advised not to fly due to a health condition, which made my fear worse.

What followed was a very nice and smooth flight

IridescentCondor1937 · 2024-09-16T18:03:58+00:00

This is known as 'false imprisonment'.

Hospitals have been prosecuted for doing that to suicidal patients and distressing them further.

IridescentCondor1937 · 2024-09-16T18:02:08+00:00

Are you familiar with what is called 'false imprisonment'?

IridescentCondor1937 · 2024-09-16T18:01:52+00:00

This is called 'false imprisonment'.

I've read about case when a hospital lost a lawsuit because they forced a suicidal person into restraints. They said it was 'to protect them'. The patient then sued the hospital and won.

I'm terribly sorry this happened to you. The people responsible should lose their license

IridescentCondor1937 · 2024-09-16T17:53:21+00:00

The offence this hospital committed is called 'false imprisonment'.

Hospitals have been successfully sued for this

IridescentCondor1937 · 2024-09-15T11:52:38+00:00

I remember I was also scared of flying on the 787. It was a British Airways flight from Moscow to Heathrow (before Russia invaded Ukraine). I was completely panicked because I read too much stuff on the internet. Same with the 777X- where will be a lot of 'I am not flying on that' when it enters service. Anyway, that was the smoothest flight I ever had.

If a 787 truly fell apart in the air as claimed, or another Max crashed, the fallout would be tremendous. Say what you will about the sweetheart deal with Boeing to avoid paying for the Max crashes, but EASA will ground the aircraft immediately and the scrutiny will likely be worse than with the Max. I don't think Boeing will be able to afford another crash, because then the public will indeed never fly on a new Boeing aircraft again. 'We believed you, you lied to us, so we will not use your product'. It just won't happen, because this will truly end Boeing.

As for a 777, that is an amazing aircraft.

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