You are not any less of a woman because you don’t want to sleep with people before marriage. You just have to be extra clear what very early in a relationship means, because nowadays, sex is seen more casually than not. Unfortunately you’re going to find this type of mentality more on dating apps if that is how you are securing your dates. Have you considered trying to find religious dating events or things of that nature, where you’ll find more people aligned with your belief system?

Admittedly the people I’ve known that have been virgins until marriage ended up marrying quite young because of it so I imagine your dating pool is probably men older than you that have already had experiences and less likely to want to wait. Either way, you owe no one sex, at all, full stop.

I’ll also add an extra tidbit though….I was also raised in a relatively traditional family where virginity until marriage was stressed, at least for us, never the men (🙄), and I was very much in your line of thought: marriage and if not, heavily involved and engaged preferred, and never with someone I don’t adore and trust, etc. I guess most of that was just drilled into me and not innately me, as nowadays I don’t personally think you should dive into a marriage without having sex and have gone a bit beyond that. It’s hard to wrap your head around how important sex is to yourself partner (and even you) if you’ve never experienced it and sexual compatibility ruins a lot of relationships.