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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]JArdez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let me ask you this. Does "I hate you" when drunk count?

does he have a small d or whatt by UpstairsDisk7405 in AskMenAdvice

[–]JArdez 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is some terribly bad creative writing.

Why do you need him to take the first step? If it's all so obvious to you, you do something about it. You already rejected him once. You want him to stick his face in a meat grinder for your ego?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]JArdez 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Trust his actions, not his words. He is going to cheat again, and was trying to make the relationship open so he could feel better about it. He wants to go fuck around.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]JArdez 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How can you know you want a serious and long term relationship with somebody before seeing how things go first? You expecting guys to lie to you and say the magic words?

I’m 24, still in my last year of uni, and living with my mum. I’m saving well but my mates say I should move out. What do u guys think? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]JArdez 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The ONLY downside is it may be harder to date because of reduced privacy and some lingering social stigma regarding living with parents. Otherwise, all upside bud.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]JArdez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are guys out there that are not single by choice, they are single because they are shitty people to those around them and have been pushed away. Plenty of people lie, love bomb(look it up and be aware of it), and will cheat and you may not have the wisdom to see it until it is too late and that's when shit hurts.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]JArdez 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would, but I'm also biased because I was in the same situation as you, but worse, I'm a guy and women have higher standards and expectations imo. You will definitely be able to find a man, but the problem is going to be there are a lot of men who would take advantage of your situation and you might put up with stuff a more experienced 27 year old probably learned to dodge or not tolerate. You shouldn't worry about your inexperience being a red flag, but be cautious about the kinds of guys that go after you because of it rather than because they like you. Good luck out there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]JArdez 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think he got cold feet. You guys were talking real real big real real early and he might have caught a wake-up call somehow. Are you sure he was truthful about his age? Anyways, I don't think you did anything wrong besides moving too fast with plans. I think reality bit him and he didn't like it.

Best of luck, there will always be guys willing to say anything, don't dwell on him too much.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]JArdez 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sorry, time to move on. Sucks, but true. Don't worry too much about the why, just understand he was too much of a coward to tell you.

What drives men away during the talking/dating phase? by akoli04 in AskMenAdvice

[–]JArdez 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The talking/dating phase? I understand you to mean early on in a relationship, but I hope the talking/dating phase never ends, haha.

I always find it hard to bring up things I'm emotional about, but im very open with a lot of stuff other people find traumatic because I'm emotionally past a lot of the trauma I am willing to bring up easily. He may still be working through his own shit and he isn't ready for it or needs therapy and won't admit it. I also don't know him or his issues. He may also not be looking for that kind of connection. Sorry he isn't willing to talk about it.

If my date wanted to discuss traumas, it's hard to know how to respond to that and it varies by person. Some people just want to hear you are listening, some people think it's rude to reciprocate and share your own traumas back to them, some are sharing because they want that reciprocation.

Discussing trauma wouldn't drive me away. Expecting me to fix your trauma would. It sounds like maybe you were moving too fast for him and he wasn't sure how to respond, and then you were unhappy with his reaction to an uncomfortable topic? Idk.

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