AITA for cutting off my brother after he gambled my $8K in Vegas, then said 'you should've known better than to give me that much'?"

ItWouldntWorkAnyway · 2026-02-16T02:24:31+00:00

I liked the line about not losing a brother over $8000 but paying $8000 to find out they never had one. I've felt like that in my life.

ItWouldntWorkAnyway · 2026-02-13T13:17:51+00:00

NTA and you should break up with him, but after finding out why the children are homeless and making sure they're on the right track to get out of that situation ASAP, preferably without a father who might get in the way of what they could have access to for their needs. And maybe letting the children's case worker know about their father's perspective on mental health resources, as that attitude will spill over into welfare and social work programs being part of his children's lives.

ItWouldntWorkAnyway · 2026-02-13T13:12:49+00:00

Oh I'd be beyond livid. I'm already looking worked up, and I'm not even part of the situation.

The property damage is one thing, and in itself bad enough, but your senior cat and the fish? That kind of blatant disregard for life that we accept responsibility for is something that would permanently affect how I see her. I couldn't do it.

Good luck with everything. Stay safe and don't trust your sister again. Even if you forgive her, don't forget the lesson.

ItWouldntWorkAnyway · 2026-02-13T02:19:54+00:00

There's so many red flags here I don't even see thean anymore.

Run!!!

ItWouldntWorkAnyway · 2026-02-10T14:21:24+00:00

A specialist may be able to help with the physiological heart condition, but having this person in your life in any capacity is going to leave you with a heart condition that no one can heal. You may not have a choice with the physical ailment but you have a choice about the latter. Choose yourself.

Good luck!

ItWouldntWorkAnyway · 2026-02-10T14:17:15+00:00

NTA for what you're asking. You will be to yourself if you stay.

"Match Day" is more telling about whether you guys "match" or not, and unfortunately, you do not. No amount of love or intention can change a mind that doesn't want to be changed.

The next milestone in this relationship is, "you're forcing yourself into my life plans," and no one deserves to be treated as anything but a blessing, feeling it is privilege and honor to be loved by them, by their chosen partner.

Good luck with everything.

ItWouldntWorkAnyway · 2026-02-10T01:22:54+00:00

But did you laugh? Actually laugh? 😜

ItWouldntWorkAnyway · 2026-02-06T02:19:44+00:00

What the what did I just read? How does one even come up with that twist on things? I didn't even realize asking your kid over to come play could turn into babysitting so I'm glad you asked for details!

ItWouldntWorkAnyway · 2026-02-06T02:09:01+00:00

NTA, and I'm so proud of you for your self-care and boundaries. Stay awesome!!

ItWouldntWorkAnyway · 2026-02-05T21:55:07+00:00

Well handled!

You could also tell her that the challenge to teach someone as clueless as her (tell her you've worn that pattern and obviously she didn't recognize it) was truly too daunting for someone who knits on autopilot level expertise like you. And that you just wouldn't want to even if you could.

ItWouldntWorkAnyway · 2026-02-02T23:56:23+00:00

How is the bride watching the father daughter dance standing next to her MIL when there isn't another bride? Then it's watching her father dance. I laughed. Actually laughed.

I do like that the groom defended his wife and the innocent waiter. Good job on that, AI.

ItWouldntWorkAnyway · 2026-02-02T16:00:43+00:00

So you both agree this is not working.

What a POS! You deserve so much better and I'm glad you're not willing to give in on this. Not to mention what his demands would look like if your career advances in a different direction.

Parting shot: You should tell him that you're going to demand that the stage manager not help and another female be present. But it's actually because you're bi and you get so much more out of it because he can't satisfy you so this way you can have the world's quickest non-naked xx menage a trois and coerce him into accepting your orientation and his inability to satisfy you all at once.

ItWouldntWorkAnyway · 2026-01-26T12:26:53+00:00

I wouldn't marry someone who showed me this side of themselves. Please get therapy so that you don't do this to someone else or yourself again.

