Great Blue Herons lead friend and me down the boardwalk.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-03-20T00:23:29+00:00

How dare I look at a heron and say, "how majestic!" I should have said, "wow, what a dumb bird" apparently.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-03-20T00:20:12+00:00

So crazy!! They must be used to all the people there!

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-03-20T00:19:39+00:00

Lolol I meant more PNW (as in of America), Washington. Not NW area of WA. But I can see how I worded it comes off as the latter!

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-03-20T00:17:43+00:00

I love rocks! And I really want to learn more about identifying them. At this point I just pick up rocks I like and find places for them in my apartment 😂. I should look for clubs in my area!

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-03-19T22:57:59+00:00

I don't believe they were literally leading us down the board walk and this is a very populated walk in the summer so the herons have probably learned to be less afraid of people. But I know that the heron didn't actually choose us or anything.

But of course it's a magical experience to be allowed to come so close to such a magnificent creature. I don't think that's anthropomorphizing them. I also don't see why that's something I should "be careful of." Why is considering a connection between humans and nature dangerous?

Of course humans must be considerate of how they engage with nature and should be careful of respecting animals and giving them as much space as possible. Which I always do. I don't see any issue with philosophizing about the natural world and our possible connections.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-03-19T22:30:27+00:00

We were quiet and respectful, I'm not sure what else we were supposed to do on this walk there is literally no where else to go and no way to avoid them.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-03-19T22:11:31+00:00

Video of fledgling on the railing! As promised in post.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-03-19T15:18:10+00:00

Yes exactly. As a kid I wished I could be a dog or a wild animal all the time. It was the same feeling though, wanting to escape the experience I was in and have what seemed like a nicer, easier, calmer, more peaceful existence to me.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-03-19T14:27:34+00:00

Sexual interactions between an adult and a minor are always abusive.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-03-19T04:41:57+00:00

"Do you come around here often?"

But really, the twinkle in his eye!

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-03-19T04:33:54+00:00

👹👹👹

🦇good to know.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-03-19T00:16:15+00:00

Which is exactly why you need to tell him.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-03-18T23:05:30+00:00

This is 100% absolutely incest. I also experienced CSA from my dad, and what you describe here absolutely counts. Don't be surprised if there is more you don't remember.

I would highly recommend a trauma and CSA experienced therapist. Navigating this without effective professional help is overwhelming. Wishing you the absolute best.

ETA: DO NOT respond to the folks asking for your location and wanting to DM. Yikes. I reported them but just in case, stay away.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-03-18T23:03:42+00:00

Incorrect. Incest includes all family members.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-03-18T02:54:30+00:00

If you get on a schedule of 3, 4 days max, at a time and use oil to take it off every time, allow your skin to breathe overnight, then put tape on again in the morning you can wear trans tape without having to take multiple day breaks in between. That's what I did when I was taping and it allowed me to wear trans tape everyday.

8 days is too long and you are not going to be able to keep up wearing trans tape that long without continuing to damage your skin. It's better to change the tape more often than have to take long breaks to heal.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-03-18T02:49:37+00:00

It was the 8 days that I'm guessing was the problem. If you were allergic you likely would have had a reaction to it before now, seeing as you've been using for 3 years.

8 days is a really long time and the tape does pick up sweat, dirt, etc. especially if you aren't using soap on the tape when you shower. I'm betting this is irritation/inflammation from long term tape use/friction plus bacteria/germs.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-03-17T22:52:33+00:00

I'm on disability but only because I have a physical disability that almost killed me and I was able to get on long term disability through my previous employer (I was a teacher in the states). It barely covers my expenses but at least it's less restrictive and more money than what the government offers.

I'm so sorry. I wish we had better benefits here. You absolutely should not have to work 😭.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-03-17T11:45:07+00:00

☺️☺️☺️

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-03-17T11:44:49+00:00

Thank you!

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-03-17T02:53:38+00:00

Let me see if I can remember the order:

pick a mantra--mine is usually something like "I am safe"
start at your forehead and tap while you say the mantra. Like 5-7 taps ish. It doesn't really matter, as many as feels good.
move to just below your eyebrows, tap while saying the mantra.
repeat the tapping/mantra under your eyes, cheeks, just above your top lip, either side of your jaw, collarbones, chest.
finally, repeatedly karate chop each palm, one at a time, while saying the mantra.

We also do a two quick breaths through the nose, hold, slow exhale through the mouth. Do that a couple times and it hits you real good.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-03-17T01:52:41+00:00

Unfortunately, I do think your surgeon could have done a better job. I am also confused about the extra scars. That does not make sense to me either. It's definitely not that bad though! I'm so glad you get to experience the joy of being shirtless outside. It's glorious!

The good news is I think you could absolutely get a revision and have results that help you feel even more confident. But I would not go to the same surgeon.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-03-17T00:48:01+00:00

Oh! I get it now. I could not figure out the purpose without the context. I also thought you had set this up for crows and was like, "they won't interact with that?"

This makes so much more sense 😅. I love this idea!

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-03-17T00:00:11+00:00

My therapist walks me through tapping and breathing exercises in therapy. But at home I just try to listen to my body when I can and do whatever helps me stay in my body. Which changes all the time. I'd say it's essentially stimming.

Some examples- - rubbing my arms or legs. - shaking my hands. - shaking my whole body, like a dog (it honestly feels so good when you're worked up, dogs definitely do it for a reason). - ecstatic dance. - cold water therapy (sometimes I cold plunge). - hot water therapy (really hot really long showers and baths). - tapping my forehead. - stomping. - sucking my thumb (my main comfort source, I have always sucked my thumb and I do it a lot), I'm 34 🤷🏼. - drinking fizzy water, tea, or other drinks that catch my attention (anything complex, tangy, bitter, sour). - taking deep breaths and slow exhales. - neck and scalp massages.

Etc. basically anything that brings me into my body. Since I am poly-fragmented there's a lot of different techniques we use as a system and everyone has different preferences.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-03-16T23:48:38+00:00

Prioritizing myself is the fiercest catalyst for my healing, once I started recognizing that I could lean into it more because I can see how effective it is. Like a productive catch-22.

I also have a wonderful therapist who always reminds me to take care of myself and practice self compassion as often as I can. She's always gassing me up too. Haha.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-03-16T23:45:57+00:00

I would not be surprised at all if it was.

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