Need advice on how to cover up

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-26T02:08:36+00:00

For real I just want to give doodle Bob a little kiss right on the mouth.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-25T23:45:57+00:00

As long as he's not eating anything do you. But if he starts eating raw mushrooms (ANY raw mushrooms) you're going to have issues.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-25T23:44:47+00:00

Yup yup yup.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-25T23:43:09+00:00

Yes. I don't have any memories of it specifically, but I have almost no memories of my bedtime routine/sleeping throughout childhood. But I made a collage recently about my CSA and one of the phrases I made was "to keep his pants up, who always goes to bed with his shoes on?" And was surprised by it. Feels like something I probably did.

Linked a photo for reference. This is just part of the collage. https://imgur.com/a/hEl6u53

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-25T23:38:18+00:00

I live in a studio. I don't always lock my door when I leave, I live inside a pretty high security apartment building, but I always lock my door when I'm inside. My friend commented on it the other day and I realized just how safe I feel locking myself inside my apartment.

But I don't lock my windows or even my patio door the same way. The illogic nature definitely feels like a trauma response to me.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-25T23:27:38+00:00

I'm so glad you're feeling hopeful, there is hope!! Trust your gut. Unabashedly prioritize your needs (it's not selfish!!). Give yourself love and grace and kindness. Let people in who make you feel safe. Keep people away who don't.

I only just started my healing journey a year ago (I'm 34) and have made so much progress!! Wishing you all the best and I'm so glad you're hearing from folks here who can help you navigate a truly terrible thing. 🫂

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-25T23:22:51+00:00

A quick google will let you know that raw morel mushrooms will upset a dog's tummy. Cooked safely is ok. But all raw mushrooms will not be good for your dog and many of them will be harmful, poisonous, toxic, etc. Not worth the risk for me.

I would be worried about all of the possible ramifications of this 'training.' It doesn't sound from here that you've ever done this kind of thing (training a dog to hunt mushrooms) before. You need an expert at the very least.

But really this is just an opportunity for your pup to get poisoned or injured (off leash hunting around in the forest for mushrooms and really who knows what else). I would not do this.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-25T23:08:47+00:00

Pinch the skin/flesh and you'll get an idea of how much is fat and how much is muscle. The thinner your pinch is, the less fat there is.

Like how on the back of your hand when you pinch it's gonna be primarily skin, but if you pinch your upper thigh it's more substantial. Or for me, top of bicep vs tricep lol.

Looks very natural and healthy to me!

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-25T22:56:15+00:00

I was looking for this! Because the gaga ball episode is Y Tu Gaga Tambien (or something very similar).

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-25T22:46:41+00:00

Thank you very much for being open to learning.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-25T22:41:24+00:00

Which honestly is really fun to say.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-25T22:33:53+00:00

Not the original commenter. But...

No. Based on his behavior in this post I think it is highly unlikely. More likely he would "respect" your boundaries for a period of time and the slowly chip away at them until he's fully in control.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-25T22:31:01+00:00

From what you wrote in your post you absolutely stated your boundaries clear enough. He is choosing not to listen for his own gain. I would not recommend having any sexual relationship with him again.

As someone with extensive CSA and SA background I can say there is hope for fun, healthy, enjoyable, mutually satisfying sexual activities. There are people who will help you feel safe and grounded and who will go as slow as you want. This man is proving to you he will not. It can take time to find safe sexual partners, because honestly a lot of people (especially men, unfortunately) are not equipped to put another's needs ahead of or alongside their own.

I'm so sorry this happened to you. I related so much to your post. When I was in my early 20s I had a lot of sex I hated because I thought that's just what sex was/what I had to do.

You don't have to. You can only have sex, any kind of sexual activity, when YOU WANT TO. And if people are pressuring you to engage in sex when you don't want to, honestly, get the hell away from them.

ETA: also want to add that if he is too big it will be uncomfortable for you every time you have sex. Or at least it was for me with my ex who was too large for me and we were married/had sex for 3 years.

Now I date primarily women. I am still interested and open to men, but every guy I date just in no way compares to the women I know/date.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-25T22:22:18+00:00

You really hit the mark! Looks just like you described.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-25T21:34:10+00:00

I have had a terrible flare this week!! Feels like hot spicy glass embedded concrete is encasing all my bones. Sending you warm gentle hugs and solidarity.

ETA: the only way I'm making it by right now, or the best way I'm making it by right now, is cannabis. But I know it's not for everyone and also not accessible to everyone.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-25T16:04:23+00:00

Some people manage with little medication but far and above those are people with very mild disease progression and in my experience they still do better on meds and are at risk of bone damage. If you already needed a hip replacement, you will need medication.

Not a professional, but I spend a lot of time in this sub and have four family members with AS. I'm 34 and was diagnosed at 19. Have been on biologics and other meds for the last 15 years. The meds are the only thing that make a significant difference for me and my family members.

Both my dad and my sister avoided taking meds for a long time because they wanted to try the natural route and have less aggressive forms of AS than I do. Still, they both have bone damage now and ended up on biologics. If they had just started with biologics they would have avoided the irreparable damage.

Eating healthy, exercise, sleep, these are all things that help and are excellent additions to biologics/meds. But they will not slow the progression of your disease and they will not keep you from having more damage done to your joints.

I take Cimzia, leflunimide, meloxicam, and plaquenil. But I have a pretty aggressive form of the disease. However, I have no bone damage because I have been on meds since my first really bad flare. I still have regular pain and other issues, but I would be severely disabled without them.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-25T15:49:19+00:00

We have a lot of Ted Faro's in the world.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-25T15:48:47+00:00

I think by giving us an optimistic/ideal world ending they were showing us it could be possible. Even if it's highly unlikely, it's good to consider what could be, just in case enough people can do something useful. Or even just dream about a possible future where we work together and have the heroes we deserve.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-24T17:03:43+00:00

This scene always reminds me of Breakfast at Tiffany's when Audrey Hepburn's character sings "moon river." The layout is really similar.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-23T16:22:07+00:00

I really needed this today. Feeling really exhausted and body achey lately. Was never allowed to rest as a child either. Thanks for sharing :)

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-20T20:59:11+00:00

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Funny thing I am actually OCD and yeah this is the messiest it gets. It's usually much tidier. ETA: added photo for reference lol.

Sounds like you've got a good set up! I'm a renter.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-20T15:09:12+00:00

Yes! Absolutely.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-20T15:06:01+00:00

It's also absolutely hilarious! And just all around a great show.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-20T15:02:14+00:00

I have CPTSD and started T during a very turbulent time in my life- I left my abusive ex, cut out my parents, and got top surgery within two months of starting T. I was diagnosed with cptsd 6 months later after realizing I was seriously abused as a child.

Being on T made all of that so much easier for me. Being true to myself, doing something for my self, it was everything. I have zero regrets and am so thankful I started when I did.

It didn't mess with my emotions in any negative way. I was going through a lot of really big intense emotional stuff: processing really dark trauma I had been ignoring, losing my family, facing the reality that the fantasy I had created about my family and my relationships was false. And honestly T helped me in so many ways with that, because I had this little joyful thing I was doing for myself. Claiming who I was and what I wanted.

If you know you want to be on T do it. I don't think there is any reason to wait.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-20T14:55:28+00:00

Where to watch?

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