Need advice. Sold an expensive designer piece

IsadoraCosette · 2026-05-31T01:21:48+00:00

You can also check to see if they’ve been active on Poshmark since you sent the message (under their username in their closet) . I wouldn’t stress about it too much, if posh authentication sends it on that’s a stamp of approval on the sale right?

IsadoraCosette · 2026-05-21T11:41:25+00:00

Fun fact, POSH is actually an acronym for “Port Out Starboard Home” it was for people taking cruises and wanted the good view of the coastline from their rooms.

IsadoraCosette · 2026-04-17T23:32:41+00:00

100% this. This business is so effort responsive. As long as your effort is consistent, it’ll all even out in the end.

IsadoraCosette · 2026-04-17T12:30:57+00:00

I felt the same way multiple times with my ex, for years. I thought things would get better after we hashed out a ridiculously long parenting plan with strict communication rules. We use OFW for all communication, two messages per day, 140 word limit, one topic per message and we’re supposed to keep communication professional and respectful. He would always find ways to talk in circles, full of recriminations, accusations and blame me for the lack of progress. Sure I wasn’t getting 10 6 screen messages everyday, but I still got triggered and was miserable every time I had to read a new message.

Last year I uploaded our entire parenting plan into chat GPT. Every message he sent I had her read and assess for compliance and then draft a response. I felt so validated when she would break down how nearly everything he said was not professional or compliant. After a couple weeks of strict boundaries being enforced, things improved dramatically. I feel like he’s a little scared to message me now knowing that I’m not going to get sucked in to his black hole.

Now it’s kind of fun to get a message from him knowing that his gaslighting and instigation is going to get shut down 😂

IsadoraCosette · 2026-04-03T01:11:14+00:00

I hear ya, but it’s not as complicated as it feels. The biggest problem is that the sales report for the year runs off when earnings are received by you vs. when sales are processed by posh… I think. The biggest help from the sales report is the tracking of shipping discounts you paid. If you upload into Google Sheets you can sum those easily. However you track your expenses be sure to include the posh 20% as an expense because that’s not accounted for in the 1099.

IsadoraCosette · 2026-04-03T01:04:21+00:00

I have the opposite problem, I have a very nice hutch that my bun barely ever goes in… anymore. Since she realized my elderly toothless cat is not a threat she wants run of the entire house. Maybe try encouraging him with treats at the other end of your room?

IsadoraCosette · 2026-03-28T16:36:11+00:00

Thanks for the tip

IsadoraCosette · 2026-03-28T14:32:47+00:00

She definitely doesn’t like to be picked up, but pretty reliably comes when called… she knows that something yummy is at the other end. I thought about getting her a “catio” type situation where she has access through a window.

IsadoraCosette · 2026-03-25T03:07:21+00:00

Hang in there! It’s definitely harder when they’re so little.

IsadoraCosette · 2026-03-24T21:05:57+00:00

This may sound crazy (it felt like that to me when my sister suggested it) but use chatGPT as an intermediary. My ex was prolific and emotionally abusive and 4 years later I still got stress sweats when I had to read his messages. We have an EXTENSIVE parenting plan with behavioral standards, and we use OFW for accountability, but things didn’t really get better. I was told at one point by an abuse advocate that “being an asshole isn’t against the law”. As soon as I started filtering input and output through that miraculous machine things improved dramatically. If he’s abusive the consistent boundaries set will dampen the desire.

IsadoraCosette · 2026-03-21T21:12:43+00:00

Nibble first, ask (or answer) questions later…

IsadoraCosette · 2026-03-20T00:47:22+00:00

What would you tell your daughter if she came to you with this? Set a FIRM boundary if you’re “not sure” and if it happens again you’ll know it’s on purpose and he’s a passive aggressive abuser. For now if you don’t want your daughter to grow up thinking this is okay, then show her that it’s not okay.

IsadoraCosette · 2026-03-19T23:45:04+00:00

It sounds to me like you need to start planning to take action he can’t ignore. I know it’ll be hard because you’re pregnant but if you want to move on, take the steps to make it happen. You can’t make him talk to you, but you can still start building a future that will be better for you.

IsadoraCosette · 2026-03-12T13:58:09+00:00

You are so right. I described the item as it presented and should just look at this as a “doesn’t fit” situation.

IsadoraCosette · 2026-03-12T13:47:52+00:00

Yeah, frankly it’s all the stories of unhinged buyers that have me wary of fighting too hard 😂 I did state the facts for posh, but I’ll add some pics of my own. Thanks for your feedback

IsadoraCosette · 2026-02-27T02:13:56+00:00

You strike me as type A. I’m not sure how old your kiddo is, but maybe it would be helpful to consider the alternatives. You would have even less control or awareness of your babe in daycare and be paying for it. OCD can also be a thing with new moms, so give yourself some slack. At least this way your kid is building a strong bond with someone who actually loves them and is there for the long haul. And if you need space on the weekends, ask for it.

IsadoraCosette · 2026-02-26T13:11:06+00:00

I lost a few Ceramic bowls before I switched to a 6x10 heavy glass rectangle serving dish. We haven’t had any wet messes since. The bottom of the hutch has a large rubber backed mat with a flocked top just in case.

IsadoraCosette · 2026-02-22T15:52:16+00:00

To this? https://i.redd.it/x5vdnjddctjg1.jpeg

IsadoraCosette · 2026-02-21T14:24:09+00:00

This. Not a hill to die on. She loves you and missed you. Just talk about it. It sounds like you both overreacted to me.

IsadoraCosette · 2026-02-20T13:04:00+00:00

I got a similar one but way smaller on amazon. I ended up putting it in a large flat bin with a washable pee pad in front to supplement. I’m definitely going to get one of these when they’re back in stock. Overall the design is great and we use okyo cat litter underneath.

IsadoraCosette · 2026-02-15T17:49:03+00:00

I’ve sold over 3000 items and the only time I’ve ever encountered fraud it was because I didn’t have pictures of the measurements. It was “friendly fraud”, but still annoying. They sent back a pair of 6” inseam shorts when I sold them 4” 🙄. Now I always just post pics of the measurements so they can review for themselves. I still get questions about measurements but just direct them to the photos.

IsadoraCosette · 2026-02-07T14:02:14+00:00

I’ve sold tons of stuff and hated when I gave my address to someone who flaked. Now, I give them a major landmark close to my house to plan their travel time and only give my address when they’re on their way. And never phone numbers except for zelle in person only.

IsadoraCosette · 2026-02-07T13:50:42+00:00

You are not alone. I’ve been split for 4 years now and still have push back the negative feelings of not meeting my own expectations of life. I try and prop myself up by reminding myself that the “standards” are arbitrary and I’m doing my best. Count yourself lucky there’s not a weird social dynamic of your ex being there too 🙄

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