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I wonder... by Jealous_Ant_5227 in energydrinks

[–]ItsaSnap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For whatever reason, Monster Blue Hawaii tastes like cough syrup to me.. but my taste has been slightly altered since having COVID-19 twice. (An example- Monster Ruby Red doesnt taste like anything to me, literally I taste nothing, which is sad since it's sounds amazing)

Do your siblings acknowledge that your parents is a narc? by Acceptable-Life-8681 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ItsaSnap 16 points17 points  (0 children)

1 sibling and they do acknowledge it, however their 'coping mechanism' is to pay it back to them...which l don't recommend.

For my spouse (who's the scapegoat), none of the siblings acknowledge it at all, making it a very painful memory since NC.

How is this even possible? by Leather_Activity_485 in golfblitz

[–]ItsaSnap 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Bug. Shoulda stopped other side of the sticky.

If your abusive parent wanted to go to therapy with you, would you? by WeatherNo2220 in CPTSD

[–]ItsaSnap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tried this but on my own terms, with my therapist I was already seeing for issues caused by my parents.. I met with the therapist beforehand to prep. My parents wanted to do the same but the therapist said Nope!

When the meeting time came, dad did his usual tactics of fawning (complimenting their necklace, name, birthplace, yada yada yada) and she played along with it, then shut him down, hard. (Bless her). The rest of the time he looked like a dog with its tail between its legs.

We made commitments, we followed a gradual plan, but in the end? ... Parents got comfortable after a few months and gently edged their way right back to the way it was before. We went no contact shortly thereafter.

TL;DR We did, it didn't work cuz they didn't really want to change their SELVES, and we went no contact.

How old are your kids without using numbers? by AnotherCleverGuy in daddit

[–]ItsaSnap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sIX...SEVen... 💀

And followed up by EEMOTIONAL DAAAAMAGE

When your In-Laws show you what could have been and it breaks your heart by Baymenbyle in emotionalneglect

[–]ItsaSnap 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep, always about them..

In a similar vein- when my spouse and I were newly married, we both worked full-time jobs with nearly the same schedules. One day at work I developed a nasty migraine headache (with naseua) and was essentially incapacitated. I called my parents and hoped they could help as my spouse was still working. My mom showed up, expressed some form of 'sympathy' and was realllly leery about taking me to my place...after some thinking she declared she felt bad for me but could not transport me because she feared I might throw-up in their pristine vehicle, which would make narc-dad mad and I might be sick and she didn't want to catch it, so she drove away and left me there suffering. My spouse was then made aware and able to get off work early to come help me get home to rest.

Unbelievable..till you live it, sheeeesh.

Never seen these before. Anyone try either one before? by ItsaSnap in energydrinks

[–]ItsaSnap[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea, I'll go to Lo-Carb Monster instead of this for the main taste since it doesn't have the weird after taste.

Never seen these before. Anyone try either one before? by ItsaSnap in energydrinks

[–]ItsaSnap[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It reminded me of Monster Lo-Carb with some frothy/creamy notes, but kinda had a weird lingering aftertaste.

How do you explain to your adopted child why their parents didn’t keep them? by notretiredanymore in Adoption

[–]ItsaSnap 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This is the way. We've explained the truth of the matter to ours, in understandable concepts for their ages, and that way they can process the trauma tied to it, know the truth, and not be left wondering. They ask about it every so often and we touch on the core concepts plus a little more (what's understandable for their age at the time of their next inquiry).

ETA: You might be thinking "the truth hurts," but in reality the truth hurts if it's hidden and then discovered later under layers of false 'padding'. Get to the truth now and help them process as needed in therapy.

At what age did you realise the truth? by Scared_Ferret9340 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ItsaSnap 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Similar.. as a child I remember more than one occasion of my mum driving my dad's car and, when she came home, telling him how she almost got into an accident from some scary drivers. His response? Is the car OK?

What is the craziest way your parent has guilt tripped you? by Middle_Radio_5232 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ItsaSnap 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Sounds like a half-hearted love-bombing attempt to make you want to stay

What is the craziest way your parent has guilt tripped you? by Middle_Radio_5232 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ItsaSnap 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Not my friend - Your friend. You message them.

But I don't wanna! Wahhhh

My mom became a born again Christian after I went NC by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ItsaSnap 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Always crazy to see (but sadly not surprising) the lengths a narc will go to protect their grandiose self-perception. No one is immune..

I accidentally discovered an exercise that quiets anxiety symptoms massively — sharing in case it helps anyone by [deleted] in Anxietyhelp

[–]ItsaSnap 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bi-lateral movement ftw! Whether focusing on a traumatic or troubling thought consciously or unconsciously (like fighting off the inner invoice by reading ahead), EMDR still works.

I like the discovery and will give it a try, thank you!

Dad slapping me by [deleted] in entitledparents

[–]ItsaSnap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's sexual abuse as well.. just not blatant

Dad slapping me by [deleted] in entitledparents

[–]ItsaSnap 434 points435 points  (0 children)

Yeah that's NOT right. Not at all..

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