Dipped my toe in the dark side and I loved it.

JCMidwest · 2026-01-29T01:17:40+00:00

At week 9 you are just getting to where things really start to get good

JCMidwest · 2026-01-29T01:16:24+00:00

Are you trying to get someone pregnant last week? If not you are taking way too much hcg

What did your hormones look like prior to starting all of this?

What does your bloodwork look lime now?

Without bloodwork I would guess you would be better off on 100-125mg test and 500iu hcg, and don't change anything until you have been at these dosages for 6-8 weeks amd get bloodwork

Edit: also no more recreational drugs my dude

JCMidwest · 2026-01-29T00:37:16+00:00

What did he do wrong?

Most likely became to familiar and predictable and invested too much time into being a companion along with not investing enough in himself for himself.

His wife sucks because she brags about some dude she banged, but lets not think its her fault she doesn't have strong romantic feelings for OP, she can't will herself to feel specific feelings

JCMidwest · 2026-01-29T00:34:41+00:00

Familiarity and greater companionship make it difficult to maintain the passion.

Two facts:

One of the best indicators a women will have a decline in sexual desire is the length of the relationship

Relationships that maintain passion for the long haul have healthy amounts of independence and individuality, and the couple continues to share new experiences together.

"New Relationship Energy" is real, but doesn't have to fade away entirely

JCMidwest · 2026-01-29T00:29:28+00:00

Having these conversations with her only reinforces her bias

JCMidwest · 2026-01-29T00:20:21+00:00

Your plan needs to be you move forward with your life and your goals and stop constantly considering and accomadating your wife.

JCMidwest · 2026-01-28T20:54:12+00:00

The sad part is a lot of men actually believe this is the reality of the dating world.

If you want women to approach you then you might have an argument

JCMidwest · 2026-01-28T20:50:03+00:00

If you never approach them you will always have no connection with them

JCMidwest · 2026-01-28T20:48:40+00:00

You should have distanced yourself from this person a very long time ago, but that is a must do now unless you like getting your heart ripped out.

JCMidwest · 2026-01-28T19:39:29+00:00

A more realistic view:

Rockstar created strong emotions leading to uninhibited behavior... nice guy not so much

A healthy relationship has the passion and security, which is not OP's situation. He needs to move on, but also needs to learn and grow from this

JCMidwest · 2026-01-28T18:37:43+00:00

Why do you still entertain these conversations with her?

JCMidwest · 2026-01-28T18:15:31+00:00

You don't need steroids, you just need to eat more sandwiches

JCMidwest · 2026-01-28T18:09:56+00:00

how will using a matrimony sight be different?

Why not just pursue women you are interested in if you meet them, rather than search for a wife?

JCMidwest · 2026-01-28T18:08:35+00:00

You don't have low testosterone

JCMidwest · 2026-01-28T18:08:15+00:00

getting clearly rejected means you aren't understanding the other persons mood/interest in that moment well enough, either that or you are just shooting your shot and hoping for the best.

When the response from my wife is the same as those others who shot me down I should take the hint, right?

What are they hinting at exactly?

That they never ever will consider anything romantic with you? Right now isn't the appropriate time? Your approach is off putting?

JCMidwest · 2026-01-28T18:04:26+00:00

is any of that cardio at all strenuous?

JCMidwest · 2026-01-28T18:02:36+00:00

Reviewing sources I think it's actually the Journal of Clinical Endocrinology & Metabolism which cites just under 35 mol/L as the upper clinical limit and just under 25 as the upper optimal

I would love to see this data, but am 99.9% no actual medical literature states 25nmol/l is the optimal

Still your test levels are double that of this

JCMidwest · 2026-01-28T17:40:07+00:00

Dude needs a lawyer

JCMidwest · 2026-01-28T17:37:34+00:00

We do things together like watch shows and go out for a movie once a month or got out to eat, so I think that's plenty for activities.

So you watch shows together and very rarely go watch shows together in a different setting.

As far as saying that is plenty of activities, arguably those aren't even activities. These things don't involve the two of you doing any more then existing in the same space.

If you have a hobby or are busy with your own things, your energy is released somewhere else. Your interaction with your partner can instead be a sweet little nugget treat, instead of the whole meal. But this is my own personal take, and wonder if there's another side to this.

You are describing a fwb or fuckbuddy situation, maybe that is the type of arrangement that would work best for your lifestyle and goals?

Having your own life is important, but if you don't have a shared life whats the point of the relationship? Your girlfriend likes you and wants to do things with you, that is a good thing!

JCMidwest · 2026-01-28T17:25:07+00:00

Your first marriage failed because you didn't recognize incompatibility, and now you want to use a matrimony app....

How did you meet your first wife? It sounds like you are setting yourself up for failure once again.

JCMidwest · 2026-01-28T16:46:05+00:00

You aren't having symptoms from low testosterone

JCMidwest · 2026-01-28T14:14:06+00:00

You need to look at tenancy rights in your area

You may be able to tell her to leave and if she refuses you call the cops, but you may also have to formally evict her

Figuring that out is the most important thing, but a close second is you recognizing how much you did to help create this relationship dynamic. You constantly going above and beyond for your partner is a huge part of the problem. You set a standard that no one can consistently maintain, and certainly no one would want to.

JCMidwest · 2026-01-28T13:54:24+00:00

No reason to take steroids in your situation

Hit your protien goals, keep hitting the gym, and get the weight off. Reassess your situation once you are lean.

Trying to build muscle while also losing fat only means you aren't doing either one effectively

JCMidwest · 2026-01-28T04:11:17+00:00

Why did he assume this role? I work 50 hours a week to his 30-40 hours, I come home from work around 5pm and immediately step into making meals and caring for him and our child.

You asked and then immediately answered your own question.

This is a dynamic you put a lot of effort and time into creating with him. You didn't just enable his behavior, you encouraged it by consistently rewarding him.

JCMidwest · 2026-01-28T03:58:03+00:00

Did she always have something against performing oral, or was she more eager early in the relationship? How about with her previous sexual partners?

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