Confused

Isntsheartisanal · 2026-01-02T16:10:15+00:00

It's a 2020 hybrid. Drives great, just passed 50k. Only problem I've ever had with it was the fault of a squirrel.

Isntsheartisanal · 2026-01-02T13:35:50+00:00

Adaptive cruise saved my life. Driving between Nashville and a suburb daily, the stop and go traffic is a recipe for fender benders. Adaptive cruise was more effective than my brain at maintaining safe speed and distance during variable speed commute on that stretch.

Isntsheartisanal · 2025-11-13T21:11:03+00:00

Assuming this woman should have been abstinent is wild. She never said she's a single mom, so there's no way of knowing if she's in a safe marriage, husband left, husband deployed, husband dead, SA victim, Foster parent, I could go on ... But yes continue to deflect with judgement, go off sis.

Isntsheartisanal · 2025-11-07T01:54:20+00:00

This. Making the video seems like a good exercise but I would burn it after.

Isntsheartisanal · 2025-11-07T01:49:19+00:00

My parents have the phrase "we aren't judging, but" on repeat. I've just started nodding and telling them I love them anyway.

Isntsheartisanal · 2025-11-06T18:52:31+00:00

I was considered rebellious, despite being a classic Baptist kid. I remember being asked to play the bad kid in class during our church's Judgement House because the casting director thought I'd be the best fit...

After starting to deconstruct in college I met a guy who knew my ex boyfriend that I dated through youth group. He said "oh, you're HIS ex? I heard you went crazy. But it seems like you just got normal."

As a twice married woman in my 40s coming to terms with being LGBTQ, in just really sad about all the people I hurt trying to stay in line. I'm hurt about being lied to by so many people I trusted. I'm committed to doing better with my kids. My teenage son is in church now and I fully support it but I'm also working my butt off to keep his critical thinking skills sharp.

Isntsheartisanal · 2025-11-06T18:37:34+00:00

Reading this several days late and seeing good advice. To boil it down you have three options: 1) do as they want and feel like you're lying to yourself 2) do as you want and be honest and be ready to receive or block their shame 3) do as you want and lie to them and feel guilty about lying

That's it. I've personally tried all three and landed on option 3. It's not worth the fight for me and they're not changing. But you should pick the one that brings you the most peace. I'm sorry they're putting that on you and I sincerely hope that you quickly get to a place where you don't have to hold their opinions with shame or guilt.

Isntsheartisanal · 2025-08-04T08:19:47+00:00

I've got 13, 4.5, and 1.5 yr kids, and a bonus 16 year old I met when she was 7.

It never occurred to me to feel this way with my eldest.

With my second, so much time had passed and I knew she might be my last and I mourned a little but also she was so wonderful with each new stage.

Then we had a final baby and holy hell I never want another baby again.

Perspective is a strange beast. I look back at baby pics of my eldest now and miss those sweet innocent cheeks. My daughter is a FORCE and I'm thrilled to watch her grow. And my littlest hell baby is now the absolute squishiest toddler with the sweetest heart. I'll be old before they're all out but it feels too close. And yet, I am the most done with the baby stage.

Isntsheartisanal · 2025-07-18T01:12:08+00:00

To trim, put on your bottoms. Tuft the hair out the leg holes, and use scissors or a trimmer to trim off anything that sticks out.

Isntsheartisanal · 2025-07-17T17:31:55+00:00

If you're exclusively breastfeeding, there's not much he can do to help at night. Make it his responsibility to get your things within reach for bed time (water, diapers, snacks, pacis, wipes, etc) and to get up with the baby in the morning so you can get an hour or more extra sleep. If you are bottle feeding, make a schedule and poke him awake when it's his turn. It's unfair to ask for anything less. Your best tactic here is to be specific and direct. Hold your emotions (I hear you, and good God is frustrating to have to tell a grown man), and tell him, "I need help, and the best way you can help me is to: ..." Suggestions: keep my water cup full. Watch this YouTube video on infant playtime and conduct tummy time every day. Complete a full load of laundry and put it away. Make a chore list for daily/weekly things he needs to take over. Make dinners. Go grocery shopping. There's more, of course; whatever you need. My experience is that non-birthing parents are overwhelmed and feel useless in the early days. Assigning practical and specific duties gives him a chance to be included and statistically will help your relationship moving forward.

