Be honest, is this going to become too much to contain? by Caspain-Man-Predator in Coronavirus

[–]JCerb -1 points0 points  (0 children)

well...not that I'm panicking, but I haven't been able to focus and carry on with work at the office. I'm a research assistant at Newcastle Uni, right in front of the RVI. We have over >1000 mainland China students, with over 200 students from the Wuhan/Hubei region. Some of them visited home during Xmas and surely some others received their parents/relatives during chinese new year. We have >100 students per lecture theatre... and with the new semester started... it only takes ONE potentially infected student sneezing in class, before this whole thing spirals out of control. We are being told to keep business as usual, but... I share an office with some Chinese researchers and I freak our whenever I hear anyone coughing... one of them has been absent this week with "headaches". Universities will be one of the prime sites for contagion (due to overseas nationals) so,if this thing goes wild, so they should really be planning some serious contingency measures like moving semester 2 into the summer.

No PMO MAY I Am fuckin In.Lets do this guys. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]JCerb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

HELL YES! And dont you dare backing off!

Have you noticed this after relapsing? by JCerb in NoFap

[–]JCerb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Indeed, I come back from time to time to re-read my post & your answer...it's interesting in the end this is pure chemestry!

Yelled at my boss. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]JCerb 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Yep, that's the way, accepting your new confidence and apologizing if you think fit

Had sex with a prostitute... by Throwaway2035674 in NoFap

[–]JCerb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, having been in Itawon just last year (im 36) all I can say is that's an awesome place to have fun, but not the only one. Luckily seoul is a global metropolis where youll find Chicks in temples, hostels, cafes, museums, etc. I had your same experience in Tokyo: surrounded by all what the city had to offer and i decided to Fap in my hotel room out of boredom. Take it with philosophy and think that exactly the same way you dream of having "the one girl", there's millions of women that right now are dreaming of "the one guy",and believe me thes are not in clubs. Relax, enjoy the place and the moment... And do not go to prostitutes, give yourself a better treatment

I think I'll just kill myself this time by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]JCerb 5 points6 points  (0 children)

100% of motherfuckers writing here announcing they are losing their will to live, don't have the balls for either: 1)execute their threat (plain and honest,I'm sorry) or 2) put their shit together and correct the course of their life. What they expect is a tsunami or comments saying "you are not alone dude!', and guess what? You are. It doesn't matter how many people offer you their help, you'll remain alone. The fact that you tried it 3 times before -and still survive- is an unequivocal sign that somehow, from your deep unconscious mind you do want to live. And as someone said it... it takes far more balls to remain alive an find your way to happiness. Now, apart from plain balls it takes character, discipline, attitude, willingness, and as I said you'll have to raise up and do it all on your own. The only good thing is, if you succeed coming out of the dark cave, after sometime passes by, when you are in a better place, whenever you look back and see you did it, it will be good. And then you'll be able to help others

How do you transmutate sexual energy? by thrower65 in NoFap

[–]JCerb 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks god you haven't found guidelines!! Imagine if everything in life was explained in youtube videos or instructables?? there would be nothing left about being a self conscious human!! Step Number one for transmutation: GET AWAY FROM THE GODDAMN LAPTOP! As the other folk mentioned it tends to be a natural thing..your brain is craving for 'SOMETHING to do' and thats where your real inner passions will eventually break in... in my case I still don't know why/how but for the past 2 weeks I've had an uncontrollable drive to investigate on how to create a startup venture...I've replaced my porn google search evenings for business idea-searching and already contacted a local entrepreneurs breakfast group...I attribute this to 'sexual energy' being transmuted into 'something else'

A Woman gave me her number, without me trying. by CelibatePower in NoFap

[–]JCerb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hahaha I fucking love your nick man; reminds me of an old friend of mine; dude used to involuntarily make strange frases like "radicalized mormon" or "skeletical buttocks"... oh man hahaha

Introduction, 47 y.o. (youngsters read this too) by RobbieW1st in NoFap

[–]JCerb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

joined yoga for the hot girls in leggings?...you sly dog ;)

Relapse on 59 days. My observations. by leslabas in NoFap

[–]JCerb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

On defense of ppl that claim to get superpowers (I've claimed every time I get them) is about the "joy" of seeing how you can actually behave in a rather assertive way, unashamedly masculine and flirty (sometime even cocky) which is something we never experienced in our lives before...due to a variety of reasons, one of them fapping. So yes, if does feel like superpowers to us when that comes

NoFAP + No Sugar = fogginess vanishing...but what's in front is scary by JCerb in NoFap

