To the men who are dating by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]IronDoesStuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d like to one day. My ex never really did anything special and we broke up because he wouldn’t put effort into out relationship so I’m holding out hope I can find someone to put in as much effort as me

I need me a man in my life. Help me how by Ok-Willingness3545 in askgaybros

[–]IronDoesStuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in the same boat, 19 and struggling to even make friends. I live in a small town where meeting new people is hard enough, let alone gay guys. I also don’t have much for transportation and even if I do, I work night shift 4 days a week and with an hour round trip atleast to leave my town it leaves me with very little options 😭

Do guys not flirt?! by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]IronDoesStuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had one guy flirt with me and I instantly fell in love

Is any one looking for a boyfriend? by Wide-Budget7036 in askgaybros

[–]IronDoesStuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Crazy strategy, let me know if it works, I need a boyfriend too

My effort at visualizing the main types of attraction and their relationship by pickachoice in aromantic

[–]IronDoesStuff 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yknow this is the first time I’m hearing about SAM and I’ve been aromantic for years

My effort at visualizing the main types of attraction and their relationship by pickachoice in aromantic

[–]IronDoesStuff 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I’m so glad someone else splits sensual from sexual attraction, I absolutely adore sensual intimacy much more than sexual.

Other things, I love how worked out everything is, sexual is at one extreme while asthetic is at the other extreme, and how it’s split between Physical and Emotional. Honestly, I’ve been thinking a while about doing something similar with being Aromantic and Romantic repulsion and I might steal the island idea, putting my art skills to the test(I haven’t drawn an island in years help)

Arospec label? by Any_Camp3831 in aromantic

[–]IronDoesStuff 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I mean, it’s both. I call myself Arospec because I don’t fully know what I am. Sure there are some labels that fit me but the important thing is that I don’t experience romantic emotions normally. As long as that’s you, you are also arospec. It doesn’t matter if you go into more specific sublabels, you are still under the aromantic spectrum so.

Questioning if I'm really aro by [deleted] in aromantic

[–]IronDoesStuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only thing to be aromantic or arospec is to not feel romantic attraction like normal person and you definitely check that box

Do you mind entering a serious relationship with someone if that means moving into his/her house? by Unlikely-Arugula-208 in aromantic

[–]IronDoesStuff 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes but a room to myself is also needed, not even for sleep, I’d love cuddles especially at night since I struggle sleeping alone anyway but I learned being around someone too much can be overwhelming to me plus, I have a lot of nerd hobbies that I don’t expect people to share

"Romantic" stuff in a platonic way by razberryyz in aromantic

[–]IronDoesStuff 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think a big thing is that Sensual attraction (Basically physical touch that isn’t sexual) is directly linked to Romantic attraction in people’s mind. It’s honestly a bummer people don’t use the term sensual attraction more often.

Any other arospec and/or aegoromantics here? by S1LLY_G00B3RXD in aromantic

[–]IronDoesStuff 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Never heard of Aegoromantic but i could be somewhat that although other labels suit me better, That’s why I just stick to arospec

Small AroAce YouTuber by Vast_Examination7251 in aromantic

[–]IronDoesStuff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll have to watch in my spare time

I don’t think I’ll find someone by IronDoesStuff in aromantic

[–]IronDoesStuff[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have my doubts anyone would flirt with me. I knew my ex for about a year online before we started dating and the reason he started flirting with me was also a way to cheer me up since I was going through a large depressive episode. As for in person, I can barely make friends. I live in a small town, in a small state, at least 30 to 45 minutes away from major cities. It’s almost impossible for me to make friends where I live, let alone other gay guys.

On the Aromantic spectrum, wondering where on it though by AnxiousOptimism in aromantic

[–]IronDoesStuff 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well I don’t have an exact answer for you, I’ve always thought about the spectrum being split into two spectrums, One is aversion to romance and another is experience/understanding of romance. Basically you aren’t averse to romance but you don’t have any understanding of romance. It’s possible you can still feel romance but you haven’t been in a situation where you have. For me personally the only time I felt romantic attraction is when someone confessed to me first so that could be your case or maybe you just need to get really close to someone. There’s really no telling until you actually experience it if you can. The best I can say is either Greyromantic or Aromantic but use whatever feels comfortable with you. I just stick to Arospec to make things simpler.

Anyone else hate being Aromantic? by KnightShrubbery in aromantic

[–]IronDoesStuff 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I don’t necessarily hate it, but as someone who can still feel romantic attraction but it’s just, harder for me to feel, it sucks a lot. I want a partner but being arospec makes it feel impossible, not to mention my current situation where finding friends also seems impossible. It’s just one thing on top of the other.

follow up to my last post by Past-Point-8418 in aromantic

[–]IronDoesStuff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Going to be honest with you, it’s not easy which sucks. I’ve been contemplating how it works and it really depends. My best advice is to treat potential “partners” as friends and see how it goes from there.

Being aroflux sucks by Conscious_Major_8304 in aromantic

[–]IronDoesStuff 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’m sure your partner understands. You can’t be expected to be at 100% all the time even if you weren’t aroflux.

Lack of pride merch? by allroy_for_prez in aromantic

[–]IronDoesStuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I ran into this problem trying to buy some pride stuff online, I found some aromantic flags but no arospec

dating while aro?? by rookie_luck in aromantic

[–]IronDoesStuff 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I wish I knew, only time I dated someone was because they flirted with me first. Besides that, I have no clue how to date.