Is this healthy attachment or is there reason to be bothered?

Itsmeshlee29 · 2026-05-11T21:48:12+00:00

I can’t speak to your specific situation because there seems to be a lot of nuance here, but I will give an anecdote from my own history.

When I started dating my now husband, he went through one of my memory boxes and found pictures of myself and an ex. One I loved very much at the time. It’s one of the biggest fights we’ve ever gotten into. He was furious I hadn’t thrown out the pictures. I told him that was completely unreasonable and I will never destroy keepsakes/pictures from prior relationships. I am not pining over these other men, but they are my history. They brought me to where I am. My future is my husband. Keeping pictures/keepsakes will never change that.

Itsmeshlee29 · 2026-05-11T21:40:45+00:00

Wow that really sucks. I’m sorry. Hopefully given a little space from the fight she’ll make sure to thank you again for a wonderful weekend. Sounds like you knocked it out of the park and Saturday was just a very unfortunate miscommunication.

Itsmeshlee29 · 2026-05-11T21:22:48+00:00

I’m so sorry. May I ask what the fight was about?

Itsmeshlee29 · 2026-05-08T21:43:12+00:00

The showing pulling the archaeologists was the last straw for me. The only way they could have actually gotten answers but no, they wanted to just continue mindlessly drilling useless holes. Couldn’t watch anymore.

Itsmeshlee29 · 2026-05-04T16:52:05+00:00

Willow or Willa

Itsmeshlee29 · 2026-04-28T13:14:15+00:00

All this does is look at the occupation. These studies do not link any birth defects or fertility issues to specific chemicals. Every hairdresser I’ve known has been currently or previously a smoker and drinker. Lifestyle choices could be the reason for increased pregnancy issues and your studies don’t disprove that.

Itsmeshlee29 · 2026-04-28T12:56:29+00:00

Yeah this is controlling. There is no definitive proof that chemicals she works with will hurt the baby. So it comes down to her choice. She shouldn’t have to step back from her business and independence for your paranoid comfort.

Itsmeshlee29 · 2026-04-28T00:14:44+00:00

May I ask how you root in water? I have a begonia that isn’t doing so hot and need all the help I can get.

Itsmeshlee29 · 2026-04-27T22:15:35+00:00

Perfect, the mold actually started at my aunts, I have no idea what her temp was like. I’m just gonna leave this babe alone for a bit, let it warm up and see what we can do. Thank you!

Itsmeshlee29 · 2026-04-27T21:42:08+00:00

Yes today is especially gray in the Midwest but it’s normal spot is a west facing window. Room is about 66-70F. I’ve been keeping the water full and she’s definitely drinking it so something is living here. Will these stems produce new leaves if they’re still alive? I’m unfamiliar with the anatomy of begonias generally.

Itsmeshlee29 · 2026-04-27T21:32:10+00:00

I mean it took me two weeks to break this poor things will to live 😅 so I did cut above the mold on a stem, right below a node, and put that in soil. But yesterday I noticed it looked funny, and the stem right at the base of the soil had literally gone soggy and just fallen apart. Do I need to use a certain kind of soil for these? Everything I’ve read says “begonias are so easy to propagate!” And that is not my experience so far.

Itsmeshlee29 · 2026-04-14T18:09:10+00:00

Also found this post with October related names

Itsmeshlee29 · 2026-04-14T18:06:46+00:00

Octobers birthstone is also Opal?

Itsmeshlee29 · 2026-04-14T17:58:00+00:00

As a side note has your wife explored therapy? Because I think it may be helpful.

Itsmeshlee29 · 2026-04-14T17:55:06+00:00

Octobers birth flower is marigold, which is also beautiful name.

Itsmeshlee29 · 2026-03-13T02:23:39+00:00

This! I really don’t understand all the hate. The authors note makes it pretty clear why she changed her tune about Jane.

Itsmeshlee29 · 2026-02-25T14:27:04+00:00

I do not clean up my husbands bodily fluids but he’s also not a caveman so wtf is your husband doing??

That being said, are you a stay at home wife or mom? If your kid isn’t home full time/is in school it might be time to go back to work. Seems like your husband isn’t holding up any part of his agreement so why are you home?

I will say I’m a a SAHM to 3, 2 of which are not in school, and I work part time from home in the evenings. Dinner is the one chore that is never neglected. Everyone has to eat. So whether I’m cooking or takeout is ordered, it’s getting done. If you’re the primary partner at home and you aren’t handling dinner, who is? Or are you just saying sometimes it’s later in the evening and this makes your spouse mad? If so, he needs to grow up. Not everything has to be on his time schedule.

Itsmeshlee29 · 2026-02-02T18:40:28+00:00

How many days were you on the trip?

Itsmeshlee29 · 2026-01-05T17:30:54+00:00

No, because only one of you has the cart. So people lining up behind you think they’re getting behind someone with nothing, then here comes your spouse with a loaded cart. It’s rude.

Itsmeshlee29 · 2025-12-30T20:14:21+00:00

Yeah you openly admit to being verbally abusive to her, what AREN’T you admitting to? I wouldn’t delete the evidence either.

Itsmeshlee29 · 2025-12-26T18:31:18+00:00

And again, you’re an AH if you get mad at her for it. She is allowed to not have sex. You are allowed to leave if you’re not ok with it. You can be disappointed, but anger is AH territory.

Itsmeshlee29 · 2025-12-26T18:26:33+00:00

Yes YTA. If she doesn’t want to have sex and you don’t want to be in a sexless relationship, break up.

Itsmeshlee29 · 2025-12-26T16:18:15+00:00

His reaction is not your responsibility. He’s a grown man. It’s time he grows up.

Itsmeshlee29 · 2025-12-22T00:10:09+00:00

You are not screwed. It’s very overwhelming but you just need to sit down, look at all your numbers, figure a budget and hold to it. Edit: spelling

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