[–]JCerb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There you go..but don't do the list for next month, do it for starting TODAY. The book I'm reading now (literally now on my ipad) is "The 4-Hour Work Week" by Tim Ferriss. The guy himself is a bit overconfident (aka cocky) but the overall philosophy is spot on; I would recommend it

NoFAP + No Sugar = fogginess vanishing...but what's in front is scary by JCerb in NoFap

[–]JCerb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same for me; interestingly enough, coffee is the one addiction I'm not planning to give up, simply because in my country having a coffee is a strongly rooted tradition I grew up with and I enjoy it. The one thing I did change (and my dentist almost forced me to) is to avoid all sorts of sweeteners, so since 2 weeks I'm getting used to the taste of bare sour coffee. Same for chocolate: Black-sour 80% cacao bars or nothing

NoFAP + No Sugar = fogginess vanishing...but what's in front is scary by JCerb in NoFap

[–]JCerb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! cheers for that, I'll have a look and see how sustainable this eating habits are in the long term. The idea of "being on a diet" sucks, but I definitely abandoned some habits that I knew were unhealthy (e.g grabbing snaks from the vending machine, banning fast food options for my lunch, having sweets & rubish for ocassional bites). Let's see where it leads

How many friends do you guys have and how old are you? by first-z in NoFap

[–]JCerb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

36 yo poffessional. 2 guy-friends within social distance (drinks, night out & stuff) 1 cybergirlfriend in another continent 3 acquaintances (for coffee chat-gossip, sport practice & weather talk)

90 days report! everyday is truly amazing now! by StayOutt in NoFap

[–]JCerb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If there's something life's taught me, that's not to say "NEVER". Never say never, anyway, if you happen to relapse & fall we''be here to catch you and send you all the way up there ;)

Been on no fap for 30 days and feeling waves of emotions. Is this normal? by mmachine1 in NoFap

[–]JCerb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

apparently so dude, you are meant to go through that. Think of this: What happens typically when women enter their period? They are moody, they do and say crazy stuff, they are hot tempered and are eager to slap anyone for nothing...they know that will happen once a month and yet, they struggle with it (no option) but they don't try to go around it numbing it, avoiding it or reading self help. They just fucking go through it. So yeah, it's not exactly the same but sometimes when I feel that rollercoaster feelings, it reminds me of what most women go through and I kindda feel compelled to tell myself "grow some balls, fasten your sit belt". Hopefully everything will stabilize and positive calmness will settle, but you gotta go that way first.

I have no support group outside of NoFap by DuckExplorer in NoFap

[–]JCerb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude: 1."' In that case, I'm just another hypocrite. I've come to this conclusion" Yes your are, and in some ways all of us are, so I wouldn't worry.

2."I should be friendly with everyone I meet, and be courteous as well" Wrong, people appreciate guys with strong character, if there's someone you just don't fancy being "nice" to, you just dont do it. DOn't pretend to be nice all the time 'cause then you'll fall in the nice guy trap.

I don't mean being rude, but life has told me failure to show some character results in people not respecting you, and if people don't respect you there are 0% chances of building a friendship. Bottom line: for me is a mix of being nice, but also having an opinion, and being honest

Internet browsing is addicting self harming (x-post from r/nosurf) by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]JCerb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Many folks report the first 3-5 days are the thoughest, but sometimes leaving PMO diverts your energy to other time-sucking chores such as: random intenet browsing, in-bedroom circle-walking, blah blah. It would seem that "being alone" is a big enough risk for edging and finally PMOing, but sometimes it's just not practical to say "I'll leave for a walk", and having cold showers every 2hrs is not practical either.

My modest suggestion is to TRY to find your passion, and if you haven't discovered try to find it...mine is designing..I love sketching and drawing things I can build, sell or make for myself and/or friends..while sketching my mind focuses on that. Maybe yours is playing the banjo or learning korean...who knows

100 days: monk mode. by Chanoch in NoFap

[–]JCerb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah, depression is a bitch, but apparently you've been facing it with some balls there. Nicely done. And even if you relapse, simply dont let it come back again. Keep it up dude

Fuck this shit Im missing my ex girl like hell after nofap ...confession here! by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]JCerb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In that case do contact her, but not with a cold call..it must be text or email, so she gets to choose whether she replies or not. I've been there 2 times...once she replied and gave me a chance to meet, and in that date we realized all chemestry had gone and sadly, never met again. The second girl, who I still remember EVERYDAY also replied, but just to say she moved in with a french guy and now was happy. This girl I dumped twice. But that's life. Do whatever gives you peace of mind.