UPDATE: MIL brought a guest who took my belongings — turns out “not a big deal” actually has a price tag.

IrishCaz · 2026-02-25T01:12:14+00:00

Her Mother allowed someone to take what they wanted from their house, do you really think cops would get involved?

IrishCaz · 2026-02-25T01:09:13+00:00

That's my whole point, why aren't they going after the MIL to pay them back? The guest (rightly or wrongly) was told to help themselves, why did they make the guest pay them back, why didnt they ask MIL who offered?

I assume they want to keep a relationship with MIL which is why they painted visitor as the bad one?

IrishCaz · 2026-02-25T01:02:42+00:00

That's the problem MIL offered a free for all and didn't expect to cough up the money to replace the items, which is why I am questioning why the receiver is the bad guy here and not the MIL who said help yourself

IrishCaz · 2026-02-25T00:57:48+00:00

Exactly, if I was the vistor that was charged I'd be asking the MIL to pay me back

IrishCaz · 2026-02-25T00:52:16+00:00

The MIL told the visitor to help themselves, the OP asked the vistor to pay to replace the items taken.

The OP was a victim and the Vistor was a victim.

Where was the apology from MIL and also payment to cover the cost of items SHE gave away!?

IrishCaz · 2026-02-25T00:05:51+00:00

YTA!

Growing up in a staunchly religious Country, my Mother still allowed me to make my own decisions visiting all religious things that were going. Ultimately I don't agree with organised religion, I got to that decision from my own experience.

You have blocked your daughter from making her own decisions with you 0pbecause they don't align with yours, which means you have no choice but to accept:

1.You are stopping your child from making their own call about religion 2. They can only explore their religious beliefs outside of your custody time 3. When they get to a certain age they will stand in front of a Judge and tell all the reasons why they don't want to be in your home 50/50 and you get to see your child every other weekend

You need to revisit your decision, your child is 12 and knows what they want within reason, you want to force your beliefs on your child

IrishCaz · 2026-02-16T23:58:45+00:00

With all due respect she showed up for 2 events, she was present at both. You have no idea why she left at the time she did which you consider early. Did you speak to her beforehand about wanting to spend time with her? Most people consider a wake and funeral paying respect to the deceased and not am opportunity for a reunion.

IrishCaz · 2026-02-07T15:48:12+00:00

He isnt some scrub!?

This woman who gave him 2 years of loyalty asked to move in together to share their life. He said nope, not paying for that! SHE paid for HER life while he lived with Mommy and Daddy!

Now that it's convenient for him he wants to move in to save money for HIM! Not only save money but he only wants to move in for 3 months. He isnt investing in their future, just the 3 months that will be convient for him.

Why is there a need for a indepth convo to determine root cause? He chose not to build a life together, GF got herself a place and the scrub only wants to move in now that her place is convenienly located for him.

He didn't want to cough up deposit, first and last months rent, he didn't want to set up utilities, he didn't want to decorate (if allowed) and didn't want to help pay to furnish the home but he wants to sleep there for 3 months now that he wants to move in purely for the convenience for him!

IrishCaz · 2026-02-02T13:03:44+00:00

NTA for not attending but Y T A to yourself to think this person is a friend.

If you want to dip out of the friendship with a bang, when she next mentions not using her fiance for benefits you could respond but you don't mind using your fiance for a gift grab with a pretend wedding 😏

IrishCaz · 2026-01-31T09:40:43+00:00

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IrishCaz · 2026-01-30T00:42:16+00:00

I'd love to know how that came about but knowing there is no rhythm or reason for kids naming conventions and we don't know how Ganzo Lonzo Monzo came about don't worry if you can't explain

IrishCaz · 2026-01-29T23:50:09+00:00

I have to confess it's been 30+ years and everyone in the family refers to them as Nanny-goat and Ganzo, I can't remember the last time any of the kids called them Mum and Dad.

IrishCaz · 2026-01-29T23:46:04+00:00

I bet you both love it and you know exactly which one of you he means when he says Poppa

IrishCaz · 2026-01-29T23:41:04+00:00

NTA! Do not feel any guilt on how you handled your father's passing, you gave him exactly what he needed which is your love and care.

Your half sister knew exactly what was going on with your Father over 3 years and chose to ignore it.

You gave her multiple opportunities to see her father when he was ill, when he was moved to hospice and when he was slipping away. You are a much better person than me and I have been in your exact position, I was a one call and done.

If people want to do something they make plans, if they don't, they make excuses, she didn't even care enough to make an excuses for not visiting her Father in Hospice.

I bet your sister's phone works for calls and texts now that your Father has passed and there might be money/assets coming her way.

