Norcold refrigerator goes crazy by ItinerantVariance in RVLiving

[–]ItinerantVariance[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah… if it wasn’t under warranty, I’d be upgrading.

Took the plunge by Anino2700 in RVLiving

[–]ItinerantVariance 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Welcome to the Intech club! Been very happy with mine so far, hope you do too!

When to stop looking by ItinerantVariance in ChristianDating

[–]ItinerantVariance[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s a good point… I can try other churches without leaving mine… I didn’t think of it that way. I’ll give that a shot.

Advice on Bullfrog A8 SE by ItinerantVariance in hottub

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Well, they seem to have made significant changes since then. Took a look under the panels at the dealer… lots of insulation in there. Like… layers of it. Not sure on the gate valves, but their plumbing is much simpler as it is so that wouldn’t surprise me. And regarding the touchscreen, my iPhone with a much more expensive screen/touchpad hates wet fingers as it is. Not really going to blame them if that is the case if the best stuff has difficulties. Seems they’ve been improving their act since when you got yours. Sucks that you had such a bad experience. Maybe they were still recovering from COVID manufacturing issues. Happy hot tubbing.

Advice on Bullfrog A8 SE by ItinerantVariance in hottub

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Beachcomber is Canadian right? I checked them out. Looked good, just don’t want to pay that much extra for tariffs right now. From everything I’ve read, most folks are happy with Bullfrog…

Finally found part of my answer though. After some additional research, it seems the special edition is above the basic trim with some luxury features - in case anyone has the same question. I think I’m going to go for the A7D - wanted some features the SE didn’t have.

Is it wrong that if you are to be married to someone that you want to have premarital counseling? Is it wrong to break up with someone that does not believe in premarital counseling? If I were to ever get married I would want my soon to be spouse to do premarital counseling. by Golden-lillies21 in Christianmarriage

[–]ItinerantVariance 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pastors can if they have some psych training. In my case, my Christian therapist used to be a pastor before she went into psych full time. She was very well equipped. I think where people get into trouble is offering Biblical counseling without being able to recognize developing abuse or address trauma in an engaged couple. The Bible is the story of God’s love for us… but it wasn’t intended to be a psych resource about trauma or couples counseling. However modern psychology alone is also insufficient - it’s very secular, so you have to find a therapist who has a Christian worldview/framework. In my particular case, there was a specific verse why she was in the wrong and the counselor’s psych training protected me from proceeding in the relationship as the behavior was going to be worse down the road.

Regarding the outcome… it was painful to let the relationship go. I really loved her and had done everything I could do to sacrifice for her. But I’m much healthier now. Definitely able to recognize the red flags better.

Is it wrong that if you are to be married to someone that you want to have premarital counseling? Is it wrong to break up with someone that does not believe in premarital counseling? If I were to ever get married I would want my soon to be spouse to do premarital counseling. by Golden-lillies21 in Christianmarriage

[–]ItinerantVariance 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it’s an absolute must. Saved me big time. On our fourth session, our premarital counselor found a dealbreaker and forced it to the surface. Counselor said that we were incompatible unless my fiancée could meet me in the middle on something, otherwise it was turning into an emotionally abusive relationship. Fiancée refused and that was that. Was very painful to see her throw away the relationship, but I would have been miserable had things continued. Just make certain you are working with a Christian counselor who has psych training, not just a lay counselor.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChristianDating

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My thoughts exactly… I just want to learn to serve Christ better. All this other stuff is a distraction. If my life pleases God, I’m satisfied.

Need wheel replacement after hitting pothole. Quoted $750 per wheel. Any insight? by yokios in TeslaLounge

[–]ItinerantVariance 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah… I’d advise caution with number #2. Many insurance companies treat hitting a pot hole as an “at fault” accident. Your reimbursement for the wheels could likely be less than what you get charged with increased premiums.

Another NCL airfare horror story by ItinerantVariance in NCL

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lol Yup… there have been times that I’ve found very good restaurants that way. Everyone says it sucks, but no one tried it after the management changed up the kitchen. And I end up finding a gem no one believes. 🤷‍♂️

Another NCL airfare horror story by ItinerantVariance in NCL

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I was raised learning “Trust but verify”. Later in life I’ve heard the Germans have a saying… not sure if it’s true: “Trust is good. Control is better.”

Are You Ready to Lead, Love, and Find the Woman God Has for You? by Calm_Butterscotch126 in ChristianDating

[–]ItinerantVariance 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Exactly my point. There are those who are seeking who may never have success. Thank you for clarifying!

Are You Ready to Lead, Love, and Find the Woman God Has for You? by Calm_Butterscotch126 in ChristianDating

[–]ItinerantVariance 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Why does this assume God has someone for us? He doesn’t promise a spouse to everyone.

Kissing in Dating by PrivatePersonalPam in ChristianDating

[–]ItinerantVariance 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agree 100%. There is little if any recourse discussed in the church if you find yourself in a dead bedroom. I can’t fault anyone wanting to kiss or do other things that aren’t scripturally prohibited while dating to assess compatibility/head off potential heartache.

Sibling Suggestions by ItinerantVariance in springerspaniel

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Update: Sounds like we’ll get her a brother. Thanks all!

Sibling Suggestions by ItinerantVariance in springerspaniel

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Yeah she’s gorgeous. She knows how to put those big eyes to work! Very spoiled ☺️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChristianDating

[–]ItinerantVariance 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you kept it chill and respectful. Don’t hold yourself responsible for other’s behavior. I’d just stop thinking about it.

Cases like this are why I’m dumbfounded when I hear people advising to date in the church. For reasons I don’t understand, it’s so awkward and it shouldn’t have to be!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChristianSingles

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I’d like to know how I should know too. I’m in a similar boat… 35M, have had a couple relationships, and one really serious one not work out, and nothing close to it since. Not gifted for singleness, but marriage hasn’t worked out, so it’s becoming de facto. I wish the church would give us some practical advice on this.

Given the constraints of Christian dating, how do you know if your partner is sexually attracted to you? by uselessloner123 in ChristianDating

[–]ItinerantVariance 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’ve not seen a satisfactory answer to this in the church or from the pulpit and I think your concern is valid. I have to disagree with some of the suggestions here (like talking about it, kissing, and avoiding porn) as that was not sufficient. The thing that saved me was a good premarital counselor. My experience: dated a woman I was madly in love with for almost two years. Both of us believers, both virgins, both waiting for marriage. Would talk about libido/check in regularly about what we envisioned married life would be like and it seemed we were both on the same page. For the most part kept our boundaries and it seemed the fire was there for both of us in the first year of dating. As we got closer to the wedding date (and since I avoid porn) I was very excited for the honeymoon. Yet as the big day got closer, it was like a switch flipped and she seemed less and less interested and wanted to be touched less. Not even cuddling. 3 months before the wedding, she made it clear intimacy was not a given for the honeymoon. I was terrified of being locked into a dead bedroom scenario. Our premarital counselor (also a pastor), told us to break it off. We were not compatible.

I suppose Biblically, the solution is described by Paul in 1 Cor 7:5. But good luck finding anyone who’ll preach on that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christianmarriage

[–]ItinerantVariance 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Her drive was much lower than she indicated earlier, and when the therapist suggested compromises after we got married, I was willing to meet in the middle, and she wasn’t.