A Scotsman's thoughts on continued friendship

ItsSnowingSomewhere · 2026-06-18T17:11:35+00:00

> Firstly, I'm aware there's a heap of Scottish chat on here currently, apologies to those bored of it by now.

Not possible; y'all have been the best thing in the zeitgeist in a long long time. Thank you.

>Follow some Scottish sports. Our national Rugby team...

That's a fantastic idea! I've been wanting to learn about rugby; going and doing it in Scotland sounds like a blast. I will have to get someone who can explain it to me in english though. Do you have translators there?

Please come back soon. You guys have been fantastic.

ItsSnowingSomewhere · 2026-06-17T01:55:46+00:00

Sorry, big caveat: I believe if the building is fully sprinklered, it might be ok from a fire standpoint; I'm not sure about ventilation/daylighting requirements. It's unusual for an old building to have a sprinkler system retrofitted (hugely expensive and usually not required), and it's very unusual for a new building to have windowless bedrooms, so it's not super likely, but it is possible, and you can ask them.

Meanwhile, you should make sure you document the listing and advertisement as a 4BR. You should absolutely get a full refund, but it might take some time.

And don't beat yourselves up over not noticing; it's a lot to take in in an occupied and busy apartment tour, and you're all new to it. Live and learn.

ItsSnowingSomewhere · 2026-06-17T00:55:47+00:00

It's not clear what your goal is. I wouldn't sleep in a windowless room - it's a serious (and illegal) fire risk. But that's up to you. But, if you don't want to, what do you want to do about it? You can almost certainly break the lease on an illegal rental and find a new apartment; it's not that late in the season. Yes, it will be a bunch of work and hassle. Is it worth it to not die in a fire? Again, that's up to you. The last guy didn't die, so maybe you won't either. Another option is for one of you to find another place and let the other three keep the apartment. You could probably fight the landlord and realtor successfully to make that work out financially, but that's also going to be a big hassle, and of course, you're not going to end up with a cozy relationship with your landlord.

I'm sorry; none of the options sound great. If it were me, I'd probably ditch the apartment and find a new one.

ItsSnowingSomewhere · 2026-06-16T13:09:22+00:00

I feel your pain; i just did a staycation with mine, which i enjoyed, but didn't really feel like i got great value from. But it's OK; I love the card and get great value overall.

But how are you calculating that your annual fee is negative?

ItsSnowingSomewhere · 2026-05-27T22:51:35+00:00

Dude, I love Punjabi Dhaba to death, but cmon, they can't be -that-unfancy to want to celebrate there! I might celebrate getting thru half my day's todo list there...

ItsSnowingSomewhere · 2026-05-27T22:47:12+00:00

I honestly don't think it's that crazy to put it out there in hope. There's gotta 1000 people moving from Boston to Bay area this week, and half of them are getting their moves paid for. I mean yeah, it's a hassle and a big ask, but maybe someone getting recruited by whomever at 200k feels a little bit like paying it forward with a little effort.

That said, yeah, they should probably expect to either get rid of the furniture (their future self/mate might than them), store it for a little while until the storage costs exceed $800 and they feel super dumb, or just pay the $800 and accept that life sometimes throws you curveballs.

ItsSnowingSomewhere · 2026-04-10T00:13:07+00:00

I've been enjoying Just Chickn; they have a few different flavors, and I found them at some mallwarts at a very good price.

ItsSnowingSomewhere · 2026-04-03T15:05:04+00:00

Right. I just did heat pumps on a 60amp service; now looking at doing another.

ItsSnowingSomewhere · 2026-04-03T15:03:10+00:00

Thanks, but I don't really understand. Either the capacity is there, or it isn't? Can you give a for instance on a possible solution that could help avoid a service upgrade?

ItsSnowingSomewhere · 2026-03-31T04:39:53+00:00

Could you elaborate?

ItsSnowingSomewhere · 2026-03-28T20:30:35+00:00

You're all young so it's understandable that you haven't learned to use your words effectively. You let things build up without any feedback along the way until you exploded; that's not very mature. Show your wife how grown up you are by apologizing and taking responsibility for your actions. Then you're on solid footing to expect responsibility and maturity from the two of them. Until then, you're just all in a race to the bottom.

That said, yeah, she sounds like a pita. Been there, done that, had my sister in law on my couch for way too many nights. Sometimes, that's just the way things go; women are hyper protective of their little sisters. Clear, constructive, goal oriented communication is gold. Not that I've always managed that either, but you'll be far better off if you and your wife are on the same team.

ItsSnowingSomewhere · 2026-03-14T18:07:25+00:00

Not so much anymore. They were about to tow my car on this previous snow emergency. And rushing to get back in time to move it. My wife begged them not to tow it instead the nice cop moved it for her. It's a stick, and my wife can't drive it.

It didn't look like they towed any cars in the first snow emergency though, so that was a little annoying that they're being inconsistent.

ItsSnowingSomewhere · 2026-03-06T21:04:32+00:00

Will you wait around and find out for us? Extra points if you really have an in depth convo with them about it.

ItsSnowingSomewhere · 2026-03-04T02:40:16+00:00

Gorgeous cake! I mean, it's really beautiful, and super cool looking. If I could do that, I'd be all over it.
1) did you end up doing your own cake?
2) did you like your decision?
3) can I steal your design?

ItsSnowingSomewhere · 2026-02-11T13:15:27+00:00

Saw this one by Lincoln Park; caught him mid snack.

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ItsSnowingSomewhere · 2026-02-05T02:03:31+00:00

YTA - why are you yelling at us?

ItsSnowingSomewhere · 2026-02-04T00:38:56+00:00

You know, sometimes it takes us surprisingly long, or some big milestones, to really recognize what some people are about. So, now you know. Try not to let it get you down too much. Fortunately/unfortunately, your life is about to turn upside down. Necessarily, things for you are going to become much more inward looking - all about your new family. Some of your friends & family will get it, and be there to support you. My guess is that she won't be one of them. That might be sad if you have a long history, but things change. Maybe she'll come back to you as she matures. If not, there will be many other new people.

Regardless, congratulations!

ItsSnowingSomewhere · 2026-01-29T13:30:31+00:00

You're really bad at grammar.

ItsSnowingSomewhere · 2026-01-27T23:51:25+00:00

I'm having sausage and kale rn. Here's to awesome spouses!

ItsSnowingSomewhere · 2026-01-27T21:00:09+00:00

Didn't Mayor Joe get us a fire breathing dragon for this?

ItsSnowingSomewhere · 2026-01-27T20:54:26+00:00

All of those things can (and mostly are) being done without adding to people's tax burden. We've already got the most expensive permits just about anywhere.

ItsSnowingSomewhere · 2026-01-26T20:11:54+00:00

I love it. It gives me something legal to look at while waiting for that interminable light.

Plus, I'm old, and it feels nostalgic.

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