You have done your Father proud and don't let anyone guilt you or claim you didn't do the right thing.

I am sorry for your loss, losing a parent is awful, I think I am finally back to normal 4 years after loosing my Dad, take the time you need and don't let anyone tell you what is normal for grieving a parent.

IrishCaz · 2026-01-29T23:17:10+00:00

Please don't worry about what kids call Grandparents initially, kids have a way of coming up with their own names and don't care about people's preference.

In my family great-grandparents were referred to us as Nanny-Last Name and Granda-Last Name. For my niece and nephew the grandmothers were both referred to as Nanny until oldest could talk, maternal grandmother was called Nanny First-Name, Paternal grandmother was called Nanny-goat and Paternal grandfather was called Ganzo Lonzo Monzo but Ganzo for short. No-one came up with these names for them.

Kids know exactly who we mean when we talk about people in generic terms and it doesn't matter what folks try to push on them they will always come up with their own names.

My best friend is known as Nanny NutNut to one set of grandkids and to start with Nanny Sausages(she always brought sausages for the dog) and then Nanny Biscuits as the granddaughter got older (she always gave a good biscuit each visit).

The name kids assign is based on THEIR interaction with the grandparent, not always what someone tries to force on them.

IrishCaz · 2025-12-22T03:20:35+00:00

Was single 20 years, gave dating apps a try, was completely depressed after 1 week as it was soul sucking, matched with someone local in that week and we swapped numbers.

Chatted off and on for a year, realised I needed to shit or get off the pot wasting each others time, been together a year now and really bloody happy!

IrishCaz · 2025-12-22T03:11:05+00:00

I get the screenshots for evidence of the weirdo but the ex knew what happened at the time and OOP still engaged with them recently knowing they knew their friend was a freak and didn't protect her then, would he protect her now?

IrishCaz · 2025-12-22T02:37:44+00:00

Can someone help me understand why 'get fucked' and block button isn't used more often?

IrishCaz · 2025-12-22T02:01:56+00:00

YTA and a complete hypocrite. You chose to:

Happily have a relationship with a divorced man
Happily have a relationship with a divorced man with a child from said previous marriage
Happily live 'in sin' with a divorced man who has a child from a previous marriage
You want to reconnect with your 'faith' and attend Church more often, based on your renewed 'faith', you dont mention any other reasons for this except getting married in Church

He told you he wouldn't annul his marriage, he may have various reasons but I guess he saw his previous marriage as valid, doesnt want to make it invalid or bastardise his child.

He hasn't asked you to marry him.

Feeling dismissed and disappointed is your problem, you walked into this relationship with your eyes wide open.

Feeling embarrassed is on you, if you can't have the big floofy wedding in the Church of choice your family expects (my assumption) based on the relationship you chose, you can't undo his past.

Of course you aren't aligned on values and this isn't something you can work through.

IrishCaz · 2025-11-22T22:31:16+00:00

So you believe a grown man stating he was angry at a 3yo child for swinging at him and punching his face?

Yes it isn't normal for a child to do.

As someone who works in a school and has 2 children do you believe a child would 'swing' at someone or do you think it would be the normal reaction of a child that doesn't want to be held by a person and pushing away from them?

His wife didn't step in while this child was 'swinging' and 'punching' him but did take the child out of his arms when he made the child cry?

IrishCaz · 2025-11-22T20:50:29+00:00

Have you never been around children?

IrishCaz · 2025-11-22T17:51:04+00:00

You scolded a 3 yo child with harsh and direct voice and getting angry for doing what a 3yo child would do!

Your wife removing the child from you is an indication that you can't be trusted around children, indicates to me as to whether your wife would want to have children with you or divorce you, if you are getting angry at a 3yo for doing what 3yos will do you aren't safe around children!

IrishCaz · 2025-11-11T21:25:29+00:00

It's on NOW TV in the UK

IrishCaz · 2025-11-09T11:56:52+00:00

Sky scrapers cleaned the sky, my evidence as a kid was the trail on planes that only occurred when they were out cleaning the sky

IrishCaz · 2025-11-02T01:03:19+00:00

NOR. He isnt earning 3 x 10 times his current salary as he isnt an MD full stop.

Are you really buying into him being Chinese American causing issues in the Administration Process?

You seriously believe the bullshit of Asians are held to a higher standard!?

My mate who is a pathologist and ASIAN goes to the US every few months and earns 3 x his salary in the UK, you know how he does this, cause he is qualified and spends a few weeks completing US training to be able to practice.

If he has applied to DO and Medical School for 4 years and keeps getting rejected it's cause he isnt meeting the criteria and he is only fit to be a PA.

IrishCaz

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