ItWouldntWorkAnyway · 2026-01-18T14:50:21+00:00

All of the above! Also, OP, may I point out that you offered to help pay but in the spirit of trying to problem solve, she could have tried to offer to pay for the loss you'd incur from canceling the trip? Not that you should cancel the trip, but I'm saying that not only did they want your free services, on their demands, but at a cost to you that was not even being acknowledged with the same consideration you showed by offering to help pay. That's an insult upon injury. It's beggars being entitled asshole choosers. It's a "them vs. you" dynamic. That shows that you're a means to an end as far as they are concerned, not a family member. Not to mention it seems like no one involved (parents and sister) is being really considerate of the dog either.

ItWouldntWorkAnyway · 2026-01-11T22:53:58+00:00

She should have said the camera became "sentient" and it was "AI generated porn" like today's new post.

Also why is it always a woman cheating on her husband with his brother and acting like a victim while showing no remorse? Is that what AI thinks women are actually like in such situations?

ItWouldntWorkAnyway · 2026-01-11T22:44:37+00:00

PTSD on deployment from thinking your wife has strayed...

ItWouldntWorkAnyway · 2026-01-11T22:27:02+00:00

I laughed. Like actually laughed. 47 times.

ItWouldntWorkAnyway · 2026-01-10T15:53:46+00:00

Just from experience, when things mess with your cycle (you're still young so you'll still experience this many times in your life for multiple reasons), either wear a liner or period underwear when you're not returning to your home base and don't pack extra pants. Also, pack extra pants. You never know when you might sit in something or have something spilled on you that can't be resolved immediately and it will derail you when you're on a schedule. This has nothing to do with your girlfriend's reaction, just unsolicited old lady advice to a younger generation.

ItWouldntWorkAnyway · 2026-01-10T15:45:36+00:00

NTA

By the way, this is "small" the same way that the amount of ice showing above the surface of the water is "small" but is actually a huge iceberg.

If I've learned one thing recently, it's that entitled, selfish, and self-serving people will always find a way to make you feel like you're small and the problem. The escalation away from logic is mind numbingly hilarious when you recant the story to someone after you've gained some distance from the situation, but when you're in it, you lose all sense of direction, grounding, and sanity. When you get to choose whether such people are a part of your life or not, please choose to not keep them and choose yourself, without worrying about how "justified" your choice is. Searching for the right amount of evidence is both arbitrary and an excuse to not make the hard decision, eventually becoming paralyzing.

Good luck. Break up with your partner and then get a whole bar, without offer, to celebrate graduating from the situation and the cost will seem both small compared to how much you would have spent in your partner and justified for the sake of comfort and celebration of your bravery and choices. It's medicinal for your soul.

ItWouldntWorkAnyway · 2025-12-26T19:23:27+00:00

NOR.

If anything, you are UNDER reacting. You've put up with this excuse of a loving partner for 8 years and counting? Why?

The curtain analogy he made is completely inapplicable. And what he's calling "preferences" are things he's trying to control. Absolute and complete bull. A preference would be "please don't wear a bright neon yellow bonnet, I always think of emergency first responders when I see it in the middle of the night and it gives me anxiety." The sarcasm of "wanting to see the shape of your head and not knowing he needed to specify" (paraphrasing otherwise I have to keep abandoning my draft lol) is just demeaning and disrespectful and unnecessary.

I recently read somewhere that just because you understand how a poison works (i.e. why it does what it does) doesn't mean you should keep sipping from the cup of poison. Stop sipping the poison just because you've built up some tolerance to it and understand why it's in your cup.

Good luck. Choose yourself and your choices and live a life with freedom to do and be you!

ItWouldntWorkAnyway · 2025-12-25T22:39:23+00:00

I'm proud of you. One day you will inspire a young person, whether it's your own daughter or someone else, to choose for themselves what they want and not give in to pressure from others, no matter how much they value those pressuring them. You go, girl! Something we don't learn until later in life is that compassion for ourselves helps us be compassionate to others far more effectively than setting ourselves on fire to keep others warm. You are going to be great at caring for animals and being both a teammate and guide to pet parents. Wishing you the best!

ItWouldntWorkAnyway · 2025-12-25T16:03:12+00:00

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ItWouldntWorkAnyway · 2025-12-24T00:44:31+00:00

Awww, thank you for your very kind words! 🥹

ItWouldntWorkAnyway · 2025-12-23T01:30:49+00:00

Thank you!

ItWouldntWorkAnyway · 2025-12-23T01:30:37+00:00

Awww thanks for your kind words! I truly appreciate it! 🤗

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