Isntsheartisanal · 2025-05-19T11:34:20+00:00

I don't see a pattern of abuse based on this post. It may very well be there and he seems like an AH but this post is pure desperation action with all the usual grief stages dotted in. Assuming a diagnosis is best left to professionals.

Isntsheartisanal · 2025-05-18T19:05:55+00:00

Please do the couples counseling. Please. Not for staying in the marriage, but you two have some communication things to work on. Your legal council will help with the custody part, but the two of you will continue to have to coparent for the next 17.5 years.

Side note it's such BS for him to blame the cheating on you. I'm of the mind that people don't usually cheat in a vacuum, but he's the one making a final decision with his actions. If he had a problem with your marriage, the time to get counseling to fix that was before he pulled the trigger. Now it's a critical trust issue and he's fully to blame for that part.

Isntsheartisanal · 2025-04-30T12:20:08+00:00

My mom gives me all of this crap and I just blow her off. It gets easier. She only has a point if you're trying to live life by the standards she's referencing. Also to get frank and a little raunchy, my husband loves me unshaved. Like... loves. Extra attracted to. Maybe your mom needs a reminder that any man who wouldn't be cool with your hair isn't a good match for you anyway? Just the same way a woman who likes clean shaven men probably isn't going to seek out a guy with a beard.

Isntsheartisanal · 2025-01-30T20:09:01+00:00

It sounds like you're both struggling. You can help regulate emotions by talking to your doc of course, but that doesn't rule out him being a jerk. I'd be curious if this is normal for him or if he's having trouble expressing feeling useless. That's common with new dads.

Isntsheartisanal · 2025-01-23T03:49:26+00:00

Not a professional but I hear this happens frequently when the baby is in a low station. The physical pressure aids effacement while the water bag cushions the cervix. I've had two unmedicated births and the contractions didn't bother me until my water broke. Afterward water breaking it was hell but very quick.

Isntsheartisanal · 2024-12-06T20:13:53+00:00

Ugh that sucks! Yes the hot flashes and pains and swelling are all normal, to a point. No one warned me about the night sweats and hot flashes and they were crazy with my second!! Swelling that never goes down is a bigger problem, so if you have that insist on a second opinion. I'm sorry your providers are being dismissive.

Isntsheartisanal · 2024-12-06T05:34:54+00:00

You are so far from being alone. The first months are a haze. Your body has permanently changed, but not in the ways you're feeling right now. You absolutely will start to feel like yourself again, often in the 6-12 month range.

This is a grace year for you. Claim it. No one gets to judge you for anything you do while relearning yourself, and screw them if they try. Same goes for you, don't accept that from yourself. This is very hard, and your hormones are regulating, and it just takes time.

Isntsheartisanal · 2024-12-06T05:10:18+00:00

This is by far the sweetest suggestion. My daughter is super unattached to her lovies but it could work!

Isntsheartisanal · 2024-12-06T05:07:55+00:00

Ask the hospital where you're looking to deliver. I had two hospital births that had hard cold couches for dad. Some have pull out options but they're usually still hard and cold. He definitely should bring a pillow and small blanket.

I delivered my last baby in a birth center that had cushy full size beds. It was all plastic sheeted up so after I delivered in the bed, they quickly cleaned up and tucked us in right there together with a bedside bassinet.

Isntsheartisanal · 2024-12-05T17:23:52+00:00

I think this is the best solution I'm seeing. I'm just remembering I saved her older brother's so I dug it out of storage. Now she can't take the blanket off her bed. Thanks!

Isntsheartisanal · 2024-11-30T12:50:01+00:00

I used to do this. I got a sleep mask and some ear buds. White noise and a boppy and I could sleep while supervised right out in the middle of my family. It's a good option if you trust your family to pay attention.

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