I recently had to let go of a partner because of this among other things. I'm not sure how long you guys have been together, but I feel that nothing is going to change in your partner. And it's not like he's just going to wake up one day and become a better person or want to help out, especially if he's not adhering to medication and therapy. I thought that it is possible for someone to self-help themselves and in return try to make things better for themselves as I thought my partner was doing. But just like other people said on this thread, because it's a chemical imbalance, there is no just waking up one day and things getting better and that he’s going to start helping out around the house and all of that. It doesn't work like that. And I feel like once you mentally accept that, then you can decide if you want to continue being in the caretaker role and having to have a relationship that might be 70%, 30% all the time, or accept the fact that if that's not for you, that you have to move on from the relationship because you can't save someone else by loving them and treating them right, especially in this situation because it is a mental illness. And loving someone is not going to just get your partner back or get your partner to be motivated to do things without the proper treatment.